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xX Tinkerbell Xx: Stilllll sick!
And now Chris is too
We moved my three kitties in last night and I'm settling in slowly. We're planning to get me moved out of my friend's spare room and into his place this week so I can stop paying rent there while living with him
It's been crazy how fast this is moving, but when you're sure, you're sure! It would totally be different if I had met him on the internet last week, but we've been orbiting each other's lives since 2011. I'm glad we didn't get together before now though, as many years as we could have had together, I don't think that wild man was ready for wifey material until now.
We're very much grounded in wanting a partner who we can work with, hustle with, and relax with. Allllll about that peaceful, quiet, little life. Similar goals of buying land and living a stable and secure life off the grid.
I've never been more in love, honestly, he treats me like precious gold and calls me his princess and is viciously making room for me in his life.
His house was a mess, because his ex abandoned everything and disappeared off to Mexico with a secret lover. It sounds like bad daytime tv, but it really happened to this poor guy.
We were passively talking about loading all her stuff up on a trailer and just bringing it to the dump... and later that night, his brother shows up with a trailer and truck and they empty out half of the packratted and gross room she was living in, in the first trailer load.
Boom. That quickly. I was blown away by how quickly he acted on it, and how CAPABLE he was of acting on it. I'm not used to having an equal when it comes to getting shit done and taken care of.
He decided to tough the cold out and go into work anyway today, especially because it's pretty hard to pass on sick germs while underneath a car, changing oil. There's wayy wayyyy less contact than I would have, doordashing FOOD all day while sneezing in the car.
So, my butt is still in bed. He has told me "It's your house. I provide the house, you make it a home for us." And I like that, the whole 50's housewife thing is my JAM and Imma martha stewart this place up and get dinner ready for him and the bong ready for when he walks in the door. Because he deserves as much love, affection and effort as he has been putting in
xX Tinkerbell Xx: I'm sickkkkk!!!
Perfect timing, NOT!
I haven't left his house since our first night together, with the exception of work and errands we run together. Lol, we've been totally inseparable 💞
So, we got FB Official and are talking about moving me in and making room for me, my 3 kitties and my things. And now! I'm sick!
He is doing such a good job taking care of me, medicine and making me "do the new thing" and use a nebulizer to help me breathe past the mucus and stuffy nose.
It is happening very fast but that's only because we've known each other for so long, and don't need to second guess intentions or feelings. But it sucks, to have this wonderful romance and be swept off my feet by an amazing man, only to catch a horrendous cold 4 days into it.
xX Tinkerbell Xx: He spent allllll night.... touching every single part of my mind, body and soul. Breaking down walls I didn't know were there... unprogramming me.
"I want you to be the sexy woman you are, not the dog you were trained to be."
He put me on a pillow, on my knees between his legs where he was sitting. I figured it was business time and tried to get started... and he stopped me, pulled me against his stomach and draped my arms over his thighs and on the arms of the chair.
I was thinking he was getting ready to do something crazy kinky.... he pulled out the lotion and got some in his hands, rubbed them together and warmed up the lotion... then started rubbing my back and telling me how beautiful and valuable I am. How he knows I've been mistreated and I don't have to be a mindless little dolly for him, that he wants the intimacy and emotion, the passion and truths of my heart...
I had to pull away before the tears started because I've never been held like that before. No one has ever adored me and valued me like that before.
It completely threw me off. I woke up happy and secure, blissful as I watched him walk around getting ready for work... I cried a little on the way home, I'm terrified. I'm going to fall for him, for real. Not just the butterflies and infatuation... but the realreal, soul wrenching, heart pounding, in love. And I haven't let anyone that far into me in almost 14 years.
This man..... I'm his.
xX Tinkerbell Xx: I said his house was cold the first night, so he had new pajamas waiting for me the next night. 💞
And they were my size. He can keep me, I've decided. 🥰
xX Tinkerbell Xx: Another one bites the dust
What is it about men and communication? Fuckin hell! Is it an allergy!?
Thankkkk you. Next. 😵💫😵💫😵💫
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xXSaneXx: That's why I don't bother with relationships. Sometimes it's better to be alone, no drama, you save money too by not having to spend it on someone who probably won't be around in a month or so
Sir Loin in reply to xXSaneXx: I'm in a happy relationship now after a lot of heartache. What we have isn't perfect but it is happy and my wife earns a lot more than I do so it's not costing me at all 😃
xX Tinkerbell Xx: Wow.... wow.... wow....
Who would have thought that the meanest looking giant in town would have the softest touch?
Just getting home from his house, I was supposed to be home much earlier but he woke up, took one look at me in his bed and called out of work. 🥵🥰
He brought me coffee in bed and gave me a foot massage, apparently he's been crushing on me foreverrrrr too. All the way back to 2011 when we first met.
So glad I took a chance on him. 💞
xX Tinkerbell Xx: And in a crazy development of my life going a FUCKING MACH TEN this damn week.
A guy who's always been around my mutual social scenes but never really connected with me.... just started chatting me up yesterday morning and I had an amazing day connecting and chatting with him alllll day. And after a nap and shower, I'm headed out for pizza with him.
Tbh, I've had a crush on him for a long long time but he totally looks mean af in a hot way and super unapproachable... usually already coupled... and we both just happen to be single rn.
If it doesn't work out, I can always just check it off my "If" list
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xX Tinkerbell Xx: Apparently the guys in the ambulance asked them if I was a girlscout, with the way I wrapped her wound and actually stopped the bleeding. guilty lol! I'm glad those red cross first aid courses finally paid off. I am officially adding "Grace Under Pressure" to my girlfriend resume. 👑
xX Tinkerbell Xx: Well... here we go for date #2 tomorrow night! This guy is getting further than the last one lol, we'll see how it plays out... 🤔🤔🤔
xX Tinkerbell Xx: Womp womp. He called me from work, explained that he's a manager on Black Friday and has to stay late at work. I understand how crazy customer service can be, and offered to reschedule. He jumped all over that and now our second date will be Sunday AT HIS PARENT'S HOUSE.
I... I think this guy might actually be pretty serious about me. Just got a intuitive feelin lmao bringing me home to the family on a Sunday. I'm equally excited and terrified. I need a new blouse...
xX Tinkerbell Xx: He tried to apologize and fix it but I was on a date he fucked around and found out 🤷♀️
xX Tinkerbell Xx: Well....
After the 20th time of being told that you cannot be trusted because of what an ex did, what do you do?
Do you sit there and let their past poison your combined future? Do you tell them they're self sabotaging? Do you set a boundary?
Yes, these are all healthy and valid responses, assuming you have some couth about it and are gentle with them.
What is not healthy is for him to invalidate your feelings by saying that you're "going off" ... it is not healthy for them to tell you that you're gaslighting them by refusing to allow them to project their past partner's issues onto you... it is not healthy for them to decide in a flash, that you're not good enough for them, because you set a boundary about how they're allowed to make you feel, and how they're not allowed to turn you, their prospective future partner, into a therapist who will carry their emotions for them.
So, what do we do?! We wipe those few, precious tears of disappointment and grief, for a love lost before it started, and you move on.
Glad I saw the switch before it got too serious.
Thank you, next.
xX Tinkerbell Xx: Well, the date went well, I've neverrrr had a goodnight kiss quite like that! Best one ever!
xX Tinkerbell Xx: Happy 3am!!!
Soooo glad I went to sleep early tonight. Currently, I'm at the ER with my roommate and her son (my godson) - he came home from a sleepover at nana's house with an ear ache and it got progressively and aggressively worse throughout the night. Poor little guy is in a lot of pain, I am betting it's an inner ear thing. Pray for him please, he is so tired and sore
xX Tinkerbell Xx: Thankfully the ER was extremely quiet, we got in and out pretty quickly, the doctor was super patient and kind to the boy, got him some antibiotics and fast acting ibuprofen. 20 minutes later he's smiling and asking for his mom's phone and wants food. I've never been so happy to hear an "I'm hungryyy" lol glad he's feeling better, his poor little cries were breakinnnn my heart!
xX Tinkerbell Xx: He's on the way to pick me up!!!
I'm so nervous and excited!!
(Yes my friend is grabbing his plate number and has his full name, I'll be safe)
Wish me luck!!
xX Tinkerbell Xx: I'm totally losing my mind with excitement! The guy I've been dating, when we matched, I thought he was just another fellow rockhound, he had all kinds of crystals in his profile photos.
He is way more into it than I thought!
He is sending me videos of crystals piled into every corner of his house, photos of him on mining trips, and photos of him at a faceting wheel, grinding and shaping stones he dug!
I am absolutely blind with excitement because he is going to introduce me to his mining partner and help me get an apprenticeship for lapidary training and as most of you know, this is something I have been saving and struggling to afford schooling for, for quite some time!
His long term dream is to own a mine, and my dream is to cut and facet stones and make jewelry for the rest of my life, idk how this could get any more aligned tbh
I am blown away, it's like the Universe finally cracked and said "Alright, you win, you've learned enough, here's your damn soul mate." 🙄
We have a date tomorrow, I can't wait to see him!
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xX Tinkerbell Xx in reply to wickedevilsmile: That's exactly the stuff I need, I have the machine, but I need/want sintered laps instead of glue on laps, and dobs/dobbing jig, all the glues and bottles of fine polishing grits, not to mention the acids and oh! A leather lap, biggoals 🤩🤩🤩 anywho, I appreciate the sentiment, I would dieeee if someone set me up like that.