tallblueeyedman Offline

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Trust

Trust. It’s a word that is used often in Wire…and in RL…but how many can define what real trust means.

Sparks… intangible chemistry… sometimes “magic”…sometimes fate…are what ignite a relationship…or a dynamic…and constant communication is its oxygen that turns it into an all-encompassing, consuming fire…

…but trust…”real trust”… is what sustains it…takes it to the “next level”…and seals the bond that makes who they are…regardless who they are...friends...lovers...soulmates…top and bottom…

…unconditional…complete.

Real trust is much more than simply believing that someone won't betray you…although that's a critical element. Real trust is having unquestionable faith in that what someone does…they do because it is the best thing for you…rather than the best thing for them

...and if there are doubts...then real trust hasn't occurred

Real trust should never be asked for nor should be given freely. It must be offered or earned over time…by repeated attention not indifference… by repeated acts not words…by repeated behavior not promises

There can be hick-ups...and this is where communications remains all important...not sweating the small things...establishing expectations and boundaries...understanding not assuming…

…and patience. When you say "you can tell me anything"...mean it. Make no judgments but don't hide how you feel either.

Yes…trust can be broken….intentionally or not…it can be taken advantage of… we are imperfect creatures…and life is not fair…

…but that’s a topic for another time

IMHO

Lupum_Griseo
Lupum_Griseo: Wise words brother.
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sarah_spirit
sarah_spirit: *smiles...* So very true...
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rascally
rascally: for me, trust is grounded in history - a proven track record that isn't perfect, but has a high consistency to it. until the that history is built, i'm running on good faith. imho, you can't trust at the start.
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Unique_Essence
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Fvck No
Fvck No: For me tall ( my godfather) trust with me is eared I don't give it away freely and u know this
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delightful_dina
delightful_dina: Mine has been broken and I feel so very lost in the situation sadly. They expect me to just get over it and move on in which I have tried but every corner I turn things make me have doubt. I try to explain myself and the fact they have done this not me and make them understand where I am coming from and it just does not seem to be helpful. I agree 100 percent with all of the above and thank you for sharing.
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anna60602
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