Scanningforlifeforms in reply to OmegasSilence: No no, the specific language is "oh you want both of those things? You get one and I'll get the other and we'll split it."
Which is why my best friend Jen will always be my one true love 😋
zz3n in reply to Scanningforlifeforms: This concept of a deliberate "love language" seems somehow a bit of an artifice; scripted? It would make me nervous and on edge trying to stay conscious of having to constantly think about ticking off those boxes….
Scanningforlifeforms in reply to zz3n: I can see it being helpful with two people who aren't good communicators. Sometimes labels and boxes help a person articulate.
But it's not a concept I subscribe to either. Granted my knowledge of it is random articles that have popped up here and there.
I know what makes me feel more loved, and I know what I do to make others feel my love for them, but I wouldn't be and to say what tidy category it fits in 🤷🏻♀️
SafariLife: Not to belabor a point that I think was belabored by someone responding to your post....but...lol...When you're with the right person, those kinds of things just come naturally, and you develop your own rituals and "love language." At that point, it's not artificial at all, it just springs naturally from the personalities in the relationship. : )
abeaulit: We speak to be heard and convey something we feel another should hear. It's an audible hand reaching out and can be, at times, a worded slap. The mere act in telling, be it in good spirit or malice, is an act. If we're around someone enough we can, at any time, forego all the words and communicate paragraphs with a single look. A lover's eye always speak.
Which is why my best friend Jen will always be my one true love 😋
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Physical Touch
I get, I think they could be important to people who are possibly not good at communication.
But I also think it would be exhausting to be in a relationship and proving to someone that I love them by "speaking their language". Or vice versa.
To each their own though, I would imagine most people are a healthy combination of these things.
But it's not a concept I subscribe to either. Granted my knowledge of it is random articles that have popped up here and there.
I know what makes me feel more loved, and I know what I do to make others feel my love for them, but I wouldn't be and to say what tidy category it fits in 🤷🏻♀️