Current stay at home mom of 2
Medical Assistant To Be
mmjones29: If you could take a minute and read this, and even if you couldn't donate, share it, I would appreciate it so much!
mmjones29: My husband is my best friend. I love him to death, love spending time with him. But gosh I'd love some girlfriends. Seems like they all slowly disappeared after I found out I was pregnant. Ugh. Guess you find out who your real friends are.
The Hamburgler: Why do you think that is? Different pages in their life and they feel they can't relate? Or it is that you can't participate in their activities so they don't invite? What am I missing?
mmjones29: My newest blog post, "Yeah, I'm a Woman"
The Hamburgler: That extra money men make is because we are the last to get out of the burning building or be on the life boat.
But seriously, what I can agree on is I absolutely believe that no matter who you are, you are paid based on ability. That being said, most of the positions I have interviewed, they list the position requirements, salary and or request our salary requirements, and that is pretty much it. I personally do not observe gender inequality with pay with common sense management. I want to be clear. I have observed women not being treated equally in the realm you are mentioned, but the people who did so were eventually weeded out terminated. I must live in a bubble, but I have observed interviews and I have conducted them. I have interviewed women and men of various races. I watch how annual reviews are conducted and I can say that it does not happen around me at current. I am aware that there is a gender bias, and that I do not have many female associates in my arena. But of those that we do have, they are paid equally. This does not mean that it does not occur in other professions and places of work. When I look at actors and actresses and their pay, it appears what you state does occur, but I do not have conversations with those people on why that occurs. I have ideas, and it may be something more to align with the role of the male lead being valued more than the female costar. If I were in her shoes, and I feel like I should be entitled to the same, then I would leave and find a way of pursuing my passions where I could ensure I was valued for my efforts.
Having said that, I sympathize with you on your interview noting how there is an idea of "women" not being interested in Marvel action movies or Fantasy/Science Fiction, but this idea can not be placed on men. It is placed on "people" who have a misconception that such exists. My mother could fit in this category. From the get go, she thinks that all female babies need dolls, dress in pink, etc etc., and I'm simply not a fan of the idea. Not saying that females should not embrace the beauty or grace that typically their bodies can contain or any such thing, but to confine them into thinking of specific ideas of "oh you want this because you are a girl". It starts there. So again, the path of what you are speaking often starts from their youth, and of the people that push said ideas, those often are women.
However, do understand that you are actually participating in the same issue by your statement of "men aren't going to connect emotionally the same as women". That simply isn't true. These stereotypes that "men want to have more sex then women" and "men don't have emotions" are silly. People, not men, but !people! can bottle their feelings more than others. Historically, some of what you are speaking of is based on the masculine peer pressure that men are not supposed to display any sort of emotion and not connect. It would depend on the person, but some people display and discuss those sort of things openly, but noting, as I stated earlier, that some men may feel that they are not to do so, they take those things to their trusted friends. I'm sure you do similar. Think about it. This man irritated you, but did you display openly how you felt? No. You bottled it. You kept your wit about you and he was disappointed with his misconceptions.
Anyway, a good read. Feel free to ask for help to open that jar of pickles.
mmjones29: "Black Thursday"
Just some of my thoughts on Black Friday being held on Thanksgiving.
mmjones29: So excited, as long as the baby cooperates, in one week we will find out if we're having a boy or girl :3