InkySue: Awake early; made myself my favorite vacation breakfast. I may not be able to go anywhere .. but I can have a breakfast that makes me think i've gone away. Then time spent writing. Working on an incredibly emotionally difficult book. One that nobody should ever have to write, but one that has needed to be written for a hundred years. Lots of chapters to go in this one. It isn't close to being done .. but since the subject matter is so close to me, it shouldn't take forever to finish. I just want it finished well. I need a break.. which i'm taking. I need a smoke, which I don't have. Aw damn, I really do need that vacation.
InkySue: Hmm .. people are strange. Simple as that .. they are weird. lol Thinking of doing a little bit of clean-up on my friends list over the next couple weeks. I have too many on there who never talk at all. Annoying. lol I tell people LONG before I add them that I don't like non-talkers on my list .... and some just seem to forget over time. So yep ... time to clean house yet again. lol
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InkySue: Final Answer on Friend Requests, Random PMs and "Why Don't I Shut Off PMs then?":
I'm posting this because i'm tired of saying it repeatedly and I am at this point simplifying my life .. for me.
Friend requests: I do not take friend requests from people I do not know very well. In fact, half the time, I do not take friend requests from people I do know. It is not personal. It is not about or against you. It is simply that I view friends lists as a kind of on-line "body collection." A list of 600 people that never talk to each other but are saved for some reason.. maybe for a snack later? Sort of like going to a grocery store stocked only with human beings .. and thinking, "Hmm.. i'll have two of these redheads.. maybe one of this blonde over here.. oh these chubby ones look cute, i'll take three of those.." It's silly. If I am in a room, that's where you'll find me. If i'm not, then obviously i'm not there to talk. Also, just because you think someone is nifty, does not mean i'm going to accept a friend request from them or be their new "bestie". I take longer to get to know people, I do it in my time and I have every right to do so.
Random PMs: I do not read PMs from people I don't know. Simply because half the time people PM you out of the blue it is because of something they don't want to say in an open chatroom. My PMs are for people I do know. They don't have to be on my friends list, they just have to be people I know aren't weirdos that want to talk in ways i'm not interested in talking. I'm here to kick back and relax .. not to hook up with random faces i'll never know outside of a computer. So for random people, whatever it is that you are contemplating saying in PM, feel free to say it in the open chatroom, or don't say it at all. And before you say, "Sheeesh I was going to compliment you..." compliments are nice, thank you very much, however, the right kind of compliments can be expressed in an open chatroom. They do not need to be expressed in a closed off PM. Saying someone has nice eyes is not private. Unless of course you've said the same thing to 15 other people sitting in the same chatroom and don't want any of them to know you're trying to chat up someone else. (Yes, i've been around long enough to know how that goes.) And NO, people I know.. this does NOT apply to you.
"Why don't I shut off PMs then?": First reason... because i'm me. I'm not you. I'm a whole new person that you aren't and I have my reasons. Second reason.. I have been online since the VERY early 90s and occasionally there are people that show up in chatrooms that I knew 15 or 20 years ago who are not on my friends list. I want them to be able to PM me and say "Heyyy long time no see.. I knew you from blah blah chatroom .. good to see ya!" That's what happens when people have been around on-line for a while. So I leave my PMs open and my page open to those I knew "back then".
As a side thought for the odd few that may feel this is a rude thing to post.. guess what, today is NOT my day to care. It is also not my day to be an unknown random person's "bestie" .. nor is it my day to entertain someone in PMs who doesn't feel the need to speak in the room or get to know someone first before trying to go private. Normally, and as a rule, I try to be nice .. but i'm absolutely done repeating myself when the things I am saying are not likely to change. I'm a grown woman, and at my age, if rudeness is what it takes to get my point across ..... that's what's for dinner so feel free to chow down.
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InkySue in reply to Denim_N_Ink: I know the feeling hon .. I can count the number of real friends I have on one hand ... and have a finger left over for the rest. (you're one of the friends by the way lol)
InkySue: By taking time off, i've managed to get more writing done than I've been able to do in years. This might just continue. lol
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InkySue in reply to rockislandred1: Hey red .. got a laugh for you .. I just looked up them "hosta" plants you told me to try. Ya know those "elephant ear" plants I mentioned earlier? .... yep .. they're hostas. I just couldn't remember the name of them. Got two ... great big HUGE ones. lol
InkySue: Sign of the times ... I go from making slippers and blankets .......... to making masks so people don't get sick. Slippers and blankets are more fun.