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Here’s a tip for you . . .

A few months ago, seated in a booth at a local restaurant, I could hear a female server venting very loudly in the kitchen area.

A three-minute rant about how unfair it was to her and how cheap some people can be – as she so elegantly put it - “always finding ways to screw us out of a tip!”

I’m not 100% sure what she did with the Christian literature, but I’m willing to guess it’s currently decomposing in a landfill.

Now please don’t misunderstand me, I’m not condemning people who leave gospel tracks at restaurants or in public bathrooms. In fact, I’m confident in certain scenarios those tracks generate intriguing discussions which get people thinking about life after death.

However, simply leaving a track on a restaurant table, not accompanied with a reasonable tip is perceived as rude from the intended audience.

Keep in mind, servers work an average of eight hours a day on her feet, take double shifts when they have to, and deal with tough, demanding customers; all while barely making over $4 an hour.

Leaving a track for a server, who may be unsaved, is not going to be perceived as a loving gesture. In their minds, if you want to help them, give them a tip they’ve worked hard for, so they can pay their bills.

Remember, servers survive on tips to make ends meet.

There’s more potential for a server to consider reading a track accompanied with a decent tip than stiffing them all together.

So, my tip to you:

If you’re going to leave a track, leave a tip. Otherwise, your good intentions could be viewed as another way to “screw them out of money!”

PLUS SIZE MODELS

Last year Sports Illustrated branched out placing a PLUS SIZE model in their swimsuit edition.

First, why is she referred to as PLUS SIZE? She looks very attractive and healthy. It irritates me how major publications purposely make women feel self-conscious. In an effort to boost sales of makeup and cosmetic surgery, graphic artists manipulate the pictures on the front of their magazines in an effort to stir up self-conscious thinking. Sadly, young girls and adult women look at those magazines as some sort of measuring stick.

Seriously ladies, quit comparing yourselves against the impossible.

Just think how surprised you would be running into the actual front page girl model/celebrity in person. If you compared her against her photo, you might be surprised just how much she doesn’t compare to her own photo image.

Now, I do support working out and staying healthy. I also support doing you best to look presentable and appealing, especially to your partners.

However, not to the point where most of your time is spent in the gym, cosmetic isles, or checking out the latest diet fads.

This so-called PLUS SIZE model is anything but ugly. In fact, most men would prefer a plus size model verses an anorexic, -20 size model. Rather be with a girl who enjoys eating out every now and then versus one who's on the brink of passing out due to exhaustion.

Anyway, ladies, DON'T BELEIVE THE HYPE!

WAIT AND GAIN NOTHING OR TAKE ACTION AND BUILD SOMETHING

As couples work through the broken pieces of their relationship, each side would prefer their partner take the lead toward restoring it.

Not just with their words, but more so through their actions.

Sadly, so many damaged marriages consist of two people sitting with their arms folded screaming, “when he/she does this, then I will do that!” If this is the mentality of each spouse, it’s inevitable they will only continue drifting further apart.

Marriage is a 2-way street. If you place all the happiness and success of your marriage on your partner, you’re asking them to carry a heavy burden; a huge load which only spawns resentment toward you, creating an even bigger rift.

If you want real change, then you might have to take the lead, which will require effort and placing yourself in a vulnerable spot. The fear married people face when deciding to invest in their spouse, following months / years of challenging circumstances, is that their spouse won’t reciprocate it in a positive way.

It’s hurtful when you allow yourself to be vulnerable only to get scarred by someone you love and trust.

Yet, ask yourself, if your spouse began really focusing on you, going above and beyond to meet and exceed your deepest desires, how would you react to their efforts? Positively I assume.

With this in mind, start thinking of small ways you can get your spouse’s attention and meet their needs. Remember, you’re not in control of your spouse’s actions. You’re in control of your own. You can choose what kind of marriage you desire, and through some effort make it a reality.

CONNECTION EQUALS STRONGER RELATIONSHIP

In a relationship there has to be MORE than physical attraction.

Over the years I've learned the best relationships are the ones where a strong connection is present. If there's no REAL connection, your relationship will deteriorate within weeks, if not days.

Too many of us rush into relationships never knowing exactly what we want. In some cases, there are individuals who find their identity in a relationship. Your identity should never be who you date, what you do for a living, or your status.

Connections need to be built over time. You may have to settle for friendship at first before moving into something more serious.

However, when the time comes to get serious, your patience will have paid off.