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BlueSmiles: What Is Love?
One of the things I have mused about a lot is the nature of love. The TYPES of love and how we can identify them. Sometimes I worry about people skimming along on the surface looking only at attraction in relationships, and missing the pure gold of real love.
I thought I would share with you something I jotted down a while ago when I was thinking about the kind of love that comes from really knowing a person.
Would love to know any thoughts you have about this and whether you agree.

"...I have discovered that when I really connect with a person, when I learn all about them and come to love them, I am also loving what has made them who they are. Loving their story.
That means I love their history and life experience, I love them as a child (as I imagine them), I love their family, their ancestors, the other significant people in their lives, I love the places they have travelled, the ideas and questions and battles they have had, what they have achieved, the hurts they have suffered, the pets they have had, their friends, their longings and everything which has made them smile.
This got me thinking about how real love is so much more than compatibility, chemistry, physical attraction, etc – but more like a web of fibres connecting two people, heart to heart, mind to mind.
The shared and valued memories make an unbreakable bond, so that even if that person leaves for some reason, your closeness to them continues. This can be painful of course. But our lives would be so much poorer without the kind of love which really connects people...."
I really hope one day to meet a man who 'gets' that and wants the same thing.
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secretwhisper
secretwhisper: Francis exactly
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DONUSVET
DONUSVET: Maybe THIS ???? YouTube
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BlueSmiles in reply to DONUSVET:
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kizzkazz
kizzkazz: I hope you do too. Me too. Xoxoxix
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zz3n
zz3n: you might be overthinking things
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BlueSmiles
BlueSmiles in reply to zz3n: Zen if by 'overthinking' you mean worrying - have no fear, I am not. But I have a mind and I think human connection is one of the most important things in life, so I reserve the right to enjoy trying to understand it better. Learning about what love is and what it is not is helping me see relationships (including friendships) clearly and avoid past mistakes. Whether or not I find a partner, I am loving the learning journey I am on and I know it is making me a better person. Certainly a happier one.
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BlueSmiles
BlueSmiles: Actually, thinking back, I think one reason I wrote this is because I was imagining explaining to a future lover the reasons I value him. I wanted to explain I am not just skimming along the surface of attraction but that my love would be based on a deep understanding and appreciation of him and his background. Too often we fall for someone and think we know them, then find out things about the person which indicate serious underlying problems that were not obvious at first. We can never be sure we completely know someone, but I want to do my best next time.
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Cat0007uk
Cat0007uk: These connections do happen - keep being brave and trusting and sharing yourself and you will find someone who will do that with you! 💞
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