BlueSmiles: What do you really want? Like kids in a candy shop, adults pig out on sex-related stuff and then wonder why love is so hard to find. I think we have it back to front. We all know sex is yummy. But maybe it would work better if we went for the 'health-food' of relationships first - the connecting, common values, shared interests, laughs, good convo, and the CARING............ then found that the dessert (sexy stuff) we share with that person is WAY more satisfying than the candy we used to chase. We are pushed to be sexual all the time but imagine if we had the courage to say "I want connection and caring first"? I reckon the sex that comes out of real love would be mind blowing.
Sunny B Blessed: You're so right. Which is probably why more than half of marriages fail in the USA. People jump into great sex first (sure, it's fun!) and think that is love. It's a lot more important, for a successful happy relationship, that you and the other person have the same goals, want the same things, enjoy doing the same things, and have the same basic morals and values. If you get all that stuff, that is truly what everyone really needs and wants, and is the most fulfilling thing in the world.
BlueSmiles in reply to zz3n: Fine thanks hun. I love it when we catch up and I hope you are doing ok. I see your posts and always smile when I think of you.
Sage Paradox: I know I sometimes come off as a freak, but I all about getting to know a person, loving them for who they are, and accepting them for the good and bad.
Like kids in a candy shop, adults pig out on sex-related stuff and then wonder why love is so hard to find. I think we have it back to front. We all know sex is yummy. But maybe it would work better if we went for the 'health-food' of relationships first - the connecting, common values, shared interests, laughs, good convo, and the CARING............ then found that the dessert (sexy stuff) we share with that person is WAY more satisfying than the candy we used to chase. We are pushed to be sexual all the time but imagine if we had the courage to say "I want connection and caring first"? I reckon the sex that comes out of real love would be mind blowing.
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