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An online friend led another online friend on. Let's call the gaslighting scumbag Steve slimeball and other online friend X.

I considered their relationship none of my business because I know neither of these people....I've chatted with them for years, but have never met them.

Over the last few months - actually years- Steve slimeball called X crazy, that he does not know why she thinks they should be an item. He freaked out when she called his phone# ..and pretended to not understand why she thinks they should have a relationship. He also has said straight out he wanted to date me... I don't do long distance dating...plus I just had a feeling he wasn't forthcoming.... and was being manipulative.


. An example of him not being forthcoming and hiding info was when his female room mate Terry died. He never told anyone he had a female room mate and that they shared a bedroom. but all of a sudden he kept saying he was such a good person because he took care of her...

Okay, then why hide that she lived with you? Was he perhaps married and was lying to her? :: cringe cringe:: (PTSD because my exhubby lied so much about me to others.. So when I figure out someone is a liar, I don't want anything to do with them).

Anyway, how it all became unraveled is I was telling X that Slimeball & I were talking about how much fun it would be to taka trip to Yosemite..... X kinda came unglued. (In a different chat box Slimeball was saying he did not understand what i up with X. ...). I was in no way talking about a romantic trip and I was talking about all three of us going so wasn't understanding why she was becoming upset. However,. he had been telling her he wanted to take her on a romantic vacation (to Yosemite). He of course was denying that he sent her a valentine's gift (it as a get well gift), that he and her were involved. .

She then forwarded me his love texts and love filled voice mails from him to her.. Yeah, she isn't crazy lol.. He was totally love bombing her.... ...

I now feel mucky and icky even having him on my facebook list ... Yeah, he was gaslighting. He tried to claim she was crazy...but he was playing her.. Such a slimy thing to do!

It reminded me so much of my exhubby's actions. My exhubby was dating women, telling them he was single and I was oblivious to it all...until I inadvertently walked in on him and a date.

i take issue with people who gaslight..and malign the reality around other people calling THEM crazy when they in fact are setting them up..

I'm sad that this person is a liar and did not care about how he was hurting our mutual friend. I forwarded him his texts and voice mails he left the other gal, (with her permission ).... I gave him 24 hours to own it ... and to maybe explain? But haha..yeah.. slimy people never seem to recognize that they are the gas lighters. . . I unfriended Steve slimeball on this forum (Wireclub name: Braggerram), and on facebook.

I don't understand why some people are such slimy pieces of garbage? Why lie? Why gaslight? I am thankful X enlightened us (me and some other online friends) of his cringiness. I used to think of him as a decent and kind human. I now view him as pure purulent exudate (aka infectious pus discharge)... I wish such malignant people did not exist. .