LGBTQ+

Geek In Pink: share your experiences and vent out what you have bottled up, no judgement and no shame.

laylaxd1803: - [ ] Im les and planning to come out. For LGBTQ+ people, we just wanna be treated equally. I wanna take my future gf home to show my parents and wont need to explain why its a girl ... but anw, its not that easy and I still need a careful plan cuz I dont wanna sound stupid when facing them(( so i made a list of questions that straight people often ask and i’v come up with several answers for them. Eventhough Ik people mind cannot change that quick after listening to some whole new solutions, planning still helps me feel confident and I’ll also understand more bout what I really want ma parents to know about me. As a daughter, I never wanna “disappoint” my parents. I may have a happy life together with my wife in the future but my parents they may feel bad cuz they expect me to be a “mother” and give birth like other “normal” women😭. Im afraid Im gonna let them down, but im also afraid of lying, of hurting the man who I will pretend to marry just to satisfy my parents expectation((

Angry Beaver: laylaxd1803
Just realise, your parents were raised in a different time, whilst I fully support my ftm son, i still find it hard to use he and him as I looked into a little girl's eyes when she was born and she stole my heart, it's not that we don't support, it's just harder to change our mindset.
Hope that helps and your parents accept you for you

bel0wtheb3lt: I agree with beaver, i used to tell my ftm son as well that you cannot expect people to just accept it. You don't was tolerancce but acceptance. She got it and love my child deeply, it also helps that her dad i bi and i'm extremely accepting. Just like i think close minded people are on both sides of the discussion. Lay, i wish i had advice for you but there must be a time that you think of yourself and what makes you happy or you will always be miserable. A good parent should always show love for their child and accept them who they are. I

Angry Beaver: bel0wtheb3lt Hear hear!

bel0wtheb3lt: I will add you must be honest. My child held it all in and started cutting. I would rather have a child that is happy with who they are than dead. I would be here to give support to anyone that has gone through that or just needs a friend or shoulder when no others are available. A very good friend and coworker got married to her girlfriend and they had a baby. It isn't traditional but they probably did things considered to be nontraditional in their day.

Angry Beaver: sounds like my kid

Goddess Kilo: Im also lez and my mom has disowned me so I get what your afriad of.

Angry Beaver: That's friggen sad as... parents r supposed to give love unconditionally, u didn't ask to be born ffs

bel0wtheb3lt: Goddess i'm so sorry to hear that. No parent should EVER disown their child for something like this. THey don't know what theyre going to lose and when they do its hard to get anything bak

Geek In Pink: @Everyone, I am so glad to see so many people on here supporting and being honest with each other. :

yippeskippy: laylaxd1803: Wow, you have a beautiful heart! And its hard when you have loving parents who want the best for you and they don't know what really makes you happy. In the end though, making your parents happy shouldn't make you miserable. And not just about not wanting to hurt your partner. You also have to think about your happiness too. There is no guarantee of their acceptance, but at least you won't have to hide anymore. There is also no guarantee there won't be any conflict, but at least you will have peace knowing they know. And even so, it sounds like you have great parents, and loving parents are unconditional. I hope you tell them, and I hope it can bring you peace.