What is best ways to get rid of loneliness? (Page 10) Hailstorm Harry: Loneliness effects people who are self concious of it. Im amazed how some people can live in the desert and enjoy their own company and the rare annimals that cross their paths.  AretoNyx: I can understand that sort of thing. I rather solo video games more than play online with others. Some living on their own to find peace and freedom from that.  Mopar2004: I don't know that there us a valid answer. For each person, the answer is personal. So. The question is 'what would fill your void'? For each of us us the emptiness is different. Mine? Is simply someone who feels as much as I do and No time to feel it. I hope this helps  drive2succeed: Try learning another language. Some you can learn in less than a year and are easy. With the internet you can chat with them online and it will be fun and exciting. drive2succeed: Join meetup.com I guarantee you there is something in your area. You can play board game or activities. If you have a console most allow online multiplayer games and those are a fun time killer  (Post deleted by jimstazz )  Opal Lee: Make use of your talents or strengths and serve others. There are numerous places looking for volunteers. If you choose something you like, you will meet others of like mind.  Zanjan: One of the the most important things you can do is increase your education - you can never be lonely when hard exercising your brain. Plus, the added knowledge and skills will open many new doors for you. Continuing Ed offers numerous academic and certificate courses dirt cheap. Learning should be a lifetime commitment; we were made for it. When you're thinking about yourself, you have too much time on your hands - loneliness is bound to set in. Forget yourself and look at the life around you. You can't think about yourself when you're studying. Entertainment shouldn't be thought of as distractions - they're intended for relaxation. Busy hands don't get into trouble but thinking hard and exercising hard is exhausting - a break like a great movie helps between alternating types of responsibilities. Everyone needs to feel needed. If you have free moments, there are so many disabled/senior people, animals and plants who depend on help from others - be one of those people they can count on. You can adopt a new family. One can derive a great sense of purpose from gardening, animal care, environmental projects, teaching, and so forth. Loneliness means you're aware something is missing from your life - that thing is usually right in front of you, right under your nose. It's your spiritual condition - you need to upgrade the state of your soul. If you wait for someone to send you flowers, you'll grow old alone; love is within - to feel it, it has to go out from you. Dare I say it........yes, without a relationship with God, something will always be missing from your life. You don't have to join a religion, you just have to develop and embrace this relationship - it's the reason we were created. AretoNyx: Some religious make others feel lonely such as shunning in cults and also making those need therapy. Though true some may find religions and beliefs give some purpose if positive and truly good to one another as a community. Zanjan: "Shunned"? Let's not play the victim card. If you're being shunned, there's something about you others find repulsive. You've put up a barrier between yourself and them. Examine and identify the barrier; if you don't want to remove it, make peace and go somewhere else. Loneliness is a kind of withdrawal. Sometimes, it's just the feeling that comes with a withdrawal from dependency; conversely, it's curling up into one's shell. One's aim should be to make this world a better place when they leave it than when they arrived. That means doing - action, not reaction. Faith comes through service to God and humanity. Once one realizes they can't do it alone, God will guide them to a friend of same interest so they can perform it together. Your potential is only as big as your vision. The wider and bigger your vision, the greater will be your motivation. If we only knew what an important cog in the wheel we could be............! (Edited by Zanjan) AretoNyx: Ah so if people are abused , raped, murdered, or caught in a crime and don't accept that in group religions... being shunned is a victim card. Withdrawal from that dependency of harm done or harming others in any way in any excuses is a barrier to avoid because ...? Now if that is making the world a better place...not sure how that is a service to any God, playing the victim card, and being so dependent that much is making things better. Ok then you do you. I rather not be dependent on any humans abusing and be independent about doing things for others in help. Motivation to not do harm in name of a religion I don't see as a victim card. I guess some would feel it is however in opinion. AretoNyx: Choice between loneliness verses abuse... the barrier is not a God. Though some see religion and a god as the same thing...human church leader and a god as the same thing. Potential is only big as your vision for sure. Here is a little more on the topic of abuse and even shunning. https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_e0DBcigH_-Iyg0DiCyXepXKq1ThQCIG (Edited by AretoNyx) Zanjan: "Ah so if people are abused , raped, murdered, or caught in a crime and don't accept that in group religions... being shunned is a victim card. " IDK, sounds like you're trying to find excuses. That's a lot of negative thinking. In my experience with multiple religions, religious folk aren't the kind to dig into anyone's personal life. Religion is supposed to be a safe refuge from the world. Lots of sick people go there to heal; many have been in the same place so, friendliness, compassion, patience and empathy is easy for them. These are spiritual virtues and what makes people lovable. If one is involved in a police matter, hopefully, they're not telling everybody about it. If sharing information in a counseling group, that remains confidential. Choose your confidants wisely. Withdrawal from a toxic environment is a great stress reliever - I've done it. Very freeing. Yet healing requires time and taking care of yourself while doing it - that is, don't lug along the baggage of anger and resentments to your new place. The dependency I was referring to is the separation as one moves forward - that is, when one stops leaning on others and shoulders responsibilities for themselves, it's called a right of passage. One stops complaining and either finds the solution or does the job right themselves. They don't need any accolades. In another respect, one can be very successful and on the cutting edge of new developments; there's an old maxim, "It's lonely at the top" because no one understands where you've been or where you're going. When you ARE the competition, its a strange feeling - I've been there too but it only last 15 minutes. After that, you become a mentor. (Edited by Zanjan)  DIAMONDfire: One of the Buddhist principles is to study suffering, where it comes from (we don't do that much in the west) | Self-Improvement Chat Room Similar Conversations |
