What is best ways to get rid of loneliness? (Page 2)
ShaymfullyMe: Start a journal and simply write your heart out .. literally. Get to know who it is you are ... get to like the person you find yourself to be. Once you can learn to like your own company....to enjoy your own thoughts and to honestly like who it is you are (and if you do not like who it is you are ...it is high time you started changing the things about you that you don't care for until you become someone you'd be happy to call a friend). Loneliness is for me the most frightening of feelings ....almost despair. The worst was finding myself surrounded by other people and still feeling alone. That's when I took a good look within myself and went on a journey of self discovery. I was surprised to discover what an incredible, intelligent, imaginative, friendly and fun person I was and that I honestly liked that person. I hope you will find a way to do the same.
WingsSmith: Connect with people based on what's most meaningful to you. If that seems hard to do consider that you might not be clear what you truly feel is worth doing almost anything for and if that's the case either start focusing on identifying your purpose or get help for that if you've had no luck trying to do so alone. If that's your case and you don't already know someone you'd be at ease working with, I can help.
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Plumpcherry: Go out and explore, learn a new hobbie.
All of this is quite boring to me, I come back hoping for new answers, ideas, and yet I receive the same outcome.
FunkyBiscuits82: Cure to loneliness is not being alone. And I understand that you can technically be around other people and still feel lonely, like you mentioned, but this just means that no one there is someone you can consider a companion.
Like, in a crowd of strangers, I will feel alone, bc I know that no one there really cares about me and I don't really care about them. However, if I am in a crowd of strangers with someone I care about, then I will not feel alone anymore. Funny how this happens, but to me it makes perfect sense.
To me, it seems natural to feel lonely when there is no one around you that you really have any personal connections to. Sometimes this can even mean people who are close to you like a mom, or spouse...in those situations, it's a bit tougher, bc you do love those people, but you still cannot count them as a companion, which is obviously much harder to deal with than strangers in a crowd. In those situations, you may have to learn to accept that you're alone until you're able to repair the relationship, or find someone who you can count on, bc both can take a lot of time.
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Simple_Minded1976: It's unfair for me to comment too much on this topic, because I am alone a lot, but hardly ever feel lonely. My only observation is being involved in activities that allow you to cherish your time alone so you don't notice that others are missing. John Prine composed a great song about loneliness... "Hello in There."
Adiyogi: There are only two options, you can distract your mind (avoiding your emotions temporarily), or you can train your mind to be calm (controlling your emotions permanently). I suggest the second one, "seek and you shall understand."
- A long time ago, a Master told his pupil to get him water from a nearby river, so the pupil went, only to find the water to be improper for consumption. The pupil returned and told this to his Master, whom did not reply. A couple of hours went by and the Master again told his pupil to get him water from the same river, the pupil not understanding the reason why, again did what he was told, this time only to find the water clean and clear from the mud. He returned to his Master and gave him the water to drink. After drinking the water, the Master replied, "Just like the mind the waters of a river can become disturbed, all you have to do is to wait."
ggr1972: There is no solution, only distractions. The world is a cruel place if you are unattractive...women would rather date a rapist than a decent ugly fella....they love to try to spin it saying men are shallow....but that is not true, the only shallow men are those that have been put up on a pedestal their entire lives by women. They have taken to mimicking Trump and insulting anybody who speaks the truth
Plumpcherry: I disagree, nor all women are like that.
Take me for example, the world view me as black, ugly/unattractive, stupid/dumb, weirdo, bucktooth, the list goes on.
You know what I think?
I love my skin, my skin color, my supper right curly hair, my bottom nose, I adore my eyes, i love my teeth, but they are a bit spacey and i know why. I still love my teeth, I love my lips. I love playing with them, I love my fat body, I just don’t like my forehead. Since my hair been falling out it looks weird.
Bur what I’m saying is you have to love you first. And we’re not going to attract everybody. But the ones we do attract are the ones we need to focus on..
I don’t bother with people who don’t have pictures, or anything on their profile. But every woman is different.
As is every man. And it’s not up to us to tell them what they see in us.
There are a lot of jerks out there, they come in all walks of life/looks/ you name it there’s a jerk in there somewhere.
We just have to be patient and the right person thst truly love us will link up wirh us.
Sometimes we have to go out, trust ourselves.
I’m just loving me and hoping I link wirh my other half. I’m not settling
It will happen for us.
MyLifeMyCommitment: You can feel lonely because you are alone, because you are not happy where you are at the moment, it doesn’t matter if you have people around, loneliness comes from within ourselves.
I just re-read what My opinión on this matter was back then or a month ago and I completely disagree with myself now.
Being alone is a gift. If you are blue to embrace Loneliness and be completely honest to yourself, manage completeness, feel grateful and thankful for life being on your own, enjoying yourself. You will have mastered yourself.
Be alone. Love yourself. Loneliness is never alone.
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Draakhart: Is to talk with someone who feels the same way! So if you want to talk send me a reply! I feel like I'm right there with you!
mountainwalker6650: find church groups that help with insecurity,weird though it may sound being around others who fight with that are fast ways to not only make freinds,but find ways to get stronger
AretoNyx: No Better, I don't have 16 personalities but you do you.
Thanks everyone for all the advice. I even mentioned on an asexual page that I am am on a similar question. There was said some similar things on the topic of loneliness.
There are meet up hobby and interest groups I attend as well some times. My kids keep me busy most with free events. Journaling is a great idea I do believe. So many good ideas here.