Emotional abuse is worst of all threats ......
ninababy11: agreed, it is completely inexplicable and inexcusable. It is one of the roughest things in the world.
riyaroshan25: Agree totally. Nobody has the right to emotionally scar another. If you can't stand anybody you have to walk away.
knightd73: Couldn't agree more see it within my own family - I won't have anythign to do with them as a result.
Nadie: its not a threat or harassment its an attack! and its takes long time to recover and the hurt will remain forever traumatize ones whole life..
patti1965: oooo...atomic!! not crying, sweetheart...just, VENTING. release is ....strength! and u already know this...dont u?
AngelOfMusic: Yet, many that have been emotionally abused are often the quickest to dish it out on someone else.
spankdmonkey: The reason emotional abuse is worse is its from people that you supposedly love and they are suppose to love you .So it cuts deep words from someone you care about can hurt a lot more then a punch
classylady61: Be strong and let nobody make you feel worstless. Stand up and let them know you will not allow them to put u down
classylady61: Juditth never allow a man to beat you down with words. You are too special to except someone to make you feel less than you are. When a man think that a woman will not stand up for herself he will keep doing it to you. If he can't treat you like you want to be treated walk away. If he put his hands on you have him arrested. If you have family or friends let them know what going on. If you don't feel safe go somewhere he don't know and let the police know.
db122510: Yes, the mental affects your whole being. I know from living it everyday. Fear of change, fear of being totally dependent upon yourself, lack of affection, all wrapped into this abuse. Stand your mental ground, and know you are not alone, Judith.
azurespica75: Trolls are everywhere...a topic as sensitive like this one should not be discussed without minimum safety and respect for the posters and banning troll intervention. Those psychopaths need a dose of their own medicine, and a very high one, to understand the meaning of empathy.
irishsmilesx3: 23 yrs 1 kid now 14, i thought stay freinds for her sake. He met another drunk, and has her call me tells me all about theyre relationship.called child a b, and told her she has to call before she sees her dad. And she answers phone now sometimes we get to talk most xs no. He asked me out for our b days mine 1st his 4th and then laughed and said he was in love with other person and 1he wanted nothing to do with me...i went to bed for 3 days ! 4th day i realized they deserved eachother. I was not going to make him better,1love was not going to fix him. And i truly never liked him for yrs, im worth 3x better than both of em and lucky me i hv the child he has lost 3 others he ll loseher too.we are both in counsling and recovering with faith and knowledge is empowering! It doesnt faze me to see him or them it actually makes me sick, and imbarrassed i had even been with him. Thx 4 listening
classylady61: Irishsmilesx3. Wow! The moment that you realize that you was better than him and that you deserve better you was on your way to a better life. You should be proud of yourself. You are going to make it happen. You are someone special. I am glad you decided that that you going to move on and reach for the stars. One day you going to hear that both of them has fail in life. Your child going to look at how strong you are and she going to love you even more. Show him that your life is better without him. Let her have your trash. Keep your head up and reach for happness.
uglycow10: Once you arrive at a sense of self and truly understand who you are and how you want to be treated....therein lies your strength. Most individuals have more intestinal fortitude than they themselves think.
Also, there is nothing like a solid friend or family member standing by your side to encourage yo and show you how to keep things in perspective.
I personally have learned, at the ripe old age of "ole ladyhood", that everyone has an opinion and that unless it is a reasonable and fairly well thought out and balanced one....DO NOT EVER ACCEPT ANY NEGATIVE OPINION THAT ANYONE HAS OF YOU.
For the emotional bully, that is one of their major tools that they use in their effort to crush your self-esteem, and to bring you to your knees. if you truly know yourself, you will never accept any of that rubbish from them.....
TAKE TIME TO KNOW YOURSELF...BUT MOST IMPORTANT, TAKE TIME TO UNDERSTAND THE EMOTIONAL GAMES THAT PEOPLE PLAY....ESPECIALLY THE WEASELS WHO TAKE PLEASURE IN TOYING WITH YOU...just a thought.
When I, myself experienced that total epiphany....I felt liberated and triumphant....a true Goliath, of sorts......
LatinaLezz: Wow. That was just wow. I am going through some stuff myself. I use to b very happy, and now I became just an unhappy person. I need to find myself and learn to love myself I am in an out of relationships and people learn to love me, but somehow I feel that's not enough for me.
I want to learn not to be so angry and be happy again, and idk how.
uglycow10: Hey Pebbles:
I really did not intend to get all long-winded like that, but if any of it is helpful to you, I am happy about that.
Unfortunately, most people put others in charge of their happiness when it is we ourselves who should head that department.We should be the ones to determine who comes into our lives....and whether or not they will be a good fit....whether they will enhance the quality of life that we have....whether they are on the same level, same page, same line as us.
If you don't pay attention to those details you just might be in for a rough ride.
Very important, is to learn to be alone and to enjoy "you time".
You also said something that I found interesting..."people learn to love you".i feel that you are selling yourself short by giving them that power. It should be a mutual happening. You should want to be with them & they , with you....because that is what they want from the heart.Otherwise, let them keep stepping.
Before you begin to allow people into your life, you have to be ok with yourself, first.NO one can make you happy, but you yourself.
If you need to read some self help books or engage the services of a professional....just do whatever it takes....just start the process.
When I got divorced, I did the usual self examination and concluded that it might have been my fault, when in reality....it was his!
I simply has to re-assess my outlook on life, prioritize and determine what was important to me and what was not.
It definitely is a process and one at the end of which you will evolve into a different person.
Give it a whirl. Take care of Pebbles first and foremost.
Life is not always easy. We just have to do our best jumping the hurdles
Stay positive and try to keep the toxic people and negative individuals away from you.....