When you think you've hit rock bottom... (Page 3)

rodgump1979
rodgump1979: rodgump1979 I just wrote this on basic self-esteem.
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labi1234
labi1234: Hello everyone!

I absolutely read all the posts and I could understand most of them. My story in short is:
I come from a geenocide country, my brother was killed,I came to canada only with one parent, who was busy making the money, I don't blame him, but it was hard on me,
Everysince I am born I feel like I don't belong anywhere, when i went to visit my family back home I didn't belong there, when am where i been living for the last 18 years I don't feel like i belong there either. I was raised in a community here, and it saddened me to see that there was so much ethnical hate amongs my own people, ironically they left the country so that they have a better future but don't change a bit. This has affected my studies, I still don't know what i want to do exactly. And then hand in hand studying is not easy either when you have so much on your mind. I tend to associate love with protection, since I was never thought what the difference was, my father was never there to protect me even as a child. I dropped out of college twice and worked 35 hours a week, literally had anger issues, i was depressed, sad, I was confused, I didn't know why the world was so evil.. . My friends weren't there for support they just wanted to look pretty in the pictures, go out meet the boys. All i wanted was a good group, to feel appreciated, and have alot of laughter. After i dropped out of college, I started working, my step mother after 5 years of marriage to my father left him on valentines day, and i had to literally take all his pains to maintain his sanity ( its in our culture to support to the fullest) I was so depressed that I got physically ill, I tried to manage but i just got even more ill each time. I made myself a bad reputation at work because I was misunderstood, i became an alcoholic and then I took a break of 6 months.

My life changed, I said to myself I've had it, I can't let things happen to me, so I started attacking each thing that bottered me in a very simple matter. First my facebook account: I just went through the list and told myself ok who here is just making my life miserable, I deleted everyone that made my life miserable.. I don't suggest it in all situations but I handled it. Every time I had a genius idea I just worked towards it, every idea that I have, i write it down and give myself a time frame to do it. I changed my attitude towards everyone, I go first. I always thought i would make the world change, I still believe i will, i'm trying to reach it now, I believe that theres people like me out there that want the world to be a better place out here. I had to let it all behind, everything, and more foward blindly... I believe that everyone has the courage within themselves to take steps foward, getting depressed, nagging, and not planting seeds in its own garden its possibly the worse thing you can do to yourself. If you have a dream, persue it.. I started networking with people around the world, hearing their stores, randomly. I want to learn languages, I have no Idea where im going but im starting university in january, and at least thats my step im going to do my core classes with the best possible grades, then I will go on to finish a bachlors.

and one more thing here are two videos all of you have to watch it if you feel down:

YouTube by les brown
YouTube by everybody's free to wear sunscreen
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Air_
Air_: Hardtimes?

1. Go Shopping or even window shopping. But don't stay still, keep moving.
2. Sex is a great stress reliever.
3. Talk to someone who really cares about what happens to you when you get emotional.
4. Don't worry about tomorrow.
5. Stay away from negative people.
6. Stick with the positive influences in your life. If anything they help you focus more on looking at the brighter side, than the cold hard truth. When you are at rockbottom, you can't go any further. The only place left to look is up.
7. Look around you and find things to be thankful. Play the 'glad' game...I usually do that when I'm so blind sided by stuff I try to see the flip side. I have high blood pressure so not only does focusing so intensely on what I need to be thankful for help with keeping a perspective even when the problem is at its worst...it saves my life.
8. Don't be too hard on yourself.
9. Look your best....omg I have experienced this personally. Put on your best clothes, make up, shower...and look awesome. I know its VERY hard to do that. But I have discovered that putting on a brave face when you look like crap will only give you the martyr complex. And you don't to be a martyr, you want to get through this and LIVE.
10. This may not be appropriate but I also have discovered that helping someone else with something will sometimes help me find an idea or something to deal with whatever situation is giving me hell. You know what they say about Karma, whatever goes around, comes around!! And that also applies to doing good for others. It will also take your mind off your problems.
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rodgump1979
rodgump1979: Seven,
I also believe in what goes around comes around. Very true.
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seahunt
seahunt: Seven has the good advice. In my darkest hours I kept moving and busy. Focused on my business I had, gracefully disentangled myself from all the negative people around me, made big career and life changes - essentially I rebooted.
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vixen79
vixen79: How the fuck does someone love themselves?? Hmm... I wish I knew. I'm currently enduring a do it yourself detox of Oxy which ive been on for two years due to meningitis. I think the bottom is when you loose all your friends, family, possessions and are lucky if you have one, just one person in the world who still believes in you, Right? or not so much!
I reboot by cutting or taking an overdose. I call it my re-set button.. Sad hey!
Oh, sydney Aust here
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hannahsingh96
hannahsingh96: ummm i just sleep and cry and muzic and drift into a fantasy
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hannahsingh96
hannahsingh96: sex is good reliever bt only temporarily
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labi1234
labi1234: Lol hannah you made my day haha
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hannahsingh96
hannahsingh96: lolz Yayyy
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calypso84
calypso84: I had a rocky start right from the beginning of my life, which obviosly I had no influence on. It took years until I could get out of that situation and then it took years until I've cleaned the emotional mess. Not everything can be forgotten, because the scar stays forever, but if you are quite an evolved person already, you can take the best out of the worst of all situations. Thing is there's still life to live and you have to live it the best you can and be the best person you can become. After a trauma I experienced, you work on improvement all the time. Basically, this is what life is about in general, but I just have to work harder.
How I do it? I learned to look at the positive aspects of every situation I find myself in, try to learn sth from them and most of all, I learned self - control. I read a lot, look for the depth in people, do the things that give me a lot of joy and try to stay positive at all cost.
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Wade90
Wade90: Still not over it
But being present has helped and my friends and family have helped me. Pass the time, not by sleeping, but by doing something productive. Looking at things through a positive perspective.
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carrie5574
carrie5574: When you think you hit rock bottom is when u have a good cry get up and start saying thank you lord b3cause there is only one direction from there, up up, up
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angpd
angpd: Lots of sad stories here. Have a few myself. Getting over them? Early in life I found myself very much down on myself, and life in general. After a while I came to realize the only thing keeping me there was ME. If you believe you are never going to get over whatever happened, well you are right, It is YOU that stand in the way of your own happiness. You must want to get over it. Now you might say of course i do. But really do you, or do you just keep wishing it had never happened. Life is not fair but it is what it is. Good things will happen and other bad thing are going to happen. Get out of your own way, You are worth it!!!
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islandgirl7700
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islandgirl7700
islandgirl7700: WELL I HIT BOTTOM LAST JUNE
2o18...…... MY SIGNIFICANT OTHER OF 10 YEARS PAST ON, HIS FAMILY WANTED THE HOUSE WHICH LEFT ME HOMELESS.

WAS FORCE INTO LIVING IN MY CAR ..... THEN I SOON FOUND OUT THAT MY FAMILY AND MY OWN SON WOULD NOT HELP ME !!

! MY SON HAS A 2 BED ROM CONDO NEAR THE OCEAN AND HE WOULD NOT LET ME TAKE A SHOWER TO CLEAN UP ...

I WAS BATHING IN PUBLIC REST ROOMS AND CLEANING MY CLOTHES IN THE Sink. I GOT very SICK FROM THE HEAT, PAST OUT IN A PARK on the grass.

WHEN I CAME ABOUT 30 MINS LATER.... I WAS STILL SICK BUT A BIT LESS TIRED. BEING OUT DOORS WITH WIND ON ME HELPED, COMPARED TO SITTING in MY 100 DEGREE CAR .

SHAME MY FAMILY HAS Discarded ME AS IF IM A PIECE OF TRASH THAT THEY CAN Conveniently THROW AWAY .
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Ang3lBlaz3
Ang3lBlaz3: Personally, i just tell myself that nothing lasts forever not even the bad times. This too shall pass whatever it may be. It could always be worse, and it will be! So all you can do is fight it head on, get over it, and just wait for whatever comes next.
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islandgirl7700
islandgirl7700: my whole life has been a struggle
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islandgirl7700
islandgirl7700: im a tuff bird...but damn 62 years of struggling is a BIG WTF
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islandgirl7700
islandgirl7700: ITS NOT AS EASY TO ..JUST GET OVER IT.... memories stay with you even though ur going forward.... time will cover up those feelings .but those memories shape you....
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Ang3lBlaz3
Ang3lBlaz3: I'm sorry for what your going through. But in the end all you have is yourself. I learned that. You cannot rely on other people because they often will turn their back on you. Have you tried a church or shelter? Prayers for you during these trying times.
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islandgirl7700
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islandgirl7700
islandgirl7700: YEP ALL I DO IS STAND THERE AND GO NEXT ???!!!! I MAY HAVE DAYS OR WEEKS WERE THINGS SEEM TO BE GOING SMOOTH BUT THEN BAM! SHET HAPPENS AGAIN
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