Im cheating and I can't stop! (Page 9)

chrisdlion
chrisdlion: then i guess the bible was written to pass the time away and since it was inspired by God himself we have to assume we can throw out any laws written in it to follow, the whole purpose of one man coming here to teach and change lives was all for kicks and giggles, , since the time began , man was given laws to follow and one that was broken , not to eat of the forbidden fruit, which was broken, and the consequence is what we have now, people who beleive in following their own laws and assuming their is no God, and any laws to follow, their were many laws to follow that were written by God, which were kept in the Ark of the Covennant,, but as man can deny any responabilty in what we do and think we have no laws to follow but our own will find out in the time of death how much then you will cry out to God to forgive you of your past life,, everyone even the unbeleiver will face him and be judged accordingly,, and as far as evolution in my belief is a therory made up by man , funny how theories have no proof to back up their statements, but Gods book he wrote does!
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Renaissance_Man
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BAD WOLF_
BAD WOLF_: I'm not buying the God fairy tale People cheat because of a number of reasons none to do with religion, Monogamy works for some but humanity begins to realize staying with one person the rest of your life kinda suck if you're not getting what you need
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Cherokee 26
Cherokee 26: I mean yes it makes more of a logical and viable idea for a man/woman to be with one single partner and such but all you have to do is not cheat....either be with the person...or break up with them. If you both want to sleep with other ppl just for something fun and or different to do in the bedroom...talk about it and come to a mutual understanding and try it out. If you approach him and her about the want of trying something with another person and they dont...respect their decision and accept it or break up with them and find someone else. Is that simple enough people?
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diolover71
diolover71: .
Exactly^^^^^^

You want to keep your relationship and lie about having sex with someone else.What does the word love mean to you.?To me love means that you care more for your partner than you do for yourself.

If you lie,you are controlled by your fear.If you are afraid to be honest about who you are,what you do;what does that say about your self image?
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Cherokee 26
Cherokee 26: i just think that theres no reason to hide who you are...just be up front......if you want to get with other ppl...tell your partner you wanna try stuff....if they take it wrong then find somebody that will accept you for you
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Renaissance_Man
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Cherokee 26
Cherokee 26: lol i accept that
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Renaissance_Man
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passionatepoet
passionatepoet: Drop the BF...there is obviously something wrong there...you def don't feel committed to him...maybe you just like his company but not much else...if he finds out you are not even going to have his friendship and you are going to be stuck with this other guy who might not be so much fun anymore once the bf is gone
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Renaissance_Man
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chrisroth
chrisroth: there is such a thing as thinking the grass is greener on the other side. It's not like you get into a committed relationship and you never ever ever think about being with anyone else ever again. It is a discipline as any married person can tell you.
Perhaps you should look into yourself and see why you need this kind of attention. My worry is that you will feel this no matter what relationship you get into and then you will always think something is wrong with "the relationship" when really there is something in you that is an imbalanced desire to be desired. I think it would be worth tracking that down if you notice this is a habit
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chrisdlion
chrisdlion: Chrisroth, you have made a huge point , and its about choices, after talking to couples who have had been married 30+yrs the priorities of marriage have to be put in place, many believe that one or two flaws or attributes of the relationship over see the other just as important factors of marriage,,,,a car is built with many things we may think are meaningless but attribute to the car working properly,, same in marriage, people feel that if the sex isnt as good or the attitude isnt as it was , then work on it dont allow someone else to give you something that can be fixed by your partner, everything thats in a relationship is there for a reason, just like a car , every part of it needs to be touch upon and made equally important and treated equally, never over focus on just sex as being the focal point of a marriage, everything in a relationship matters, ! if its broke fix it! and if your just into the relationnship because of the sex then get a prostitute, and save the emotional roller coaster with your partner!
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AnaRita
AnaRita: Well said. Nowadays people know the price of everything and the value of nothing. Materialistic people can ruin lives and for what, moments of pleasure that can translate in future pain. You are free to choose what to do, but you are not free from the consequences of your choices. If you are cheating on the person you gave your word, don`t cry when you are the recipient of that same attitude you having towards your bf or spouse. Sooner or later you pay for your actions and you are not going to like or be happy in the end. Sorry is not for the weak, but for those that get caught
You can robe a bank and be happy, but if the bank short changed you you are going to be furious.
Sometimes Your Knight in shining armour is just a retard in tin foil.
Hurt me with the truth, but never comfort me with a lie.
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mahree222
mahree222: If you're cheating, no matter at what, and you continue knowing it's wrong, then you deserve to suffer the consequences. You can't whine and cry if the IRS nabs you, you can't whine and cry if your bf leaves you. Face the music if you want to be dishonest. Cheating doesn't usually come alone. Most that cheat are liars and thieves, also. Not saying that you are, but when someone does any one of the three, I put them in same category as the rest. The reason I can't do any of the three is my conscience. I couldn't live with myself. How are you doing living with yourself, it has to be heavy to carry around?
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chrisdlion
chrisdlion: Everyone has their opinion on cheating , but has anyone thought that maybe just maybe some people have a sickness or a mental problem that cant be helped, i as a Clinical Hypnotherapist have seen that women who are bi polar have a higher sex drive than a woman who does'nt suffer from this sickness, and some men suffer from a abandonment issue and tend to cheat more than some men, we tend to think everyone is geared mentally the same way and we are truly not,,, NARCISSISM is a huge form of sickness that people suffer from and they are pretty much self absorbed in themselves and cast out any type of guilt or feelings aside, and think only of themselves at the moment,, so before we cast stones at others , try to remember that their could be other serious factors happening in the act of cheating,, if someone is cheating it must be dealt with help of a therapist , and not just walking away! and judging others without knowing the person and the mental state their in is just wrong in my opinion!
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Cherokee 26
Cherokee 26: very interesting and intriguing point you have there chrisdlion. In the heat of the moment of finding out that ones partner has cheated they may just be heated in so much rage and emotion that they dont take the time to actually think about what underlying issues someone may have.
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chrisdlion
chrisdlion: This may apply to anything, we need to think about the normality of things, i used to assume alot of things and get angered and in the end find that my anger wasnt justified and there i showed my own maturity and emotional flaws,, so we have to understand is that if you think something is wrong , why doesnt the other person feel the same as you do, its because maybe the way of normality is compromised by a mental trauma or sickness, these arent things that the average person can not detect, and are blinded to how a person is going to act out ,, like a mechaniic and a car, if you drive a car that may make a small jerk it may not mean much to you while you drive and you avoid taking it in and then bam something happens to it one day on the road and your left on the side of the road, well all along a mechanic would of known the problem it made its first jerk, he would told you what the problem was informing you so there wouldnt be surprised, and when it did break down your anger would be lesser because you would of been aware and informed,, so we all need to think first before we react to a certain thing with our partner,, pay attention to what you feel are signs of things that are not normal or reckless, and disreguard to the feelings of life or animals or others peoples feelings,,,NARCISSISM!
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hounddog69
hounddog69: i'm a married man for 30 yrs and i don't get much sex anymore and i'm thinking about having an affair so i don't think i'm no better then you i'm not ready to lay down and die yet so have fun
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deuce916
deuce916: I cheated a few times during my marriage. So what.
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diolover71
diolover71: Double castration with a side order of a karate chop to the throat.
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diolover71
diolover71: Sorry;I almost forgot...and a left hook to the pancreas.
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hounddog69
hounddog69: So to all those cheaters out there was it really worth it to cheat on your wife,girlfriend,boyfriend or husband , how did you feel afterwards , guilty as hell or happy to do it ......i really like to know your input on this matter....as i am thinking of having an affair on my wife because our sex life sucks, i still think i'm too young to lay down and die.
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christina16bb
christina16bb: thats why guys u have to convince your partner to become swingers and spice your sex life up
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hounddog69
hounddog69: I tried that , that didn't work out so well with the wife , she's kinda old fashion she thought i was crazy and being stupid.I just wanted to have a little fun in my life i said to her , i said to her if you do not want to have sex with me then lets split up so i can have sex with other women, she didn't like that to much but at least i gave her something to think about.
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