Im cheating and I can't stop! (Page 14)

classylady61: Tohio. Instead of cheating why don't you talk to your wife about what u missing. She might not be aware of it.. Would you want to be cheated on if it was you?. some men use the excuse that their wife not giving them what they need just to cheat. Maybe you not getting what u need because u not giving her what she need.

uglycow10: I think that it is human nature to just want, "new toys"...and the urge is too irresistible to some people.. Some people are greedy and they just want what they want . Some are totally driven by the sheer excitement of ."getting one over", on their partner.
However, let's face the fact that even though we might view certain actions as ,"cheating"...the cheaters clearly do not.
It's all perception......

BrandyRose:

tohio4m4m: Classylady61
Have been there/done that.
Has not resolved this issue.

tohio4m4m: Uglycow10,
Not sure it is so much an 'in your face' thing. Similar to people taking chances skydiving, drag racing, etc. Possibly the thrill of the hunt, the success, the element of fear of being caught. Or possibly just horny !

taylorderek28b: @ classylady61. I hear you on that point! But to dogpile on that, maybe they should've never got together in the first place until the knew more about each other and were truthful on their needs and wants! Some people lie to get what they want, whether material, financial or even relationships.

Sir Loin: OMG! I find myelf in complete agreement with Classylady on this one.
Taylor I think two people don't really know each other till they've lived together for at least 5 years so its a tough call to know how truly compatible they are.
Do we even really know what it is we want from life anyway? Our dreams and aspirations change continually through life. Perhaps this is why some couples seem to drift apart and end up cheating on each other
What is cheating anyway?
To me it would be disloyalty, if my wife stopped believing in me and became unsupportive, then I would feel cheated. If she had sex with some other guy well... big deal! It's just skin on skin contact, like shaking hands. I'm realistic enough to realise I am not her dream man in bed, years have played havoc with my once sexy body, the 6 pack is now a keg, the long flowing locks have disappeared and my teenage hormones are long gone. If she fancies a bit of younger meat then I would understand.
Sex is not what a lasting relationship is built on, it's love, loyalty and faith in each other. Supporting each other through the tough times and the good. So why the emphasis on sexual cheating? There are far more important things!

Alex_flame: it's easy to cheat but hard to stay loyal. But if you find a proper wife maybe wouldn't have a reason for cheating. I don't know? )) I never found such a woman ;|

Alex_flame: it's everything about the love.

classylady61: If you realky love someone from the dealt of your soul & heart you don't want to cheat

Sir Loin: Alex, it's hard to find such a woman for sure. I guess I'm lucky because after a couple of false starts I managed to find just such a wife. However you're right, the vast majority of women are much more interested in a mans bank balance than his personality. As soon as the cash is gone the cheating starts.

classylady61: Sir loin just because you attracted the wrong king of women don't knock all women. If men start looking for love instead of sex they might get a real woman

Sir Loin: I didn't knock all women, only most and I stick by that statement. There have been many social experiments done on attraction and invariably an appearance of wealth is number one for the majority of women in the west. Most men I know don't go looking for sex once they're older than 18 anyway. They want a kind caring and loyal woman who wants a committed relationship. Sadly these qualities are missing in so many western women

Cameerond: TBH I let my wife cheat just to cheat it keeps us going

irondominator: "Most men I know don't go looking for sex once they're older than 18 anyway."

What planet are you from? It's more like MOST HEALTHY MEN are looking for sex around that age. This is programmed into our DNA and no man should be ashamed of it.

irondominator: @kings_077 Certainly you are confusing loving with being in love. We don't have sex with our children, but we do have sex with those we are in love with. Sex and love are two different things however. You can have sex with someone you are not in love with; but that doesn't mean you can't love having sex with them.