Sisterhood

Mew_: I've been thinking a lot about how women view women here lately. It pains me to see females at each other throats and putting each other down and I want to figure out why. And no, I'm not talking about jealousy its deeper than that. I'm speaking of mutual respect, admiration, and love.

This THING, this sacred bond can only be passed down from the females in your family, like my mother and her mother, and so on. The sad part I often forget the knowledge that was trusted to me.

For all of you that are like, wtf is she talking about? I want to apologize that you've been silent in the circle for all these years. Maybe it's my job and every female who has come and gone in your life responsibility to wake you from your slumber. We haven't given up on you and will not.

Mew_: Sisterhood is a bond that goes beyond being family. It connects women to each other and in its most magical manifestations, allows each woman in the sisterhood to thrive in ways she could never do on her own.

Sisterhood provides a safe space for your truest self to emerge. It is a place where your tears are caught not judged, where you are held not ridiculed, and where it’s okay to not be okay.

Sisterhood is also a place to show up, share and heal especially when it feels like your entire world is crumbling around you because, at its core, sisterhood is where YOU are caught, held, and nurtured and where you get to do the same for another woman.
~Makeda Pennycooke ~

PaleBurnedAcid: Those are my own feelings on sisterhood. However I feel that society has taught women that they are in competition with each other, which is sad and helps the patriarchal system flourish.

Did you know the rarest form of murder is sisters killing sisters?

milaz0id: I feel lucky that my mother taught me things when I was very young that set the tone for my growth and awareness of the reality of socialization.
She said “you are beautiful and wonderful exactly as you are, but always remember there is not a limited quantity of beauty in the world. You don’t have to compete for it. There is enough for everyone.”
This applies to many aspects of life not just beauty: partners, friendships, success in work or education.
I wish every girl heard that as a child from someone they trust. If it hits home, they don’t grow up feeling the need to tear each other down to feel like they are somehow “better” or even “enough.”
My sisters are people who understand this concept. I’m drawn to them. People who do not seem to get it disrupt the sense of sisterhood you’re describing, and you can only bring them in and help if someone wants to see it. Many do not and those people repel me almost instinctively.

Great topic, mewmew

milaz0id: First part of that got cut off. Derp wireclub.

Mew_: Re: Paley comment
I agree with it being competitive and purposely conditioned that way and, it is very sad. However, if we are self aware and aware of others we can blossom and replant the seed for another millennium. Thank you for you.

Mew_: Re: Milaboo
I get the frustration on those who just don't get it. I have to question why, like what horrible thing did these ladies endure to become women haters? Then I think maybe their mothers were invisible in the circle too. They didn't see it because they weren't seen.
Thank you for you. <3

milaz0id: Mewski, yes, it’s about feeling they are not “seen.” Seeing yourself clearly should come first, imo, to move past that sense of invisibility. Sometimes it takes fully growing up to get there if we don’t have that support as kids.
At this point I don’t even find it frustrating. It’s awareness due to repeated patterns I have experienced, and I tend to avoid letting the pattern get close.
The thing is: we’ve all endured something. Every single one of us. Men and women. We’ve all been through something. It’s what makes us who we are along with our choices in how to proceed and move on. Some people move past it, and some do not. Pinning it on something that once happened is a crutch, and if we never drop the crutch, we never fully recover. And it’s never safe to assume someone had it better or worse than ourselves. Many people have experienced neglect and horror at the hands of others and breathe not a word.

Mew_: Mila like always, you make a good point.