What are advantages of being a loner ?

justsomeone11
justsomeone11: there are times I love spending my free time alone even if I have a bunch of ppl I can hang out with. Sometimes i just have a need to be alone, not having ppl around that will tell me what do so or what not to do and put pressure on me concerning some certain things. I am aware that being a loner has A LOT of disadvantages, such as ... you get used to being lonely, you don't have many friends, ppl automatically think you're some kind of weirdo and god knows what. but there seem to be good thing about it to. i personally think that it makes you stronger, you learn how to depend on yourself, not just on your parents or friends, cause let's face it - eventually some ppl will let you down, and then you will probaby be like " why have i opened my heart to them in the first place?" On the other hand, you restore yourself when you're alone . you have more time to think about some other things . so what do you think. btw, sorry for my english. if you find a couple of mistakes, don't be suprised, i have been learning english for a couple of years so I'm not good at it but I'm trying x)
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Tink
Tink: One advantage for me is the peace and quiet. I love listening to nature I really abhor man made noise, but it is part of life so I have learned to tune much of it out.
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LiptonCambell
LiptonCambell: Of course theres some advantages to being a loner. If you want to be a loner, don't let anyone tell you otherwise
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James 407
James 407: I've spent the biggest part of my life alone. It's not always a bad thing. You mentioned that you're afraid of someone eventually letting you down. There's an old saying that is credited towards the performer Bob Marley before his death. It states: At some point, everyone is going to let you down. You just have to decide which of them are worth holding onto. Be sure where you stand in life, & then make your decision. Take the 1st step, & don't look back. Make sure that you act in YOUR best interests. After all, it will be you that lives w/ the after-effects. Best of luck to you in your decisions.
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violeta23
violeta23: I've found, at least in my experience, that a lot of people aren't worthy of my company. They're boring or shallow, and I tire of them easily. So if you want to be my friend, then you have to be better than my own company (which I really enjoy).
It is much more pleasant to have time on your own to reflect and think. I find those people that constantly have to immerse themselves in groups and everyone else, looking for the next bit of drama or gossip, really...bizarre. Why go to all the trouble? Just chill out, do your own thing, spend time on your own figuring out who you are.

Not to mention, you can do your own thing, there's no one bossing you around and telling you what to do, which is how I like it. I need to be in control of myself at all times.
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Zanjan
Zanjan: What do you mean by a ‘loner’? Does it refer to marital/romantic status.........that is, choosing to fly solo? Does it refer to being independent, an introvert, a hermit, anti-social, quirky? Is it a temporary situation or permanent?

I don't think a bred-in-the-bone loner gets lonely very often if they have some contacts, family and interests to sustain them; and, if they spend occasional time in the community, it seems that suits them just fine. Withdrawn from humanity, on the other hand, is a different situation; generally, not a good sign.

Everyone loves to have their time alone; how much time, I guess, is the question. Maybe it's not about having time alone so much as it is what we chose to do with it. One can have so many occupations or responsibilities that tending to the needs of close friends or a mate would be overwhelming.

I’ve known people who’ve had to live in remote areas or travel so much in their job they can’t have any commitments holding them back from what they need and want to do. This is more by choice I think, than happenstance. To me, that would be a rare gift one should make the most of since you never know how long it will last and there are so few people who are free to do that.


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