Happily Married ??? (Page 9) (Post deleted by flamingred )  paulmansfield2009: grass is no greener just newer; thats why you see the signs stay off the grass; think about it ; all have a great day  (Post deleted by Searchonglostfrndask ) paulmansfield2009: Well I missed the topic It takes chemistry to survive todays world. It takes two sides to make it thanks just the same for your note shame I was late take care stay safe. Paul (Post deleted by Searchonglostfrndask )  Indie_dad: Sometimes a marriage can change. If one partner is unable to see how they are hurting the other then that partner can kill the love. Then a once happy marriage dies Searchonglostfrndask: Happily married ?? I'm not married yet I believe two people can be happily married * I believe if two people who are compatable* Like to do the same things * Go to the same places * Friends with each other as well as lovers * Attracted to each other equally I believe marriage can last with them a long time* Indie_dad: You are correct that a love can last. Mom and Dad were 29 days shy of 62 years when Dad died. They were very much in love. Not the young infatuated kind of love and not the middle age kind of love that is newly empty nest and rediscovering but the mature love of holding each other through lifes tragedies as well as joys. Through burying close family and friends as well as celebrating milestones of the elderly. This exists and I believe that is every couples dream in the beginning. But sometimes people either forget that they need to work on their marriage or just stop trying. Either way love dies. A strong marriage is give and take on both sides. It cannot always be one partner pulling the weight and the other partner just coasting. Both partners have to feel their needs are being met.  flamingred: Indie Dad i think you borught up a very important point ..... Both partners have to believe their needs are being met and if not..... sooner or later they look elseware or they break the marriage contract and go out on their own to find their happiness MJ59: Yeah, true that red, but on the other hand, if one partner doesn't communicate that their needs aren't being met,caries on as if they are happy in their place and then just wipes the other partner away one day without any kind of dialogue, well that's just plain selfish, rude and nasty MJ59: And yes, I am pissed off that my ex wife did that and also resisted every attempt of mine to open up a discourse with her because her "childhood sweetheart" was back in her life and advising her to have nothing to do with me whilst abusing me at every chance he could find....sad cow couldn;t even stop listening to her ovaries for 5 minutes to recall what I;d given her for 30 years  And yes, she married him because of "what if"..... idiot (Edited by MJ59)  Motati: I still have a great respect for marriage as an institution. I am thinking that our grandparents and parents also had challenges in their marriages, but they worked on them. True Angry, respect and communication are very important. Indie-dad you have summed up what a good marriage is. I have seen that with my parents my aunts. That made me realise that marriage is a beautiful thing. (Edited by Motati) flamingred: in earlier generations when there was trouble in a marriage , they couldnt just hop on the internet and have cyber sex with an anonymous person and forget their troubles like people do today  deacon7771: My wife and I have been married 30 years, you know, it feels like five minutes... being held under water! (Post deleted by Searchonglostfrndask ) flamingred: I was married for 40 years, and really should have thought about it much more than i idid when asked, it was an average marriage and so so as long as i did most of the work keeping it smooth running, finally got fed up and decided to get out on my own and waited too long but having a good time now and doing what i want to do and no one that i have to ask permission to do things so , fine now but do hope to find the right man for a relationship second time around , meanwhile i have fun searching The giant midget: Way back in the old days separation and divorce was seen as a sin Way back in the old days homosexuality was seen as a sin Way back in the old days sex acts were seen as sins Way back in the old days everything was a sin if it didn't conform with religious beliefs. Just yesterday in some Mus:;"'n nation a 26 year old young lady was Whipped 50 lashes in public square because she gave her boyfriend a kiss , it's a sin out of marriage Old days people were forced to stay in marriage,afraid of being shamed by authorities,by family and neighbors Just imagine if she gave her boyfriend a blow job flamingred: giant midget she is lucky she did not get stoned, men rape the women and then they stone the women for getting raped. kind of like if u floated u were a witch if u drowned u were innocent The giant midget: That's why I only get in the pool if it has stools at the wet bar I can't be called a witch for floating or be innocent if I drown , that's why I sit my big ass down eh flamingred: lol i get called a witch for various reasons and cant swim worth shit so safe not to be declared one officially |