Can you fall in love even after being happily married for a long period of time... (Page 2) sandsbeyond: yes it does, I have the same feeling, and its harder and harder not to grab that person and kiss them  beadfairy1000: It is very hard, but luckily I have a good relationship with the "other" person. But still after 5 years I have not given in to my desire to jump him. sandsbeyond: I have a great relationship with her, don't get me wrong, I love my wife but this other woman has become my best friend and I think about her every minute beadfairy1000: He is also my best friend and we get to spend time together. I'm even friends with his wife, but she does not know how we feel about each other. Robot Seb: Randomly came across this and wanted to offer some advice... This has happened to me a few times in a few relationships but only married once which is the best example. Years ago my ex wife and I were together for several years. By the end, she had this guy friend which actually was a pretty chill kinda guy. Like myself, he would address her parents as Mr. and Mrs., was a 4.0 student in a state university studying journalism, and most importantly to me, it was someone who was able to inspire good habits in her. One day she said she had feelings for him and that she was very torn up about it as she didn't want to hurt me. I just asked the only question which matters in this situation, who was in her heart. She said she wasn't sure. The following day, we drove around the city to some of our regular places to go and just talked about it, just a lot of soul searching and heart to heart. As much as I didn't want to lose her, it was the way her eyes sparkled as she spoke about him that I hadn't seen in years. I thought to myself, I can't ask them to sacrifice their happiness just to satisfy my own as I'd feel selfish. I told her to follow her heart and that if he was the guy for her, I would support and respect her choice even if I didn't agree with it personally. It hurt but at the same time, it was the right thing to do. It was after that event which is when I stopped thinking about my wants & needs entirely, and started helping others in need of support in similar situations. As much as that situation could have made me bitter and spiteful, I wouldn't allow that to happen. I let it empower me. They gave me the ability to see past myself and to do things purely for the sake of others to the point I don't have any wants & needs now, and just focus solely on helping others. In a weird way, it also taught me that sometimes the most upsetting experiences can lead to the most rewarding experiences (spiritual growth) and a deeper, more profound way of life. If a person truly cares for you, they would do the right thing in this situation but at the same time, do them a favor and just be upfront with them about it. Having a heart to heart talk is the only way for all to have proper closure. They may be upset but they deserve that much at the very least.  to all in this position. It's not an easy one to be in. |
