Balance

tularcitas: I have a few alone time moments and I would like to share a thought. Yesterday I realized that I was starting to cocoon myself with my newborn to the exclusion of my husband. By that, I mean that my 100% focus when the three of us are together is on my baby. I looked at my husbands eyes and I felt an overwhelming sense of sadness and immediately realized what I was doing. Today, I took his hands and told him "I need you!" I felt a great sense of happiness from him. I also realized that I was cutting off my sexuality towards him because I had some strange idea in the back of my mind that it would taint my "purity" with my baby. Anyway, I'm glad I caught myself and I do remember him telling me when we were first together that he felt his ex-wife distanced herself from him because a similar thing happened when they had their two daughters.

Empty_Everest: It is natural what you are going through, do you remember I mentioned to you that you have to create a space for the husband? not cutting him off and never forget about the importance of his and your sexuality above anything and anyone else.

tularcitas: Yes, I do remember you telling me that. You were right. You were also right about my baby being a boy when everyone else was telling me it was going to be a girl. Things are going well with M. in ALL ways. My bleeding from the placental remnants went away and my depression did as well. I don't know how I lucked out finding M. He has been there for me through all of my truly nasty behavior since he and I have been together. M says hi!

Empty_Everest: Dear friend you deserve what you are having, my best desires for all of you, then layer on working on the little girl .