First Time Mom tularcitas: I'll soon be a first time mom at 39. Those of you who have had children a bit later in life, were there any issues with your kids, as they grew up, having older parents?  Mooseknuckle: worst part for myself, is trying to 'socialize ' with parents of my child's friends who are in their early 20's . they ignore their kids at stores and parks, and stare into their phones like fucking zombies . then their kid falls , gets hurt and they look up and go '.... weird, i had my eyes on little johnny the entire time ' . Mooseknuckle: we went to a kids indoor playground like 2 months ago... there were....say 100 parents in there . me and 2 other adults were the only ones not on a phone, pc / tablet . and i even said to the guy next to me, you know these will be the first dummies on tv tonight wondering how their kid was taken . tularcitas: Yes.....I've occasionally engaged with my girlfriends kids when the kids were being ignored by mom. Mooseknuckle: my new hobby , and yes. i know im a total cunt for doing this .... so, we go to six flags often , and as i walk through crowds ... i purposefully look for people staring down at their phones while walking through crowds and i trip them , and then look mean and say watch where the fk you are going !!!! yea, i am so mature , lol tularcitas: Moose..I truly admire you...you have created an amazing path in your life...overcome SO much adversity...I wish I had your strength. Mooseknuckle: you have it . you really do . you just have not tapped into it . when you desire that.... above all else ... you can do anything . but you must want it more than , just saying ' i want that ' . tularcitas: Moose...I didn't grow up with adversity like you..I just never really was challenged...and when Jesse left me for another, I fell apart...Had no strength, recourses I had accumulated. Mooseknuckle: the mistake is thinking adversity did this . it is drive and desire of want and direction ... you must desire a change, any change in your life to move you forward . and it always costs with and AT a cost . the key is.... what is that worth to you . tularcitas: Moose...okay...I guess, too, it is also knowing what we want? I think that if everything is centered around wanting love, it can take the focus off of other directions.  Empty_Everest: Personally I feel you are in the perfect age tula, you are ready for it I know that you shouldn't measure yourself with others mothers, because you are unique like no other and comparisons create unnecessary deficiencies, if you are looking for a logical point of reference focus on Nature Destiny_Zion: Age is really relative. I had children in my 20's, 30's and 40's. Each age/stage had it's pros and cons. Identify and be aware your strengths and your weaknesses. Maximise on your strengths and improve your weakness. Make the most of all opportunities. I have failed and succeeded on many fronts. I forgive myself often and I try not to look back as I'm not going that way. Love will carry you through it all, tula. Motherhood is an amazing experience that will change you in so ways you never knew were possible. Lots of love and good wishes to you and your family. Same to you EE and Moose. You can do it. We can do it  tularcitas: I've already fallen in love so deeply with the little guy! I know that when he's given to me to hold for the first time, I'll be totally immersed! Thank you all. Great comments! ♥♥♥♥♥  Brandijoi12: No one can answer this for you. It's instinctual. Stop worrying. I'll be having a baby too, but I have experience. All kids are different. Do the best you can. That's the answer. Destiny_Zion: https://www.irishtimes.com/life-and-style/health-family/25-things-every-new-mum-needs-to-know-1.3121253 tularcitas: Destiny, ty....Excellent advice...My Mom will stay with us for awhile while we adjust and I'm the last of my gf's to have children and have been deluged with offers of just about everything...I feel blessed. Destiny_Zion: thinking of you, tula. I met a lady at the gym with the same due date as baby Aaron Can't wait to see him. All the best, Momma xx  BlunderDog: Kind of an old topic but i will weigh in anyway. Keep in mind you will be older and wiser than many and may be prone to over protect. Allow them their own mistakes when it wont do permanent damage. It is how we learn the most important lessons best. Action and consequence. tularcitas: Thanks, Blunder, good advice. I know I have that proclivity to overprotect. Aaron's father has two daughters and has been through this before tularcitas: I feel one of my main focuses will to try to instill in Aaron a good sense of self...and by that, I mean in addition to honoring the spirit within himself, to also honor the spirit within others. I agree with you about action and consequences. I think the key will be to be to not make Aaron somehow a bad child but yes, to allow him to see the effect his actions can have on others, as well as on himself. | Parenting Chat Room 29 People Chatting Similar Conversations |
