How do I deal with my boyfriends extremely ungrateful adult yet juvenile like children?

sasagirl
sasagirl: I feel like i am going to have a stroke! They make me so angry! My boyfriend doesn't have much. He gives everything to his kids, does everything for them. They are adults. He just doesn't see it. I feel obligated to help them, but God forgive me , I can't stand them. We want to get married, but its a " package deal " . At least one of the kids will have to live with us. This kid, age 21... Who just now got his GED has stolen from friends, family, extorted money, been arrested for dealing drugs, owed money to thugs who threatened to come into his elderly grandmothers home with guns to collect their money and took/ stole my boyfriends car.... A shitbox, the only thing he has, that I actually bought for him, and totalled it. Lost his drivers license several times, right now owes @$5000 in tickets. I have bailed this kid out, he owes me thousands! Money I could use and need, yet he could care less. My boyfriend thinks he is a wonderful kid who is just a little lost..... What do I do?
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shakin8368
shakin8368: run as fast and as far as you can it wont get better
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tsez4ok
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ShadowBomb360
ShadowBomb360: Put ur foot down and tell your boyfriend that he needs to hande his kids or you leave him
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denniskau
denniskau: cut your losses and run ...
he is not worth your love
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SCSilk
SCSilk: He is not your husband. He is only your boyfriend. You are allowed to leave.
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tsez4ok
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Ang3lBlaz3
Ang3lBlaz3: I agree with everyone else. Run! And dont look back. The stress is slowly killing you. Life is too short not to be happy if he cant cut the apron strings with his grown kids then he and the "kids " deserve each other! And you deserve better.
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The giant midget
The giant midget:
Quite simple solution







GET THE FUCK OUT, YESTERDAY
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ozborne
ozborne: how do you deal? there's no question of dealing here..either of you leave on their own.
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kevkam221
kevkam221: disappear gal disappear 'you're only going to live in sadness or tell him to kick his grown Kids out or you;re gone
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MSSharaz
MSSharaz: shhh! Keep quiet, don't let them know you've outsmarted them. You're only adding to the damage you want to prevent. Just keep quiet, don't post online, don't talk to anyone. Don't procreate. Just hide somewhere off the grid and hold on strong to your beliefs so no one can take them away from you. Goodbye , God Bless, if you never reply again we will all know ur doing great and we are with you in spirit !! Be free
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The giant midget
The giant midget: ShArass you are a total pile is shit imo
What she is to hide in the closet and the problem will go away ??
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MSSharaz
MSSharaz: And you took the whole thing out of context I did not mean it that way
Keep drinking the toilet water. It's good for your immune system. You Imbecile.
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The giant midget
The giant midget: Imbecile???
Hardly dear, anyone who reads your post will,call,you worse than I did
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islandgirl7700
islandgirl7700: frm my exp dating a guy with adult children is to get the hell out of dodge ............... i have stories and they aren't pretty
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islandgirl7700
islandgirl7700: if you dont get out they will bring the authorities in to prove their case against you all because u set up boundaries/ house rules. been there done it .my ex diseased common law husband kids were in their late 20s / early 30s .it was a night mare
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islandgirl7700
islandgirl7700: i had to go to the cops to protect my self frm his daughter wanting to take my computer ... it was g/d crazy ... nightmare
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tinkerbellfaery
tinkerbellfaery: Well why drop your knickers to such a person?
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islandgirl7700
islandgirl7700: tinker what the hell does that mean ... why be an ass
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SCSilk
SCSilk: Tinker, Usually the sex happens long before you meet the family.

And in this case, since the father has been making excuses for the offspring all along, he’s most likely cast his children in the best possible light. In this age, people don’t interrogate potential dates about all family members before deciding to date.

The problem here is continuing to hope for a serious relationship given how dependent his adult children are.
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Ang3lBlaz3
Ang3lBlaz3: Tinker it doesn't matter when you "drop your knickers" as you say. I have known people who were in an almost 20 year relationship. He was estranged from his daughter and she came back into his life after all those years. He was so excited for her being back in his life that he opened his wallet and his home. Blinded by the excitement she ran a scam on him and cleaned him out. Literally stole his money & things from his home. So where does that leave his wife? Feeling violated! Having her jewelry stolen. So personally i feel that adult children should be treated as adults , me opening my wallet are of days past unless you absolutely really need it dont expect it from me. I raised you, the allowance stopped when you moved out. Opening up my home, sure! On holidays, you can visit but beyond that your on your own. Your grown now and by all means .....go be grown!
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Angry Beaver
Angry Beaver: Hire a hitman
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SCSilk
SCSilk: Leaving is easier and not illegal.
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Lunga Pausa
Lunga Pausa: This will only get far worse if you marry him. Why have you stayed this long?? Run!!!
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beccaelle1
beccaelle1: Kids come first. Take a hike. Go and live on your own if you dont' like it.
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