should women breast feed in public or go some where private? (Page 23)
Sir Loin: Billie, that is a wonderful and very selfless act of yours to help a friend.
I don't have many heroes; Einstein is one, Sir Ed Hillary another but you have just joined them
Billie Ingle: She is 21 but since she was 4 heavy sexual abused so mental fucked up and to help her it costs a lot because she has emotional mix-ups, one moment she is suicidal, the other insane and other times it is like you talk to a wall but who knows her know why she is like that and we found out what was wrong at her fathers funeral when she was from yes yes finally thank you God and we all from wtf is wrong with that girl being happy her father died till she said years of abuse, years of rape ends now only we noticed she had a sarcastic love because did you hurt yourself she enjoyed it and that is dangerous because you see actions a normal person won't show because a normal person would say are you fine while she was from did it hurt bad and if you say no she was from oooooh damn. I decided to help raise money with risky pics but that isn't something if you know I help my friend with it
Sir Loin: Billie that kind of abuse leads to PTSD later in life which isn't fully understood but sure causes all those problems you mention.
It's doubly bad when the abuser is someone as close as a parent who should be protecting her from such abuse, or at least comforting her if it happens, your friend has nobody but you to help her.
In my country help for victims is free, it doesn't have to be paid for because the therapists salaries are paid by the Govt. extra assistance is provided by a universal insurance system called ACC which covers us all for accidents or abuse.
My youngest daughter was physically and emotionally abused by her mother, she now has brain damage from the beatings. We've been able to access help for her through our health system but still the effects of PTSD continue sometimes.
Billie Ingle: it is like you see someone with autism from the highest level only we know she doesn't have autism but so broken is she that she can't control herself and if they can help why not because if we say oh it goes over wrong slowly she will get a hate and become psychopathic so she need to learn that not all males wanna hurt her I'm groomed to by my own gf I had as teen worst was she was so manipulative i didn't realize it she was from rub me and i rub you but she was older and i didn't know she was harassing me till a day she was from Billie undress and sit in the living room while we had visit and i felt ashamed after a while she locked me up in a basement and i had to pee and poop where i slept only those things can be forgotten but when your own father abused you for years you can't because she didn't feel sadness but just happiness and than you can be sure something is so wrong. I am married so i learned to trust someone giving me her love but if you single it is hard because what do they want and do they mean well and that is why we want she goes to a mental hospital so she can learn to trust people and learn what true love is
Iris Goessens: It is nice from you Billie that you help a friend only see you don't put yourself into any disgrace to help others because it is still exposing yourself but for a part I understand it and once you are traumatized it will be hard to get rid of that.
I have a friend which has GAD so an Anxiety disorder and a child she had heavy bloody noses being in a panic she would die from it and even you tell she won't die from losing a bit blood out of her nose the fear she will die is there and only therapy can help because she need someone who can tell her that her fear is something she doesn't need because not all is so scary she has to be in an anxiety 24/7.
I wish you much luck and even I'm a lesbian I'm married but I pay with love the $45 only because I know I can help someone with so Billie I hope they can help her and i know who you are from youtube and i know your past isn't the best one either but you had helped to get over it so I hope your friend can get the help she needs to get over her fear because even women can be bad, not only men but it is not everyone has a bad heart and even the most though looking persons can have a golden heart, btw I gave a little extra as payment because I enjoy seeing that there is still real friendship and not friends which pretend they are your best friend and stick a knife in your back if you need them.
coniporter5: I had 4 children and wen it come time to feed my baby..I always had a blanket or something to cover me baby just a small blanket ..
Nicotina: If a mother wants to use a cover sure. Some mothers might feel more comfortable doing so. Feeding a baby ought not be restricted.
Nicotina: ^^^ This is why some women feel uncomfortable nourishing their child.
"Lop your gurls out...", this isn't being done for your entertainment!
zeffur: Their ^^ hang-up isn't my hang-up--but, it may be your hang-up. If a person has privacy issues or embarrassment issues, then they can do whatever they need to do to cope with those issues. Others just do whatever they want to do.
There shouldn't be any kind of legal prohibition associated with breast feeding in public, imo. If you disagree--who cares? I certainly don't care whatever your issue is. I was just giving my opinion in my normal unfiltered manner. Don't like it? I don't care. See a pattern here??
p.s.: I never stated or implied it was for anyone's entertainment. Your assumption is unwise.
Nicotina: zeffur, the way you phrased your comment was what I reacted to.
Stating "Lop your gurls out" is far from respectful of a parent who is nourishing their child.
hornchurchmale: same old story but if we link it to other past attitudes compared to todays society we can always see changes and what. may feel right. for one person can offend another . 'spend a penny' was a term from old England where. you paid a Penney to a may with a large hoop and curtain . you went to toilet behind that closed curtain and gave him a pent .that later transferred to public toilets as a small fee. however before that. ladies and men simply dropped pants and defected in a trough in full public view and not an eye lid got batted. these days I suspect even our lets feed a baby. form our breast in public idealists may have blushed. rules. customs evolve. get with. program of todays society and that I breast. feeding is fine but. do add a touch of courtesy for others ( or even a shy mother) by covering so not all on show. Yes aware it's natural but so is defacating and do you really want to say you ought top have righter do that in public without covering? please grow up some of you . a bit of modesty or courtesy costs. zilch.
Nicotina: The breast is covered though. It is covered by the baby! It is up to the mother as to what she feels comfortable with.
zeffur: The main reason that we don't defecate in public any more isn't mainly due to emotional issues--it is due to the awareness of the spread of disease via human waste--which is irrelevant to the issue of breastfeeding.
What's really at issue with the subject of breastfeeding is the psychological reaction of people to it. Frankly, they should get over their issues by hiding their boobs while they breastfeed or ignoring people who aren't bashful in public by breastfeeding openly.
This subject isn't as complicated as rocket science. Women should have a legally guaranteed right to breastfeed in public & decide for themselves whether they will cover up or not, imo. Other people should get over their emotional issues associated with breastfeeding--mainly by ignoring breastfeeders.