should women breast feed in public or go some where private? (Page 2)
ms bossypants: OMG are you for real mystery chick? do you realize the benefits your baby gets from breastmilk? fair enough if you cannot breastfeed but making a choice like that and comparing a nursing mum to a cow is well out of order!
why SHOULD a nursing mother have to be discreet anyway?
why SHOULD a nursing mother have to go to a bathroom and feed her little one? you do not eat your dinner in the toilet do you?
its actually discrimination to ask a nursing mother to go elsewhere when feeding her child.
Mysteriousblackcat: did you not read i said that a woman was not like a cow. but it makes you think though cows and humans are different i know that im a dairy farmer
Quantum zero: Lol, I didnt think she read it properly either Mysty. Either that or shes teASing you hun!
Mysteriousblackcat: well i think she is really offended and well im allowed my opinon as she is as well.
kingdeantulloch: breast feeding is a natural and beautiful thing and any man or woman who is ashamed of that is just a inhumane ediot
Mysteriousblackcat: i can't say its just an American issue how i came up with this question was in relation to a Australian soap. and well i have never even set foot in America but i think that is as hot as an issue in Ireland as it is any where else
Bumpa: It's hard to believe this is an issue anywhere on earth these days. Witholding food from an infant is child abuse which is unacceptable anywhere!
What is an issue for me is so called "mothers rooms" in shopping centres
I was a single dad for many years and once took my toddler daughter into one of these rooms to change her bottom and heat a bottle. It was full of breast feeding women who virtually screamed the place down. My baby girl and I were escorted from the premises by security guards as though we were criminals.
Mothers aren't the only parents, most kids have a dad also.
tweedy20000: As long as you're seated somewhere where not EVERYONE can see you ( a public bus is not a good idea), just hold the baby really close to your breast, and no one will notice.
Bumpa: Just a thought, most beaches here are topless, so bouncing boobs everywhere (locally known as white pointers) So if its ok to get em out for a swim, what could possibly be wrong in getting one out for its intended purpose?
Mysteriousblackcat: well the women here are a slight bit more adverse to taking em out in public like that. but the way i see if its not bothering any one well fair enough
pinkphenomenon: Well, I'm in Ireland and they're promoting breast feeding more so than ever before...
Im intending to breast feed - if the baby doesn't leech then it doesn't leech atleast I'll get comfort in knowing I tried to give them the best I could in terms of feeding...
I'm very self conscious as it is, not because of society as such but because of inner insecurities. However, when it comes to children and their needs regardless if its deemed as embarrassing or shameful i.e wetting one self and getting them cleaned up the best way you can until you get them home, being sick on public transport and you have nothing but a few Baby wipes to clean it up and you have a while to go before your stop... Everyone's heads turn and grunt over the smell... What are you to do?
The same as when their nappy (diaper) needs changing and you're on public transport or in a park with no toilet facilities suitable for changing, you do what's best for the child without thinking about anyone else but them...
So why would breast feedibg be different? Expressing milk to a bottle isn't ideal as the baby often rejects bottles when its used to the mothers nipple.. there are some that resemble the shape but some don't take bottles and that's that.
There are clothes available where you open one or two buttons, enough for the baby to reach and suckle without anyone else having a peep or being capable of seeing anything *offensive* if they do turn heads..
A lot of women these days praise those who breastfeed and even more so in public because although one may think its not the norm or socially acceptable.. in the world of motherhood - anything natural goes, feeding when baby is hungry rather than *suiting* those around them whilst the baby cries and cries out of hunger and fear of not being fed goes, changing them when they're soiled, sick or over the top messy in public goes.
Why? Because its natural, nothing that no one hasn't seen before, we were all babies and dependant on our parents once, we all understand children and babies can't fend for themselves, can't feed or look after themselves, they rely on us mothers and parents, so whilst they're relying why would I give them less by ignoring what they need at a particular time just because I'm in a public place and one is incapable of turning their head and looking the other way if they feel uncomfortable? And why would I feel insecure doing it publically when its for the sake of my baby?
I have my own personal insecurities but when it comes to the wellbeing of ny child I will not suffice in settling on making others happy around me nor would I put them into consideration as my child's needs cone first, opinions, judgements and all the rest can be dealt with after.
Quantum zero: Breast feeding helps a babies brain to develop, AND builds their immune system. To deprive them of that just to "suit" others is just fooking WRONG!! :\
Bumpa: Pink, you go for it! Don't let anyone put you off, and hey, if you're worried about your modesty.... Forget it kiddo, just what modesty do you expect to retain after being in the delivery suite?
I am the dad of 6 kids, all breast fed and all healthy. My first wife was able to feed our baby in complete privacy on a public bus or in restaurants just by wearing a loose top and one of those drop cup maternity bras. The most she ever flashed was a stretch mark or 2 as she lifted her top.
pinkphenomenon: What I've learnt so far - leave your dignity at the door of the hospital and collect it on the way out aha!
Some women can't physically breast feed and I understand that but I'm gonna give it a try because it is the best for them.
I'll have a blanket of some description covering the baby and myself as its being fed too but the point is one should not be ashamed for tending to the needs of their hungry child.
Bumpa: Why look away? Are they doing something wrong or dirty? I would only look away if the woman is obviously shy about it, otherwise it's life as normal, continue talking to her, admire her baby, talk to her friends/ husband... Nobody should be shunned or ignored for doing something that is right and proper.
akarichard: PINK:You're spot on.You just take care of your baby.There's really nothing to be insecure about.I've seen women breast feed in public.There's really nothing to see.Why anyone would stare I don't know.Its not like you're doing a striptease.I would be more interested in the hat wearing than you feeding your baby.
pinkphenomenon: Some stare in dismay, discomfort but wouldn't dare say anything to you, others may stare out of curiosity or by accident... I'm a naturally shy person, its part of me but it won't stop me feeding my baby.