who is confused about love? kittyfriendly: True love is hard to fine. What is love? Love is kind and unselfish. When you love someone you aim to please them and make them happy. Comandante FiLTH: Love is a selfish thing. If a person gets no stimulation (anyone who no longer serve them, grows them, makes them happy) there will be no hesitation to let go of the other individual. kittyfriendly: Falling in love is a very serious matter. You are now vulnerable to heartache and pain in a relationship. But if two people truly love each other they will make every effort to please each other. One person cannot make the relationship work alone. If a person finds himself or herself, to be the only one serving and trying to make the other happy then that may not be true love. Two hearts must work as one. Each must aim to please the other. If this is not the case then this kind of love is selfish. True love is hard to fine. Comandante FiLTH: I'll prefer an intellectual partner, a couple of good qualities, trustworthy, mature and easy on the eyes (don't have to be a model, average is ok). Those 5 things are most important in a mate for me. kittyfriendly: I think those are good qualities to look for in a partner. Often times, people just focused on the outside appearance and neglect what is on the inside. Comandante FiLTH: Rare to find. It'll be great to draw to someone who is consistently genuine but I've not met anyone as yet who is. (Edited by Comandante FiLTH) kittyfriendly: Yeah, I agree it is rare. But there are genuine people out there. I think because of negative experiences, some now have walls built up, making it hard to see their true self. FearAndHunger: What's so hard to understand? Love is when you are mutual survivors. Remember, if your lover isn't willing to kill someone in a survival situation over something as small as a gallon of water, it isn't true love. ElectricPotato: Everybody has their own opinion of love and it can come in different forms explained later on in this note. I think its when 2 people enjoy there time together alot. The guys i've dated in the past thought will go down a list. If I am not completely what is not on their list they are not in love with me. I find this kind of scary because they want to get married and have kids. When you get into that life perfection is never always met. Especially if your kids are born with birth defects or if they are not as attractive or as intelligent as you want them to be before their grown. Are those people just going to abandon their children? That's also kind of like marriage but in different ways. People have their limits and some people do not. But does love stand in the way with this i'm not completely sure. I just know that people are different. Some more tolerable than others. So I guess other than enjoying other peoples time it could be nurturing and acceptance. I'm not sure if nurturing and acceptance is just limited to a parent-child relationship. From what I know it may take quite some time and that person that is willing to do that to exist in a adult relationship. | Parenting Chat Room 33 People Chatting Similar Conversations |