whats being a mom like? any tips
kritz0: Hard ass work.
You're from Calgary, eh?
I'm a very young momma. I will not have another child until I am financially secure, but me and my man aren't taking any precautions to prevent it from happening now.
Don't try it before you are sure you can financially deal with being off work for a year and be able to support another human being.
It sucks not having enough money and sacrificing everything for your child, I know a lot of young mothers who would take away from their child because sacrificing was "too hard" for them to do.
Selfish people should not...have children.
niyaz_ma: it is hard work and unless u are in a very strong realationship and financial secured dont even think about kids
Angel Eyes: I'm a single mother of a 14 month old little girl....There are times when i wanna just find a corner or closet and just cry because it can be hard at times to deal with everything on ur own. Her father hasn't seen her in 2 months and its been 5 months since he broke my heart. Having to deal with everything financially is making me break. It's hard and its a constant thing we all have to deal with to make a living. Parenthood is hard for everyone. I know how ya guys feel.
FrostedCupcake: your life will never be the same again. Your priorities will shift to your Child, meeting all their needs, and love playing at their level. It is a life time committment, so be very careful that you are prepared for this life altering event to occur. And also, realize you wont sleep for the next 18 years.......throughout the night. Life as you know it now, will be totally switched around. Hang on for the White Water Raft Ride, called "Parenthood".
NeverShoutNicole: i love being a mommy,but it can be hard sometimes.
Some ppl may say its bad to hav kids but i think its adorable watching them grow and learn things every day.
ApachesGirl: I have a 4 yr old son and an 8 month old daughter. I have to tell you that this road is a long and hard road to travel... but I wouldn't change it for the world. I do have to say it you don't have kids and you are young (I was 18 when I had my son) don't start just yet. Wait until you are with that special someone and you have a little money in the back. Don't get me wrong I LOVE being a Mommy but it is hard.
judasm: wow this is the most interesting conversation i'd ever seen in a website like this... i am not a father yet but i been thinking about it many times.. i am scared of it because i have not clue about it, but i try to learn from my parents goals and mistakes and i am proud of them.. i bet you are proud of yourself too!! if not you should!! Thanks to GOD for having women like you out there fighting for your children and for teaching us a life lesson. GOD bless you!!! I wish more people join this threat and show support and share the gifts!
P.S. I am sorry for not contributing with the real subject, i just wanted to let you know how important you can be in other people's life with your example.
PureSilver67: I am a single mum of 10yo and 8yo girls. I was married and financially secure at the time I had them but left their father when they were 5yo and 3yo.
It is beautiful, difficult, fun, sad, crazy, hillarious, exciting, maddening, upsetting, fantastic .... and more and more.
I love my two beautiful girls. I had them in my 30's. Being a mum is a wonderful, wonderful experience. Nevertheless, there are things you "give up", don't do, do differently etc because you have kids. That is the choice one makes.
ApachesGirl: Because I had a child so young I gave up a ton of stuff I liked to do. Like going out with friends and such. Mostly because the thought of being away from my baby upset me. I had very different circumstances for most young mothers though. My son's father was killed when I was 7 months pregnant with him so that changed my perspective on life. I became a single Mom at that moment and I know that I would have to do right by my son and that meant giving up things. But I would do it all over again if I had to (not that I want to, because that was hard as hell)
PureSilver67: OMG Muggs that's so sad and you've done well to move forwards under such heartbreaking times.
mrluckymatt: Being a parent is one of the greatest gifts from god that you can have, besides life itself. I'm a divorced 22 year old with a 3 year old little boy. He is my world, and i would not trade him for a single thing! When you have a child, your life does change dramatically. You will rid yourself of the friends that weren't friends to begin with, you will change your spending habits (unless you are selfish and really think you need everything that everyone else has), you will devote every second you can to making your child happy. My sons mother and I get along when it comes to raising our son, but thats where it ends. I have spent many hours in the night crying and wishing i could tuck him in every night and see his smiling face every morning. It is tough, but i make every moment i have with him count. We did not plan on having a child, nor were we being cautious about it. The only advice i can give you is to make sure you are ready to devote your life to a precious human being no matter what. There is no turning back. If you are not ready to sacrifice the small things (and some big things) in life for the greater good of a child, then wait.
ApachesGirl: Pure Thank you so much for your kind words. I am not going to lie and tell everyone that the road has been easy. Far from it. But when something that traumatic happens it changes you and your perspective on life. It tells you how valuable life is and it makes you look at your kids and think "God I'm lucky"
PureSilver67: @ Muggs you're very welcome.
@ mrluckymatt More parents who are separated should have your dedication and love as a "dad" - and there is a big difference between being a parent, which anyone can be and being a mum/ mom or dad, investing time in your child(ren)
I wanted to say here that a theme that seems to be springing up is "giving up" things BUT in my experience we are not giving up things we can't live without anyway i.e. taking a different vocational path than maybe we had planned than without children but there are always different paths to take anyway; buying 2nd hand clothes over new - absolutely nothing wrong with this and there are some beautiful / good quality clothes out there or even "outlet" shopping; the latest & greatest in whichever technology is out (my girls or I, do NOT have Nintendo, Wii, X-box, playstation, or an i-pad/phone) - we do (obviously) have a computer, I have a laptop and they have a desktop (much needed for school these days) and I have a mobile that suits me fine, I don't need bells & whistles - I could go on and on about examples,
NEVERTHELSS what I'm trying to say is having children enriches your life and all those materialistic things are just that .... things not really needed.
PureSilver67: Well better get prepared for a wonderful "ride" ... twins, that will be amazing!! :bouqet:
Blue_Eye_Lady: It's very tuff but also the most rewarding thing I have eva done in my life is being a mother , but I will not have any more children , it's time for me to live my life now !!!! So just enjoy the new lives your bring to the world they will be what you teach them to be .
tnhandyman: having practiced parenting once and becoming a grandfather I have to say I wish i had the aptience of being grand first and continued being a good provider second.
tnhandyman: real men say they are sorry...they make up for mistakes, they allow life to flow around them while they stand, alone.
Meghann_Timberlake: Being a mother has really changed me! my lifes devoted to my gorgeous baby she is my life! it is amazing u just need to prepare yourself for this! and i done this with my mum the dad was not around! But you will do fine as a mum don't worry.
britbrat89: its hard work...but well worth it...
im a young mom & started out with the dad,(we were married) now we are divorced and its all on me to raise my son. the best thing is to have a support system and get rid of all the negative, unsupportive people in your life.
other than that just do what you feel is best for your children. theres no right or wrong way to be a parent,as long as they are happy & healthy thats all that matters..