prettyladee23: My son is just now coming out of his terrible twos now I have a daughter goin through it . I know what to do now just stay calm and no they are only kids that don't no any better.
harlett: That rising A i referred too elsewhere , is my tat. for my son ............. you have child proofed your house,with out any doubt, you should develop a tone too your voice that will stop your child in it's tracks,........................ think of the so called terrible two's as your first experience with your child as a teenager.......it believes it knows everything it needs too knows and is hell bent on experiencing everything................... your not going too like hearing this..................... but your child is overly sensitive too what you are feeling and chit chatting in your own mind ..... will take your angst, frustrations etc ...... personally............and become fussy,cranky,restless,and can endlessly cry,
Dalai Mama: MFS...I've been through the terrible twos 3 times and am quaking at the thought of #4....he already at 9.5 months is a stubborn little man!
It doesn't last forever...soon they hit three...the stubborn 3s....which now that I think about it.....that one wasn't so fun either...omgosh...then you hit the "just f-in shoot me!" 4s!
I swear five gets better...mostly because they get out A lot of energy at Kindergarten! Lol
In all seriousness, it was hard...but I found wiht my kids that being matter of fact when they were melting down usually nipped it in the bud the fastest....but it is soooo hard!
introspec: Two yr olds are all ego----that is, the world exists only to serve him/her/it...lol
Set protective bounds----stove street, electric connections, keep tv high so can't break. Use 'no' sparingly, but firmly.......
Let them rip and run, burn up that extraordinary energy in safe environment. Though they run you crazy, get on their level and play for the short attention span they have. Hug them a lot. Tell them you love them....
Reflect, that unless have child every year, this too will pass....lol...
motherfingsuperwoman: I have an 11yo daughter, so not my first round of the terrible 2s. But omg I swear she was much easier at this age.
I think my son is the child my mother-in-law warned me about!! haha
Dalai Mama: Lol! MAybe it is boys? My mother has 4 boys and 6 girls...she said the extra work the boys were when they were younger more than made up for it when they were teenagers!
Great advice introspec!
motherfingsuperwoman: I am hoping that is the case. Pay my dues now and have life get easier as he gets older. Though I remember what an ass his father was in his late teens towards him mother...so I need to nip that sh%t in the bud before we get anywhere near that.
Daddio35: Ive got 3 under 6, my survival method, constant activities and diversions. And i dont care what anybody says, Kids TV is a godsend ;p
Gothika_Kitt: Lol....Sanity??...Once you have kids that becomes a thing of the pasdt. I have a daughter now 6 and I'm 9 weeks pregnant with my second. With my daughter I just tried to get her involved in almost everything I did....washing, cleaning, cooking....doesn't matter. I encouraged her to be her own person and now she's blossomed into an awesome kid. I hope I remember how to do it with this one
Comrade_: ahhhh I remember when my nephew was in his 2's stages, he had his lil before turning 2 ahhh you have to keep them occupied and don't fall for their faking crying, must have a routine for what you'd discipline for and don't let them get away with things ha. I met my son when he was over his, the only thing to look to is terrible-teens.
introspec: Good post, cave*******---What is lil?
Oh boy, the teens! Had to only jerk one of mine up, tell him that he couldn't speak to my wife that way. Or, I would clean his plow. LOL...It worked......
Chattygirl1: Exellent advice, Introspec! My children are 3 and 2, so things are hectic! As someone mentioned, divert their attention to something else when the going gets tough, that usually works for me. They will do what they want, whenever they want, so watch out! lol
Imperfect_Perfection: Make sure to reward positive behaviours in order to encourage them to repeat the good. Distract them from the negative behaviors and make sure to have plenty of activities for them to do. Boredom, lack of attention, and hunger are some of the most common reasons for a child acting out. Make everyday chores fun and encourage them to "help". Sing and dance and play. Remember that you too where once a child what did you enjoy doing?
As for retaining your sanity... Good luck. Two year olds learn quickly what buttons to push to set you off. Don't allow them to control your mood or emotions life is all a game to them and they are just trying to play with you. Keep them entertained, reward positive behavior, and distract them from the negative behaviors with positive activities.
Imperfect_Perfection: Make sure to take care of yourself too! Mommy's need some pampering and relaxation to be able to keep their balance. Don't neglect your needs just because you have a little one. Your mood will greatly improve if you properly care for yourself. You can start by establishing mommy time. Take an uninterrupted bath, read a book, meditate, exercise, or whatever else you feel you need. Remember in case of an emergency you must put in your oxygen before helping others...
NiNjA LuCiD_: I can remember my eldest boy throwing the mother of all tantrums in the supermarket because I would not buy him the chocolate he wanted. I threw myself on the ground with him, kicking and screaming like he was. He soon stopped and never threw another tantrum.
I did get quite a few odd looks but there was method to my madness lol
Wild__: My daughter didn't start her terrible two's untill she was four. The world was a playground and we made the most of it. Now she is bogged down with womework.
I am truly lucky to be her daddy!
Shannonjm400: The terrible two's seem to happen worse when a parent doesn't smack the brat in the ass when they need it. I raised my nephew and nieces. When they were 2 and 3 they were bad like any other kids but minimal due to the fact a common sense approach was used and a little spanking.
I LAUGH SO HARD WHEN I SEE A MOM THAT DOESN'T BELIEVE IN SPANKING TRYING TO REASON WITH HER 2 YEAR OLD OVER ANYTHING.