young mother with the wrong man!!!

toolillate: I am 21 with a 4 year old and a very abusive man. Verbally and mentally, Trying to get out but will not allow, starting to get scary. and advice?

nellie77: go to your local social services and seek advice...

authorj: You need to get out NOW! Social Services and the domestic violence hot line will get you started. The situation you are in will only get worse.

Nonconformist: Go with the child to a Family or Friends place until you can arrange suitable housing for you and the child. Make arrangements with the father through the Family Law Court for him to see the child as seeing him on your own and trying to make arrangements without them if he is being abusive is likely not an option right now. Dont take him back as a leopard never changes its spots, your priority has to be your child.

harlett: You need too get out ... now ... you stayed in it for too long as is .... you are accepting his behaviour and that is why it is getting worse and scarier for you ... and he should never ever be given free child vistation .. supervised only until the child is old enough to run from for safety and call for help .....go... before he sersiously and irrevocably harms you or takes your life then in mist of that drama takes your child life .....go to a shelter ... call a non emergency police number and ask for a shelter and for a ploice escort away from the house and or apt ... transporation too the shelter if need be ..... GO !!!!!!!! then don't look back ...

butterflylinn: Get out while you still can sweetie trust me I have been down this road and two of my kids were taken away from me and given up for adoption 4 years ago now my ex husband I left because I was mentally,verbally,physically,emotionally abused for eight and half years now I had to start all over again

xanderiley: Nothing to see here. Post deleted by user.

Scopinitout1: I agree with the advice above, especially Nellie & Authorj - get out NOW, and seek help with social services. Lots of towns & cities have battered women's houses, halfway houses, places like that for women in your situation. You need to be someplace SAFE, for both you and your child.

djdan2: Get rid of him for the sake of your child

Masowen: ill kick his ass for you.

spankdmonkey: I say get out immediately and organise the custody through the courts, family law court ..Its not upto anyone here to judge if he is a good dad or not .As you do not say how he is with the child and he might not get along with you, but wouldnt hurt the child .Just take your child and leave and let the courts decide ,but be honest with yourself if he was good to the child then he deserves access to his child .

ikachika: just ask politely, if it doesn't work, record when he's bad mouthing and let your parents know. . .

Impossiblebeliever3: There are women's shelters out there for this very thing. The first thing you need to do is get in contact with these people. They will come get you and take you to a private location where you will be safe. From there request full custody and a restraining order. ALSO, IF YOU SEARCH FOR THE SHELTER FROM THE COMPUTER WIPE AWAY YOUR HISTORY SO HE CAN NOT SEE WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN LOOKING AT!

pearlyjones2007: get out now