Why Do Moms Allow Their Teen Daughters To Dress Like Sluts? (Page 7) Iris Goessens: it kind of depends on the situation because a young teen might look slutty but it's still a kid inside and they aren't always aware of it. Young girls wear shorts, they get breasts and their shirts can be a bit tight, but they are growing and we women can't help it we have something more than males which are boobs. It also depends on how they look at a woman because the one dissent a woman looks pretty while the other sees her as a slut.  Nicotina: How terrible for young women and girls to be slut-shamed for wearing something that another might find "offensive". Burkas for all, perhaps? Even then, you know some one is going to claim that the female acted in a slutty manner. Grow up, control your lust, and act like a decent member of society.  MaIvado: I’m a bit old fashion, I think kids should dress suitable for their age. However, you have to be sick in the head to see something sexual about a kid regardless of what that kid is wearing or not wearing. That’s on you and it’s not normal.  opt2go: hmm ? if your daughter is dressing like a slut,,, she had to learn it from some one or some where,, either way,,, THE parent is forgetting who the kid is,,, and ,, the kid is forgetting who the parent is,,, hmm,, and you wonder,,, why???? Nicotina: Stop basing the worth of a female on what you perceive to be her sexuality. Do people not realize that they are behaving in a misogynistic manner? MaIvado: Opt2go, are you saying that you see something sexual about a kid? Does a baby in diapers also look slutty to you? A dog wearing a bikini also turn you on too and is a ‘slut’? Stfu It’s wankers like you that keep me up at night over my baby girl. Always think you’re fucking entitled to perv on someone else. How about you keep your fucking eyes to yourself or they might just be carved out of your skull for you k.  (Post deleted by Lauraismarried ) John4466: I also would say, why do fathers allow it as fathers have a major role to play teaching their daughters how valuable they are and that any future man has to fight for her. "Easy come easy go" My 22 year boy (we got five boys and one girl) has been approached by slutty girls several times offering him sexual favors and I am happy that he always declines these things. One girl actually walked away in tears after he told that he could not do that to her and that she should take care of herself as she was very valuable. I am sure it convinced her to take another course of action that night. I taught my 12 year old girl who is now 14 how a lot of men often look at women. The other day she complained how a 16 year old had looked at her butt and felt dirty afterwards. I told her, cover it up next time and take a shower to wash it off. She felt much better after that :-) As parents we have a great responsibility in such an over sexualized world. Nicotina: John, I would advise instilling self confidence in your daughter for who she is and her value as a human being. For far too long females have been told that their value is due to what we can offer men. Females are told that "men will be fighting for you", "you'll be a great wife", "you'll be a great mother" where our worth is defined by what we do for other people and not our inherent worth. As for telling your daughter to "cover up", I imagine your comment is well intended. The issue is that by telling her that you are implying that the unacceptable behaviour of the male is partially her fault. The feeling of needing to wash after an unwanted sexual encounter, this being one where she felt as though she was objectified, is due to trauma. I am saying these things as a survivor of sexual abuse in the hope that society puts less blame on the victim, no blame is the goal. It's difficult not to repeat the things we were taught, I have often found myself doing the same. In the past I have demeaned a female by saying that she is "just a slut". We are all learning as we go and I hope that one day the value of a female will not be dependent upon her perceived sexual status.  Sir Loin: It's summer in NZ and this season's fashion is frayed jean shorts with a crop top leaving a bare belly. This outfit looks cute and sexy without looking slutty. Both my daughters wear this and so does my wife. At first I thought it was a bit too sexy but I've come to get used to it. Even my 6yr old god daughter dresses like this for school. What I'm getting at is; it's quite confusing for dads and husbands, what would've been seen as slutty just a few years ago is now the norm. It's even common to see a bare boob exposed by a deeply plunging neckline or a flash of side boob through the arm hole. Topless on the beach? Every day! Bikinis are displayed in the shops as bottoms only with a few unmatched tops in a separate display. I blame the fashion industry, Dads have very little say in the matter. Many Mums wear the same outfits. I can't say a thing, it'll only alienate me from my girls. Nicotina: Please stop with the Slut Shaming! No one needs to dress in a way that accommodates you. @SirLoin, it's hella creepy that you described an outfit worn by your 6yr old god daughter as "sexy". Sir Loin: I didn't Nicotina, I said it was sexy on my wife and my god daughter copies what she and other women wear John4466: Nicotina, thank you for sharing your journey and yes, we are all on the road of getting better at things and yes, we all try to protect our children and give them a better life than we had. My daughter has no trauma in this area and this was actually the first time ever that she picked it up, that, I can tell you. Allow me please to explain a bit first so you understand where we are coing from as a family. Just like scientists can measure the frequencies of love coming of a heart up to nine meters, so also can other things be measured and felt by those that are sensitive. I can dowse/divine for water veins with an 11 dollar L-rods or can use a 70.000 USD machine to find them. Anything in life has a frequency and scientist know that when we break down an atom you get a quark and if you break that further down all we have left are sound and light frequencies. The reason when you think of somebody sometimes and then you are surprised that they ring you, is simply because your spirit reached out to theirs on the boson field and they felt it/sensed it or had to think about you. Nothing spooky, just quantum mechanics Two people can cover up a strong argument/fight all they like when they get suddenly interupted; that very frequency still hangs in the air in the form of an electromagetic field and you can feel the tension. In other words. The quantum physic/spiritual realm is all around us. My daughter is spiritually sensitive like my wife, and in a world full of spirits of lust that often cling on to men also these also a lot of women have them (the Bible teaches that our war is not with flesh and blood but with principalities and power in high places): you can feel their frequency. I served ones ghost hunters when I worked in Retail who used the Trifield EMF meter just for that, while I use one (a far less sensitive version, the TF2) only for assessing homes for powerlines and fuse box levels. And just like earthing or grounding gets rid of the electrical charge from EMF devices on your body and the reason why you feel so relaxed on grass or under the shower, so also does a shower help with getting rid of this kind of shit. We live in a world were we cannot simply change always what is, so that's why we teach our kids how to live among it. We have six home schooled kids (5yr-22ys) and make sure they well taken care off; are not bullied and get world wise by showing everything there is to know from the occult to the red light districs to drugs and crime and of course the other, way more positive side. At the age of 12 I always offer them a wine to make sure they know what it is and in France this is very very normal. We teach our kids that their value comes from God who made them; that their bodies are only 1/3 of who they actualy are and that they are a spirit living inside a body and that have been given a soul (emotions/imagination/reasoning etc) to govern. We never keep secrets and always explain why we think something would not be a good choice and of course we then let them make a free choice depending on their age and yes, they are very social and not afraid to talk to all ages just because they blend so much more with the different age groups than the average school child. Blaming women or slut shaming is very hypocritical when we also have plenty of men these days that let there paints hang low not realizing that in prisons it’s a sign that you are available. Same innocence. People are often not aware how they come across in life and because we now have such a mixture of cultures that makes it even harder to figure out what’s acceptable or not . As a society I believe we have gone down as so much is now just about sex and outward appearance. From the 200 new porn sites added every day on the web, to clothing designers, to naked imagines on tv in the middle of the day for our three years olds to watch, to ABC pushing their sex agenda. Both genders are affected. So yes, we don’t blame men nor women especially when both men and women can be the abuser in domestic violence cases. (see The Red Pill) We are just sad that their parents obviously didn’t know or failed to teach their kids how the world works and that there is so much more than meets the eye. So yes, life works in cycles and unless we learn to break away from that negative cycle in our lives, one often keeps repeating that same mistake. From men coming out of jail and going back to crime to women ending up with another abusive relationship :-( It’s not for nothing 85% of men in jail never had a father figure in their lives and the one reason the CIA recruits these men as their emotions are shot. It’s easy to judge others being a slut but nobody can make a truly and objective judgment I believe unless it's coming from a loving place. That’s why we judge first the beam in our own eyes, before we judge another for the splinter in their eyes. We are all different and have different backgrounds. Unless we learn to think in somebody else's shoes we will never learn. Never forgot that people have been given a software package in the form of DNA that was passed on that contains a mix of information of characteristics from ancestors; cell health and physical appearance. That's why people often as it's called: are fighting their daddies demons. Cheers. (Edited by John4466) Nicotina: John, I think I understand your meaning even though I do not share your religious beliefs. Looking forward to a time when we see each other as worthy and no longer determine worth through sexuality. We deserve better! Nicotina: Thank you John for sharing such intimate thoughts. We both want better for the next generation & those who come after. Together we can offer so much better to the younger generation. simontemok: The further a society drifts from the truth the more it will hate those who speak it. The Truth is, the Daughters are not the problem here The giant midget: A woman ,any woman regardless of age and ethnicity should wear whatever they wish and desire ,if they feel confident and comfortable in the attire they choose to showcase their sexuality and feminism its nobody business . I personally admire a lady that dresses appropriate for the occasion. I become jello when I see a woman in high heels Please ladies don't go to a wedding in sweat pants and a hoodie. Young teens whatever they wear ,they are just expressing and exploring themselves and yes parents should monitor on what their children wear ,just like we monitor who their freinds are It's just common sense Nicotina: Women do not dress to please you midget. Also, why are you monitoring what other people's children wear? That's just creepy. The giant midget:  Oh lord I should have written my post in , French,Spanish or Portuguses so people on here could read properly Could they be trolling? Maybe they need attention? | Parenting Chat Room 30 People Chatting Similar Conversations |
