How old is to old? (Page 2)
Koko_Krunch: Too many people on this planet already. There are plenty of unloved, unwanted kids out there, adopt one of those. Profit???
Animal Lover: I didn't want to say what Koko has but yes, there ARE far too many human beings on this Planet. At the moment with 2 kids, you & your husband have not increased the population but with a 3rd....
Also, there are only 2 years between your present kids but there will be a 5-year gap if you have another.
MattyD89: i think marrying a guy 16 years older was the initial problem. i see why he dont want anymore of those little devils, and i see why you do. youre still a young girl and hes an old man. arnt these the things adults talk about before deciding to get married?
feelinggood52: I was 50 when my daughter Lylah was born. She is now almost 2 years old and is such a joy in our life. I feel that at the older age you can be more giving and loving since you are not so self-centered, but everyone is different. I love being a Dad again.
chattychappy: if he says hes too old, hes too old..... it clearly means he doesnt want another whatever his age
Me B: oops 43 is not old at all.
may be has other plans and too much of thinking about future.
do ask him the reason.
sure age is not the reason.
lynn_mitch: Let me tell you its a whole different ball park in your 40's - my husband and I were long done having children then 20 years from the last poof -we have a little girl. Now I will be 61 when is done with HS. Although I love her with all my heart but this is not how I wanted my old age to be. I think this is a conversation that has to be had with him.
mrkris: my mom had my youngest brother at 40, the only issue at that age was/is birth defects. genetic testing and amniocentesis help warn or any problems. but it sounds like he just doesnt want a third.
The Cryptkeeper: I'm 57, divorced and with 2 grown kids... if I were to fall in love with someone who wants a child I would be ecstatic to be able to raise a child with someone I love. I have spent the majority of my life volunteering for Scouts and such... I love raising children and helping them grow into fantastic adults...
jocksweet: If your finance and energy are okay, you can get another baby. As a wife you should think and care your hansband's situation also. Try to think it in your hansband's side.
Mimee_red: There's nothing as too old.....ITs the Attitude with a capital "A". If u have the guts, the energy and space in ur heart...go for it !
DaisysDad: I was in a similar position with an EX fiance' .... My children were all grown up, and was now "Grandpa" material... I understand your desire, but try to understand that he feels he will not be able to "Keep up" with that life style... and that he will not be able to "relate" to children that much younger than him. I doesnt seem fair to EITHER side.. but you both know that!!!... Can you not be satisfied with 2 children?? Is he a good husband and father?... If so.. Do you want to risk the stress of another child on an older man who may not feel he is up to going through it all again?.... When you insisted on getting married to him... and your friends told you he was too old.... but you did it anyway.... Well... this is the price and the consequence that you should have thought of at THAT time... not now.... I feel bad for you... I really do... In MY case.... I broke off with my fiance and she got married and had 2 more kids.... Then her marriage failed.... So many choices and options.... but ask yourself... Do you really want to lose what you already have... (I know my Ex was just feeling like she wanted more before it was too late.. but too late had already come for me!.... and now she is raising 4 kids alone. )
Bumpa: I get this kind of crap all the time! I am 54, my wife is 27. We are trying for another baby now. I have 6 kids from previous marriage but my wife has none. It is our decision, nobody else's and we are both rather tired of other people voicing their opinions (usually negative)
Devil Doc: As a man of 55 I can understand his position, the main concern I would have is making sure that I am around to raise my own. I hate to think that some other man in the future would have to raise my children and not know what type of father he would be.
spankdmonkey: Im in my 50s my youngest is 4 which i dont have custody of . im still a father to her though and dont miss visits or access .But my other youngest is 13 and i do have custody of and brought her up on my own ..im 53 got no problem, as im phisically capable of it .I would actually love to have another one but would have to find a lady as im single .I love being a dad i have 8 already 6 are adults though..Kids keep me young they make me get up and work for them, they keep me going taking them to sports ,holidays ,beaches,school ,etc etc ,I was born to be a dad . Your hubby maybe he is worried because of his age .But i would look at it this way your only young so i know if anything happened to me the kid would be with the mother so if he is worried just explain to him that you will always love the child .But it is a decisssion that the two of you have to make .Good luck with it i hope he decides yes .
CourtGesture: You are only as old as you feel and i guess your hubby feels rather old. The important thing here is not how old he is, but rather the fact that he would be a reluctant father from the 'get-go'. Raising a child is no easy task, if would be in that child's best interest if both parents had some enthusiasm in doing so.
Nataline: i think think you should have another child. do what's going to make you happy right? doesn't he love you children now? why would he not want another? i personally think age is just a number, and people spend too much time with it. i think you husband should reconsider, he's not even the one having to go through child birth, and after the child is born i bet he wouldn't regret it.
paulzpht88: You're old when you turn 100 because your weapon starts acting like a rusty world war vintage.