How old is to old?
aliciakaya: I want another child my husband says he's to old.I am 27 he is 43. We have two kids age 7 and 5. This is causing a lot of stress in our marriage. What do you guys think is he right?
Cygnus_X_1: No. His is not right. But. I am in this situation right now myself. She is not too old, but I am doubting my age. I just think when the child is 16 that I will be 62. Remind him of how much fun it is too try. Hope it all works out for you.
isabel_20: for men can be so old body like 75 if he
can work and a woman 45 if she can .. but is better when the paren are young then can enjoy more the kid ..i mean the men can have 25-35- 40 and the woman 25- 30- 40 years
Pinoy: When you are a hundred years old or you can't produce babies anymore because your weapon is too old for it..
I have to say that as long as you and your husband know what you are getting into and beleive that you are both up to the task of taking care of a baby, a child, and then a teenager then go right head.. Just as you may already know it is a lot of hard, hard work and it is not something that should be entered into lightly.
I have to say that your husband is NEVER to old if he truely wishes to have a child with you. As long as he is in good health and believes that he is up to the task.
As for what Brett said I have to somewhat agree.. This planet is getting a little to crowded and everyone needs to start thinking about the future and about how we are going to feed and house everyone. Just look at Japan for example..They have had to limit how many babies people have due to the fact that they have run out of room to put everyone and to feed them. The rest of the world will be in the same state if we don't watch it.
dís: Well I can understand both points of view, you are in different places in your life. I can relate more to his view because I´m 36 and don´t want more children.
At this point I am looking forward to when in a few years I will be a little more free, the kids a little older and we as a family can enjoy our selves, travel more and do things that are not easy to do with a baby or a toddler..
But I can understand your point as well, you are still young and it´s a hard decision not to have any more children. After my third child I wasn´t ready to say that, so I talked to my husband and now we have 4 children
But you have to agree on this, you can´t force him into it. You must talk about it, he can´t make this decision on his own.
LaceyGirl: I think that he's right for him, but wrong for you on the situation.
Not that there is anything wrong with getting married with such a difference of age but you both should've talked about this possibility beforehand just to work out this possible problem before well....now.
Its too late for that, but that's ok.
The thing is he's 47 which means that when his new child is 15, he'll be 63. That's pretty old. Maybe he wants to get a break from children eventually and won't get that chance if he has one too. I'm not sure if he's being unfair for thinking this way.
TexasCutie90: no u guys arent too old...My Dad is 52 and my Mom is fixing to turn 48 they found out a couple of months ago that they are gonna have another baby in july (this make #8 btw and it totally wasn't planned) as long as you drs say you're healthy enough to have another baby than age doesn't matter...so no i dont think your 2 old but that is somethin that u and ur husband are going to have to work out as a couple
Yahweh: you make sense ,sounds to me the Dad just don't want the burden of another mouth to feed ,hell I'm going on 52 and am hoping me and my other half whom is 45 have one before she goes through the change of life maybe even 2 or more ,I'll never be too old to raise a child
1calmstorm: The man said HE was too old...he could be feeling less energy or not feeling up to par...He might feel that the children he has are too much for him to handle or support...he might be feeling extreme pressure in today's economy. If he has children, he will have to support them in financially as well as physically as a parent and teacherr...He knows if he can. If he says he's too old, maybe he's feeling old. Since the child would be his responsibility, how he feels about it is of utmost importance......he should stand his ground.
hitsugaya252: Ya he is right.
You are interested to have one. But later your interest may erode and it will be difficult to take care 3babies.that time your husband will not keep quiet. Even 1 is sufficient, you have got 2 you should be happy.
As for age, you are not old.
If i were in your condition, i will take 1daughter from orphan centre.
KarmaDoll: I can probably see where he's coming from.
He thinks he's too old because he'll die while the child isn't very old and he wants to be there for everything in his child's life. What you could do is see if y'all could adopt a baby instead of him getting you pregnant.
FunkyN: No, you're not too old! I'm 32 and my boyfriend is 45 and we just had our first baby May this year. Very happy so far .
Maybe age is not the main reason? Maybe he just don't want to have any more children - all these sleepless nights, nappies changing etc. 'Too old' sounds a bit too general for me. Too old for what? To have s~x?
Aura_: when you think about it, the age you will have whem the kid wil turn 16 is a strange argument for a person of any age. Even a twenty something can't say if he/she will be around 16 years from now. We can hope ofcourse, but we can never say for sure.
seaworld98: hello I got told at the doctor that it is 40 for a woman and me can have s&% as long as the like
Cuthberty: Not as long as they like Seaworld, I would like to do about and hour but can only manage 30 mins then I am too tired
oldtimeracer: I just wouldn't want another kid at my age. At 57 years old, there is no way I want to be in my 70's with a teenager.
Malobear: I would not think 43 is too old,not from a male prospective. I work in healthcare and after 40 things can happen and do.Maybe he is worried about things such as heart attack,cancer and such if his family has a history. As you get older the gravity of such things do seem to weight in heavier in choices in your life. This should not cause alot of stress on you or your marriage as you already have children. Did you ever think that maybe he is scared that if he should pass,he would leave you with a burden? If this is the difference of whether you two stay together or not, I think your wrong. But I dont have to live your life,you do.
miss gege: good lord look how old Warren Beatty, Michael Douglas, Kelsey Grammar, the guy who played scotty on star trek was 80 when he father another child...some Italian men in my church as well into their 60's and wifes are well into late 40's still popping them out....it's all about the desire to want
BrotherRabbit1955: Well when I was born, that was in 1937, my dad was 51 at a half, he died 61 years ago
Wampum6: Age is but a figure. What really counts are the ways and styles of making love. As long as you can please and be pleased is all that make a difference, and the manner can continue to provide the variation and get the juices flowing, and the heart racing. Add to that the touch of love, and voila!