i want kids but im only 19. am i too young to be a father? (Page 3)

motherfingsuperwoman
motherfingsuperwoman: 19 is way too young. Of course you could be the exception, but odds are you aren't. Give it a few years. Enjoy life outside of high school. College. Good job. Wife. House. Then babies...no reason to rush! You will regret it, no you won't admit it but deep down you will have wished you waited. Won't make you love the babies any less but you will know your life AND YOUR BABIES life would have been better if you waited till you were truly ready!
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erin_hayte
erin_hayte: It's totally up to you two, dude. I got married at 19 then shortly after got pregnant. My son is now ten months and I'm really glad I had him. I should warn you, I live in Idaho and our (as in mine and my son's) bill all together was $10,000 thank God I have insurance and now I only owe a little more than $2000. Also, taxes helped out a lot.

If you and your girlfriend could break-up without all the hatered (not saying you will, but my mom and dad hate eachother and it sucks) and you have some way to pay for it all, I say go ahead, but like I said, it's up to you two.
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erin_hayte
erin_hayte: Also, I don't party a whole lot. As a matter of fact, I got drunk for my first time at 20 and my husband and I were trying the whole "seperation" thing and he had our son for a week. I haven't been drunk since that week. That week was like 5+ months ago. If you don't party a lot, that's good. But if you do, I say be a "kid" for a while longer. I have my own opinion of people who leave their kids at home and go to the bar, and it's not a good opinion either. My mother is an alcholoic and would do that a lot... so you can see my reasoning.
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sheaana
sheaana: I really don`t think so . If you think that you can do it , go for it . But don`t forget that it`s not just about you & your girlfriend . You would be bringing another life into this world . Do you think that you could properly care , provide , & love this new baby ? If so , then go for it dude !
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midwestTECHNICIAN
midwestTECHNICIAN: im sorry but anyone who has a kid without a job and aint even 21 yet is a retard simple as that ... thats jus how i feel thoe .. LUV YA
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real_enterprise
real_enterprise: Kids are great AND they are a lot of work. I cannot stress how much work they really are. If you are a responsible person who works and enjoys children you can certainly manage it. However, you should worry about making a stable home for the child before you decide to have children. I was 26 when I had my daughter. It was a good age but I feel I should have waited a bit longer. You are the one who has to live with your decision though. You live you learn. Just make sure the person you are having them with is a good person because it makes a big difference.
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SydneyWombat
SydneyWombat: Yep, too young. you might feel you are old enough and mature enough to make the call and decide to do it. but you are not. im not saying youre stupid or immature...just give yourself time to be a kid. there is always time to do it latter. and when your a little older...you can be a better parent. if it happens by accident, you can still love your kids and be a good parent, but give yourself a few years and you will be a better parent
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turtle
turtle: I had my daughter at 19 and now being 35 with a 6 week old baby its hard at any age.
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classyromy
classyromy: My Mom had myself and my twin brother when she was 17. And although, she says she is happy about it, she was honest enough to advise me not to give up the special years when you should be young and enjoying life and figuring out who you truly are. And trust me, you don't get that sorted out till you're in your mid to late twenties. I had my two sons at the age of 27 and 30...and it was perfect. I was young enough to enjoy them and had lots of energy. But we now have two grown incredible sons and we are empty nesters that can enjoy time with them, but we also are young enough to have freedom as a couple yet again. So, please think it over. Today, couples have options. And trust me, once a parent....you are a parent for life! It's a big responsibility, if taken seriously. Wish you the best of luck whichever route you choose!
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11Xbadalice
11Xbadalice: You are not too young to have a child. But is it the best thing for a child to be raised by a child?
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Candy_M
Candy_M: yeah, I agree with what most of people have said. You are young and not suitable to raise a child.
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Lucid
Lucid: If you are asking the question am I too young...then yes you are. Live your young life...you only get one shot at it.
Wait until you are older and more stable.
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HarelyD
HarelyD: Considering that this post was started 2 years ago, I'm wondering did you have a child or not? What was the deciding factor/factors?
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erin_hayte
erin_hayte: lol good point, I didn't even notice...
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SydneyWombat
SydneyWombat: probably has 3 kids by now
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spiritualmaster
spiritualmaster: I say if you believe you are man enough to bring a child into this world, and provide for Him/Her and love, nurture and support the child and that is what you want go for it .Enjoy it because it is the most beautifull experience of life .and all humans in the world do it .!9 is not to young as long as you are responsible for the child and intend to support that child ..And good luck.
haha just read above made two years ago
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jolieluv
jolieluv: u all sound like my Mom. i am 18 and my youngest sibling is 3 years old. she is like a baby to me so to have a baby of my own has never crossed my mind. i am taking care of one now OK! and i must say the responsibilties come with it ....sucKKKK. i took her hello kitty last night while she was sleeping and my mom caught me in the act. she called me her big baby and smiled.
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PeteLondonUK
PeteLondonUK: If you're asking the question then you're too young to start having children. It is a good thing that you want to have children but please, think of your responsibility to them first. You owe it to your children to be an experienced and wise man so that you can make them into decent human beings. I know myself at 19 and I might have thought I could cope with children but the truth is at 40 I know I've only just learned enough to really give a child what they will need most. This is just my opinion but I encourage you to listen to my advice.
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suchprettywordz101
suchprettywordz101: i dont think 19 is too young. my mom had me when she was 19 and she handled me just fine, even though my dad walked out on us when i was just born.. if you plan on being with smoeone and sticking through it with them, i dont see a problem, but if your having problems financially or in your relationship, i dont think its completely smart to have a child, because they are EXPENSIVE!!
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Element118
Element118: if you are financially stabled enough to take care of yourself and bills, that qualifies you as responsible and being that, it enables you to be ready to care and take full responsibility to raise a child and or family of your own...so make sure you are together in those departments in your life 1st....1. financially stable 2. responsible 3. ready
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Element118
Element118: haha, i hate that word too, especially when 1's of your undesirable fashion have slept themselves into a comatose mind frame forgetting that you are the true slave: of your own thoughts, let go of what was taught or experienced or you wont have a place in heaven, jesus is the answer god bless
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