Meeting single parents

skyylinegtr32: I'm recently single but it's so hard to find a single woman who wants to have a man that has kids already. We are a package deal so you can't just have one of us!!!

nuiginianmeri: I know where you're coming from...but its most common where the opposite happens when women need to be accepted with their kid(s) for men I think its a admirable quality to have to look after your kids...

applepie2008: As a single mom, I know how hurt found out the man you love couldn't accept my son so I have to get up this relationship and protect my son.

I know my son needs me more than I need a man,

riluo: i have been alone for 2 years because I worry that i will date someone and it fall apart and my kids get hurt in the process. So I will stay single for them, as lonely as it maybe. I love them more than anything or anyone.

tracyleigh: I was just thinking about getting out and meeting new people. It's been a long time since I have had to do the "dating" thing. I have a teenage son to think about as well. Is it worth it? Not sure.

bryter: You know the Best thing in life, no matter how hard it begins, develops and ends (the way a relationship goes for some in any case) is to

Take A Chance.

You will never know of or find a good thing, unless you have lived and learned through the bad, and your children will never learn how constructive a grown up relationship (from there leading to Any relationship)is supposed to be unless you show them. We are their True teachers in life.

To be afraid to step out is not good for you or your child. I left a relationship (with my daughters dad) for one because I didn't love him. I married him for our daughter and for my fear of being on my own. I am grateful for the chance I gave myself and the lesson I taught my daughter, you can Not be happy in life and reach your potential unless you are happy with and for yourself. Like that saying love yourself first. It's not meant to be selfish. It's another way of learning how to totally love everything and everyone outside of your person once you love yourself.

I took another chance and met another man, whom I loved so deeply, unfortunately our relationship was not healthy and we were not happy and we moved on. In this I taught my daughter, love is out there and no matter how painful it can be (if it is), you are stronger for it and you know what you need and want in a relationship more than if you were to stay alone.

We live, love and learn through mistakes. We are stronger than we think. Without them, we are nothing, love means nothing and life is nothing.

I hope for you, the ones who are afraid to step out for the sake of your child(ren), that you find the strength, don't be afraid and show your child how it is to love.

riluo: I am doing a psychological report in my psychology class at uni now. This is the basics of it from the point of view of Professors and other such academics. Dating other partners, while your child or children are of the ages of 3-6 and the relationship falling apart has the worst affects of all on a child. Also children who live with a parent who has multiple partners (4 or more) in the first 9 years of there life have 87% more likelihood of developing the inability to sustain a relationship later in life. As well as having sexual problems or violence problem in there early to late teens.

However, those who have children over the age of 10-12 have not displayed such traits.

I guess we all forget that in some cases these children become attached to other people and seeing things fall apart can lead to abandonment issues as well as underlaying social disorders including drug abuse, violence and the inability to function as normal adults. That really freaks me out to think about.

I was asked out a few times in the last 18 months, but having a pair of kids under the age of four makes it hard. Moreover, what is worse, is I would love to say yes. However, I know that I could not give the other party the time that is needed to build a healthy relationship, so I have to politely say no and just except that for the next 4-5 years my kids are more important than me having s~@ or going out parting. Even if I am hz^~w male in need of action

bryter: Well said. When I read your post the first time, I had the feeling you were refusing any relationship out of fear entirely of being hurt and I only meant to say that an opportunity might pass by, living in fear isn't a good lesson to teach. I wasn't trying to be disrespectful, just speaking from my heart, maybe a little of a romantic that isn't always logical.
I guess in my experience (which isn't a lot in retrospect), my daughter is more easygoing than I have given her credit for and she has taken things in stride, and telling me even though she's too young to understand it all, she's happy when I'm happy. But her happiness shouldn't depend on mine entirely, she's only a child. And we should be living for them. You certainly should raise your children first, giving them the stability and strength they need, but life happens, you can't pretend to be happy just to make everyone else happy. That's what I went through for 8 years.
And of course I am aware of the damaging effects that too many relationships can cause and etc. I've only had two relationships and have remained friends with them afterwards, which can be beyond a childs' grasp of understanding also. It's just that without moving forward, without the opportunity to learn to heal as well...how will you cope as an adult?
My parents had a great relationship, and still do. It has shown me what I would like in a relationship as far as the positive aspects go, but we never dealt with anything negative, (I was actually rather sheltered). I find myself learning Now. My daughter is in the midst of this and I have moments where I worry whether or not I am doing right by her, but I can only give and do for her what I know, and I want to know more. I don't want her to be afraid to make choices and hide for fear of pain. I want her to be strong, to listen to her heart and rationalize with her mind.

lovebug0001: I understand were you are comming from I stayed away from any realationships for two years for fear that it will damaged my kids well being . it is hard to allow some in your life and your kid/s life cause it is one thing to get hurt by yourself but it is another to get hurt and still have to look out for the hurt the kids maybe going through for they may have gotten attached to that other person as well

sweet_prinz: To date or not to date?
It's absolutely maddening! You want to be happy but not sure if it will be beneficial for the kids.
Will they like her? will she like them?
what happens if they get attached and it falls apart?
GGGRRR who knew dating could be so hard!
I have been on a few dates but then all these questions pop in my head and I end up blowing it anyways

lilyjean: I am a 23 year old single mom and i found i man through my summer job.... he's respectable, responsible and totally understanding of my situation of being a mom and a student... at 39 years old I probably would have never dated him before (I young 39 may I add) but because of his instant connection with my son, who was almost 2 when i introduced them, the age is so irrelevant now.... i would never date anyone who did not treat my son as they're own, which he does, and since dad is not in the picture and my son is at such a young age it is easier for both of them to adapt slowly to the relationship.... keep looking everyone and you'll know when its not right, we have more that the average relationship to deal with but tons of joy with our children!

repaired_goods: im not putting my kids through another relationship break down, there is no way....its lonely as hell sometimes..but i refuse to be the type of mother that has men coming in and out, my kids are my world and men will always come 2nd best to them. i have great friends for companionship and a good imagination for the rest

in saying that, i think single dads are sexy as hell, i spose ive just grown up enough now to realise a relationship can wait, im enjoying just being a mum for now

steffrench: Hello I am French and I shall wish to work as peer girl in Malta this summer, I look for an association which could help me THANK YOU or a family...

steffrench: Hello my name's stéphanie I am French i shall like working in Malta as peer girl this summer somebody can help me to find an association or a family thank you