kids having kids. (Page 3) arkle: Hello,Sami,Just pretend you got a girlfriend? pregnant......What would you do? Dont preach to me about your god,I have my own.Just pretend?.........  missmeghanx: I think I disagree with some aspects, I just turned 18, Im almost finished school, I am financially stable, emotionally stable, and mature for my age. I personally think I am ready for a baby. Smiles2008: Maybe I shouldn't even say a word. But here goes. To be a single mother or father it takes a lot of guts. A lot of love. And a lot of patience. There is no one to fall back on or hand the kids off to when you have had it up to your eyeballs. So a single mother/father has to be a very special person indeed. Each one should be commended on their ability to love and nurture. I don't think anyone who has a child at a very young age actually sits and thinks... gee I think I should have a child. If they do they are making a conscious choice according to their beliefs and wants and desires and that is ok. And while I am not necessarily in agreement with having kids at a very young age... it isn't because I think the kids will turn out differently. It isn't because of some God reason or any morality issues. The thing I keep thinking is they are still kids themselves at a young age. I feel they might end up missing out on a lot of good stuff. They don't necessarily have to miss out. But it is possible that they might end up feeling as though they did. Also while they can and often do continue with their education, a lot of them do not end up furthering themselves in that way. The money required or the time or the juggling of responsibilities can seem overwhelming. And so I worry about that a little. Often when a very young person has a child it ends up being her or his parents who end up doing most of the raising. Furthermore the financial stress can tend to fall back upon the grandparents. If they have a problem with taking on those extra responsibilities the good thing is they can just say no. The new mother and father must then figure out a way to deal with their needs on their own. A person sure has to grow up fast when they become a parent. It changes just about everything. But it isn't the end of the world. It is just a new phase of life. If I had my druthers i'd say be a kid for as long as you can in life cause childhood is only for the first 18 or so odd years. You've got a lot of time to be a grown up. Responsibility can sometimes be a drag. I hope I didn't offend anyone with this. Bo shank: i had mine at 16 and 17 i lived on my own and i raised them on my own till 4 years ago i give my children every thin possible and more that i can give them and even more so they can never get to much love from me and support in every thing they do and for someone so young havin 2 children i think i have raised to well nurtured respectable young lads
Bo shank: i know i have it madens me when people judge ya coz you was young havin them. i took a risk and got pregnant and at the end of the day i mad my bed and i led in it both my boys have the same dad (which is a rare thing now days)it does get hard some times but the easy time over run them Bo shank: there are times when i feel like kickin them on the neck but we spend most of our time laughin like fools and bein daft lol all their mates think i rock lol Raven: The ONLY problem I have with kids having kids is that alot of times it ends in abortion. People at every age have abortions, but it seems more frequent in teens. But younger parents that I have known personally have done an awesome job! Raven: A lot of youngsters here, though, is what I meant. It would probably be about even if I include everywhere. sxylilhotpants: i am a teen mom of a very bright and loved lil boy he lights up my days when i'm down and yes there are times he can be a real pain but wat child doesn't bug the living life outta there parents AGE = nothing but a number it the person that counts R1992: im 16 and i have a 3month old son his father dont help me out & i really want him to be part of his son's life what shoud i do. can anyone give me advise. sxylilhotpants: 7 more days an my lil boy has his 2nd b-day i still can't believe how fast times goes Raven: R1992, if he doesn't want to be part of your baby's life, and won't help out, take him to court, where they will make him pay child support. He helped make the kid, he can help take care of him to. la_mas_deseada: Well some teen agers don't know what they are gettin in to... I was a mom a 14 and I didn't give my kid 4 adoption cas I took full responsability of my action none like other moms that give them up... and still keep on having kids....  beccaelle1: How ar you having kids before your 16th birthday. Its illegal to have sex before 16. Its no ok just for the guy to go to prison for this. Girls surely have a mind of their own. Its madness. 16 and 9 months is when you should be having kids (not ideal) before that you need to be arrested  curl_jam: I like what Smiles2008 has written, smart thinking. I read many who have said theyre' single-parent at 16, 17 etc..why a single parent? is it not the responsibility of both the parents to raise their child together? child bearing and rearing is a life changing event and has to be done responsibly and most importantly, the child will need both parents growing up, not just one of them. Nobody wants to undergo a difficult life and nobody should become a burden to anyone else. Itz a difficult world we are living in, one should consider. SillySally8: why a single parent you ask ozborne?...well...I will tell you...I had my first child at 29 and the father CHOSE not to parent...I mean really? chose not to parent?....lol as you can tell..that was completely out of my control so I dug in and raised him on my own..period, I am fully aware of what my responsibilities as a parent are and were and I did it...my second child I had at 36, I was married and it was abusive at best....that father chose to instill pain and toxins into the relationship so I CHOSE to parent on my own...best decision I ever made for both my children...each situation is different and who are we to judge anothers actions? that is not for any of us to do | Parenting Chat Room 37 People Chatting Similar Conversations |
