kids having kids. (Page 2) repaired_goods: sami, what do you find foolish about it. i think ots foolish that you have 40 year olds having kids for the first time and they're still not mature enough to be a parent, i think its foolish that people are judged on their age and not their ability. i think its foolish that the people who are judging are the one's who havent been in that situation themselves.  Sami Suave: i think its foolish to assume you know what ive been through dont you? Its my belief that s%y was intended for married couples, therefor its also my belief that if a 16 year old girl was to have a child it would have been a foolish decision, given that its highly unlikely she is married.. and even if she was, im dont think its wise to have a child so young. i think young people need to think responsibly, about what kind of future they can give the child. im sure the rate of 16 year olds who can support a child on their own isnt very high. take care.  Rose: intended by whom? and for argument's sake .. girls USED to get married far younger than 16 and have several children of their own by the time they hit late teens early twenties and there was nothing foolish about it then.. it was 'the way things were' so .. how young is too young then sami? .. with regards to getting married and starting a family? how long should people wait? in your opinion? Sami Suave: Intended by god. i have nothing against getting married and having a family.. i havent mentioned that at all. i have mentioned however, that i think having sw$ is a gift given to married couples.... so in regards to 16 year olds having children, i think its wrong.. because they (in my country anyway) cannot be married legally by that age. Rose: just out of curiosity then ... if GOD intended for children only to be for married couples .. why did he make it physically possible for girls as young as 10 to give birth (actually i think it's younger than 10 but i dnt know the youngest actual case) Would you say that god loves children born out of wedlock less than he loves children whose parents were married? marriage is a human concept .. animals don't get married although many species mate for life. As soon as an animal becomes physically ready to bear children .. they mate. it's legal to marry here between 16-18 with parental consent. Sami Suave: god gave choice to people. Whether they decide to go his way or against him, he gave them that choice. Not at all, god doesnt love any child less than the next. yeah marriage is a human concept, did you have a point there, i didnt pick up on it, sorry. oh yeah. take care people Rose: the point about marriage being a human concept was that it's not necessarily a divine one. I see no reason why god would consider a piece of paper to be proof of readiness for parenting Sami Suave: Marriage is a divine concept, god talks about it alot. your confusing me a bit lol sorry... people make their own decisions on that, god gives people their own power to choose what they will... im saying i think its wrong, i dont pretend to know what god thinks, i only ever write what he has said... repaired_goods: my grandma said the same thing about god to me, when i fell pregnant at 15...god is the one who choose's the parents of each child, right? god gave me the gift of my son....right? it happend to be at 15. i have never been married, i have three children. i dont know about your god, but my god is loving and forgiving, my children are cared for and provided for and loved. so you think that god see's me as a foolish girl...i will admit, i can be foolish is life, i have made some foolish decisions, but when it comes to my children i give it my best, i would go to the ends of the earth for them...maybe you should ask god to open your eyes, for you seem blinded to the truth... repaired_goods: other point to sami...you say you follow gods word, the stop your bloody judging, because if you read the bible, you would see that the only one to judge is god himself, so quit trying to lighten his work load, how does the saying go??? let he who is without sin cast the first stone....yep thats the one Sami Suave: too much talk from you. if u cared enough to know my character you wouldnt try to assassinate it immediately. repaired_goods: too much talk...lol, there are three posts from me, and 7 from you!! i think your just miffed cos you no longer have a point to fall back on. i dont care enough to get to know you, you have showed who you are! thats not the sort of person i want to surround myself with, your to judgmental!! maybe tonight you should pray for god's forgiveness, i will pray that you see the error of your ways repaired_goods: sorry sami, been under alot of stress, you have your veiw i have mine!!! and your right i dont know you, i wouldnt have a clue who you are and what your life is....sorry.  princesssugarbum: Hi, I have just got to say i was pregnant with my first child on purpose at 13. He is now 7 and a half and amazing. I also now have a daughter who is 4 and a half and she is also just as amazing. I have never been on housing benefit/income support. I have been back to college and am now training to be a nurse. I don't belive every young mother should be judged by the scummy ones who do it for houses and benefits. I choose to have a child so young as i was in foster care and felt very unloved. Having a child for me was a was for me to be loved unconditionally. Very selfish i hear you say well from my point of view it was a better option that drugs which most children in foster care turn to. I Don't regret for a second what I did and my children are my life. Sorry for the rant x arkle: My daughter had her first child at 16,another at 18,I helped her as she didnt have a house........When she did,she never came crawling to me.Now her boys are 11 and 9 ,they live 300 miles from me.....I think i will tell her about this .Then she can have HER say..........LOL Bo shank: i had my first kid at 16 and my second at 17 and i think i have done a pretty good job they are above average at scholl and both bring A+ in their reports Bo shank: there are people out there who have kids in their 30s and still cannot look after them so its nothin to do with the age of a person as i said i had mine at 16 and 17 and the woman down the street had hers in her late 20s and she cant even be bothered to look after hers. i as no one for help and just got on with it i worked up untill last week so f*xy you all out there who dont have a clue | Parenting Chat Room 11 People Chatting Similar Conversations |