Domestic Violence Case

mysscryss92
mysscryss92: I was recently a victim of domestic violence at the hands of my ex boyfriend. He strangled me and threw me from a car and I feel I did the right thing by pressing charges. However I suffer from anxiety disorders and have severe panic attacks I cant control and I'll likely have to appear in court. Just the thought of having to be in the same room with him makes me feel like I'll have a panic attack. What can I do or what would happen if I can't appear in court because of the anxiety and fear of him?
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pegas64
pegas64: First, Do you hire a Lawyer ? if it's not, it will be a little more harder to be in the same room like him.
A lawyer can provide, support, fighting for you, it's their job.

If you don't appear it depends the charges, but normaly he will be judge and condam.
But the fact is, if you are présent during the court, if they call you to the bar for more information you can provide more details and they can give more crédits to what you said before. The man can have a better punishment. They also can ask you if you want something from him like money, or spécial demand like "you want hime to roast in hell with satan in bikini ."

Anyway, i suggest you to talk to a lawyer before the court and mayber hire one.
They know how the justice and court work.

Plus, i know it can be hard to be in the same room, but you need to be strong. Strong and coming with a friend or family to support you can help.
(Edited by pegas64)
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mysscryss92
mysscryss92: Well when u press charges a lawyer is given and that's the prosecutor so I don't need to look for a lawyer but the defendant might want to. I have to appear or its a violation but I don't have to be in the room at the same time as the defendant. Thanks though
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wayne elliott
wayne elliott: mysscryss92, you could also contact a support group who might be able to have someone with you as you go into the court experience. It's a very confronting thing to have to deal with the court process, but it will ensure that the incidents are on record and there may be some sort of Order preventing the culprit from going near you. He sounds very violent, and such a person may not take kindly to having his actions in the public domain. Take precautions if he is free to leave court and alter your routine that he has become familiar with while knowing you. Don't get into a situation where you are alone together, maybe have someone you can contact if you fear for your safety.

Good luck and remember you deserve better than a man who will abuse you.
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windy15
windy15: mysscryss92...that is exactly what your ex boyfriend is hoping. Ask for some medication to help with your anxiety and surround yourself with positive people. If he doesn't get charged he will do it again and this time it might be very serious.
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mysscryss92
mysscryss92: It's been a few months now since I pressed charges and I've found out that the arrest warrant isn't even active yet. I feel like the police and the court isn't taking the domestic violence seriously and im starting to regret even filing the charges. Idk if there's some way to drop the charges and just change my info (phone number, address, etc.) and try to move on or if I'm not even legally able to do that now. I believe the stress and anxiety over all this wasn't worth it.
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wayne elliott
wayne elliott: Outrageous. The police should have activated that warrant asap. They have a habit of dismissing or trivialising domestic cases because - they maintain - the woman often retracts the statement and goes back to her abuser. I would seriously hesitate before dropping the charges against this man. Perhaps you could contact your local magistrate or even a political representative to air your grievance. Change your phone/contact info anyway.
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