OL an Alternative Lifestyle?

Mountain Joe
Mountain Joe: so many words typed and posted on these forums about the constant debate between OL and RL ...... but without pitching one against the other, let's just expore OL. Do you think you could find a life online .... is it possibe to maintain a life here among the many many chatters and posters on fourm? If so, to what extent? Can you touch, feel, taste, or can you use your imagination and fantasy to make it "real"? Can you seperate yourself from RL while in the OL world you create for yourself? Is it possible?
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KittenBlu
KittenBlu: of course you cannot use your senses to enhance an online relationship... but we have no qualms about saying that we are friends online....intimacy is more than touching...our brains are the most sensual of all our organs...

so... yes .. OL relationships are important.... and they can add value to our lives... i am real ... my OL friendships are real... so why not a D/s relationship
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Cheecho
Cheecho: Interesting new discourse on an old subject. My stance is that of potential. We rarely if ever, for-fill ourselves in the so called real word. Why not indulge in online life. however real or surreal it may be. I support anyone whose vivid imagination carries them through some part of the day. Life can be annoyingly monotonousness at times.
Agrees with kitty.
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xSimplex
xSimplex: Maybe it's me, but every time this question comes up all i read is: "is sex online the same as sex in real life" I see this because how can there be a question of feelings and emotions? There is science i'm sure behind it somewhere. However, from one person to another, you cannot ever tell them how they feel, think, or how they choose to do something, we cannot live another person's experience, we only have our own. So this is my response:

It's a philosophical argument that we are experiencers of our own realities. There is a definite balance between what sustains you physically and what sustains you mentally. Where some are not sustained fully in one area they search it out in another, and our brains interpret that interaction, and we still grow, and are affected directly by our experiences. A person's brain may experience touch, feel, taste, even sexual pleasures, differently. Porn, movies, books... they all stimulate our brains into feeling... the taste of our own experience if you will. Although these are temporary for some, others live their lives wrapped up in these worlds. The online experience can be a delicate one, however, connections with people, experiences, and the feelings brought on push the online question into a reality. It's real, if you can experience it.
And imagination? --- yes it helps... but let's be honest, our body reacts and responds according to our emotions and the feelings our brain is interpreting. And we release ourselves into either accepting that we had that experience.... or not.
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h_town_cutie
h_town_cutie: Hmmmm...interesting. I've been in a couple of online relationships myself. One where I actually did meet & spend time w/the person. One where we never met but the emotions we felt for each other were very real. The last online relationship I had did indeed carry over into my real life as they moved from where they resided to come & be with me. I have many people I have established friendships with online & a few that I developed deep emotion for. Most I have met in person but few I haven't. Can I separate one world from another? Of course I can. I do have to say that I agree with KittenBluRose...online relationships can indeed be a very vital & important aspect of a person's life. I have been known to say on many occasions that all my "friends" live in my phone/pc because I don't go out much & therefore don't have local friends to hang out with. Do I feel that my life is lacking in anyway due to the fact that I don't have local friends? No not at all. I have my husband, my wife & my children. I'm happy.
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Sandra38
Sandra38: Well said
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