Becoming a woman britneybelle: SOOOO I am becoming a woman. Why?? I have felt for many years I was the wrong gender. Part of it has to do with my response to life's experiences. Actually probably a huge part of it. Anyways. I am nearing 50 and those people in the know in my life are not really embracing the new me. Family and friends are not supportive and I am finding myself questioning my decision. Society places a lot on appearance and so the noemal thing to do is to dress as a woman when in public. The requirements for changing genders is living as the opposite sex for a period. However, people assume that means wearing skirts and dresses all the time. There isn't a woman I know who doean't wear pants at some time but yet because I am becoming a woman it's frowned upon. (Edited by britneybelle) britneybelle: So as I approach my fiftieth I am faced with the loss of my family. Support for my decision has diminished. Suddenly I am alone. My work clients have also decided that my lifestyle is too much for them to deal with so I have lost a substantial amount of income.  Hugo K.: i have a friend who has recently decided to embrace her true gender and stop hiding. she too has been faced with the complete loss of support from friends, save me and another person, and understandably its been hard on her. still, she insists to me that no matter how terrible it gets or how much hate she gets from strangers/"friends", nothing is more important to her than feeling like herself. it's hard to feel like everyone has deserted you.. and it's also easy to fall into a pattern of believing that nobody wants to see you succeed, but i genuinely hope you continue on with what you have to do. its crucial to feel comfortable in your own skin, and its not your fault you received one of the wrong variety. stay strong <3 (Edited by Hugo K.) britneybelle: I went for bloodwork today. I am tired of being poked , prodded, and examined both physically, mentally and emotionally. BUT I must do as the docs request otherwise I will not be approved for SRS. Be compliant and eventually I will get to become the woman I already am britneybelle: How do you measure femininity? How much is enough femininity? Because I am undergoing gender reassignment I am expected to exude femininity to the utmost at all times. But yet a different standard is applied to genetic females. |