What's wrong with me??? (Page 13)
cavailable2: Deliberately saying thank you to God for each of the little things helps I give you the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness. The spirit of heaviness is depression. A garment of praise including Thanksgiving is to be increased around the mind like a blanket by repeating it.
ClassicCarTunes: I went through some of the same thing with family. The guilt. Trying to take my mom around to see them all later in her life. Finally I realized that while I love my family I have a life!
Don't let others control you. Be your own, caring person and enjoy life while you have it. Later if you don't you look back and say "Why did I waste so much of my life for them?"
It goes pretty much the same way with kids once you have them. You raise them, nurture them but in the end they have to make their own decisions. The best parents I know are the ones that do NOT coddle their kids in their adult years but give them a stern, kind statement of "Honey, you need to become responsible for yourself." If you don't then the apron strings are always there and when you are gone ... they do not know how to cope.
Too many parents feel like they have to be the ones for their kids. Yes, if they have a mental disability that is different. But even then I have cousins that had their kids live in a guest house on their property. They had some level of independence but the parents were there because they knew that their daughter could not live completely on her own.
The same goes with these guys that try and play the emotions of a woman. Frankly its disgusting to me as a man. Guys need to quit pulling the emotional strings of women.
wfarmerjr: My wife of 53 years is bipolar and she has been taking her medications faithfully, but even then there were times she had to change medications. She worked at Tinker AFB for 28 years and no one knew she had a mental illness. In the first 20 years we were almost divorced three times. She felt depressed and thought it was me that was the problem and she hooked up with other men to make her feel better - didn't work. No one can make you happy if you are unhappy with yourself - that would be a task you are most likely going to fail at. You could seek help with twelve step programs like Co-dependency Anonymous or Nar-anon. You can't love someone into recovery.