Abbegal's and Alisha's Anti Bully Group 2013 (Page 5)

big_mac_sauce_2: Chatrooms without bullying is like going to a brothel for a hug. If there was no cyber-bullying in these rooms then the chat topics would generally be about the weather paired with the over-use of emoticons. Keep up the good work bullies, you keep this place alive.

Nymphetamine Ene: molly, i m telling you to not talk about personal life with ppl, coz i talked with ppl i considered friends about my personal life, some even let into personal life and ppl always use those things against you molly.... it is pretty much simple here moly, you may be friends with ppl which will tell you many beautiful things here and mostly pretend to be your friends with all there niceness but rough truth is, everyone here sooner or later turn on each other and against each other.. i m on this site now for almost 4 years, and seen it all along to many times.

Notamandibot: People are not going to be polite and they aren't going to stop bullying people. Your best bet is just to stick with the friends you have and try to have fun regardless. I know I can be pretty harsh and I have absolutely no intentions being any "nicer". Wire Mods have enough of their plate already - they can't watch everything. I think the best way to handle all of this is just common sense. No one's forcing you to stay in a situation where you feel uncomfortable or bullied. You can always hop rooms.

pinkedden: i do not tend to agree with all you said Notamandibot, yes, avoiding is one answer but i have some wonderful friends on wire who have been there for me, who have stuck up for me.
Bullying is going to happen wherever you are, best thing i think to do is ignore them, or, if you have to, speak up for yourself. i tend to go to rooms my friends are in, make it more drama free that way, i don't really block often as .... like the old saying goes.... keep your friends close and your enemies even closer.
Don't let them get to you molly, its not worth it.

MollyJ: I'm pretty much going to ignore most of the previous comments on what I said but thank you Pinkedden Good to see there are a couple of actual human people with actual feelings on this site

TwistedCharm: Sick and tired of being called evil names on here, I know people who have left wireclub because of the I stand my ground and report everything. But the haters have their accounts deleted and then resurface, with another account. And Molly, you are awesome!

MollyJ: So true, Twisted. Nothing can stop the bullies, they just keep coming back. Blocking and reporting is the only thing to do and also ignoring but still doesn't stop things they say.

Thanks Twisted, you're pretty awesome too

AbBeGal: Just because there are bullies on this site doesn't me we have to accept it. If someone bullies you report it! However people need to be smart here. Don't give out too much info in a chat room. Dont send personal photos or go on cams showing images you may regret later if they got out.
No one knows how others will react. Some here may have mental issues or whatever and what you may think is funny may push others over the edge.
I am bot expecting everyone to be friends, just show people, especially those with differences with respect.

TwistedCharm: The bullying is not necessarily about giving people personal information, its about people who just want to be assholes, and bug you over really simple shit. Shallow people who want to call you ugly and so on.

Nymphetamine Ene: i promise i will respect ppl with big foreheads

Queenie The Poo: Exactly, AbBeGal ... I seriously don't think that is too much to ask of people, but apparently so Whatever happened to just being nice to people?

Queenie The Poo: And yes, TwistedCharm, I've seen people get absolutely hammered in chat without ever giving any personal information out.; Some people are just assholes who think they are better than everyone else.

matty G: i always get bullied rod bullies me and the mods

AbBeGal: We teach kids to not bully however the adults do so the lesson goes in one ear and out the next.

Queenie The Poo: Yep. Makes you wonder if some of these bullies on here have kids and what they are like ... I hate to think of the new breed of bullies!!

MollyJ: I feel the same, Abbe, I don't see the point of being nasty just for the sake of it. Would you walk up to someone in the street and say 'You have a really big nose, you should get surgery' ?? I think not. If so, then you have some serious issues. (Not you, obviously)

And like Queenie said, Why be mean? Why can't we just be nice to people? If you can't find anything to talk about, then don't talk to that person. If the only thing you have to say is something derogatory, then you have serious issues yourself. Such as the person who keeps mentioning the forehead Perhaps some people should take a look at themselves first Nobody is perfect

wbbrtron: Obviously the only solution is to kill all the bullies or perform some biological interventions (stick wires into their brain) before they take over!

"I am bot expecting everyone to be friends, just show people, especially those with differences with respect."

^ very curious verbal slip here.....stepford wives comes to mind, except in this virtual village they would be patrolling the rooms to make sure everyone is being nice (even if you are getting repeatedly ejaculated on by 8 horny indians in dating room).

MollyJ: No, there is a difference between defending yourself and just randomly picking on someone.

wbbrtron: yes but defending what's important to you is often seen as bullying from the one being attacked, or counter-attacked, since they may not realize they did something offensive.

wbbrtron: in other words, you may see a comment as 'being nasty for the sake of it' but who knows, maybe there is a reason why they are saying those nasty things. maybe the gap is so huge that they feel the only way to get across is to get in your head.

obviously, as you say, that's different than being arbitrarily called fake whore etc.

wbbrtron: there is no criteria for distinguishing arbitrary bullying from fighting back in here, since typically we're not asked by moderators to testify; virtually all judgments are based on words only, which is to say squat.

to complicate things, as someone said, people fight for/value different things. some see slots as a pretty awesome place to hang out before heading off to work, others see it as a place people come to commit suicide. so you can imagine how difficult conversation is going to be between two net users like this. Conflict inevitably arises, as it should, because of different values of how to spend time (just as religions are in conflict because they each have a fundamental view of reality)

Charlie hustle's realism teaches us that u dont try to be nice in situations like this, because that's just bullshit, melancholic nostalgia for a time that never was, and perhaps reflects ur own inability to handle confrontation; i.e. you are a coward, and to break out of the deadlock of being a coward you call for the whole universe to be nice so your fragile self can proceed unscathed. I think that's a very dangerous thing, to adopt a whole way of life around your fears of encounters with people. as charlie said, it amounts to enslaving your environment and the people around you to act in a way that suits your sensitive condition.

My conclusion is: queenie poo should have a street fight with ene, abby should be spanked, and charlie hustle should get promoted to mayor of this micro-city.

MollyJ: Yes, well that's what I meant. Defending yourself when someone calls you something or makes a comment about something about you, especially repeatedly and for no reason, is much different from just attacking someone.

MollyJ: There is nothing that can be done, unfortunately because the mods are always saying they have 'more important things to worry about' than this .. which is ironic considering there seem to be so many of them and I think the biggest issue on here is actually this one. It's good to bring this discussion up though, I think.

And conflict is normal, of course everyone is not going to get along and be all peachy.

Nymphetamine Ene: i standing firm by my promise that i will respect ppl with big foreheads

wbbrtron: and i promise to be polite to people who eat noodles or have poo fetish