A friend with benefits is really a friend?

marysch: People call it “friends” with benefits. Yet, when the benefits are over there’s nothing left, so I wonder. How is that supposed to be and what should we expect? should the person act as a friend? being there and showing support towards you and sharing stuff together? or is that going too far?

Soul Doubt 70: I don't love the FWB thing, just cause it occurs to me that they're good enough to be a friend, good enough to f*ck, but not good enough to be with? Its a little insulting, but if they are supposed to be a friend, there should be times when you just hang out or go do things...

harpy55: If two adults wish to satisfy their desires with one another then why not.

odessamc: well it should be friends with benefits are they for each other but don't want anything serious because they are probably figuring things out or might be after a bad break up

AJ Cali: I love the idea of FWB. but in my perspective the center has such a intertwined dynamic. ITs sex with friendship not the other way around. The whole premise is to have sexual fun.

whosaidwhat50: I had a Fwb for a couple years it was the best set up ever and you have to like the person to make it work . We fucked long and hard most nights then have a feed or such then go seperate ways no commitment now jealousy just good hard fucking awesome then I moved 600 ks away so we slowly drifted . Still catch up every now and then for fun but not like before

simontemok: I have had situations like that when someone moves away, holiday sex is good also

Troublinn: It seems to me, IMHO, FWB's might be the more vulgar term for the more politically correct non-exclusive relationships. Exclusivity, for some may be the only way they can experience true friendship/sex. However, a true exclusive relationship, would imply that the one you have committed to “exclusively” would also be your friend and thus a FWB. Why does having FWB’s have to be an empty proposition devoid of true feelings for the other(s), even without the “benefits”? Is it not possible to remain friends without the benefits! I think the problem stems from our inability to be in the moment, without having the past encroach on our thoughts and feelings and the distraction of worrying what the future may hold in store. When you are with a FWB you are “with” them, whether you are having sex or having dinner or just being “there”.

m_leonora1111: Do you want to be my friend??

AJ Cali: @Troublinn That is the a great perspective

Soul Doubt 70: I think I was wrong. Friends with benefits is ok. I was wrong wrong wrong.

odessamc: sounds like someone got laid and that changed the perspective

cchrishefish: I have an online FWB whom lives near me. She messages me every day, but is playing hard to get. This has been going on for 2 months now. It took 2 months for her to accept my friend request, she is making me work hard for it. Update, she seems to be very unstable, wanting me to humiliate her online and coming up with role play ideas. And, would not tell me the type of role plays that she wanted. I decided to run away as fast as I can!

odessamc: wow you shouldn't have to work for it

jackyuan: i don't think so,thoughts for life the same the better

cchrishefish: I am still looking for a FWB. Yesterday, I had a 30 ish redhead nurse asking what I was doing this weekend. She works at my hospital and I felt very awkward. I do not think that is a very good idea.

odessamc: I'm still looking for one too especially so i have to drive 2 hours for it

Angry Beaver: What are these "friends" of which you speak??

dclark13: I had an FWB relationship years ago. Although she was hot she was not a good person. We only went out and had a cool time hanging out one time. The benefit for me was she was hot and liked sex. For her, I was one of the few guys she knew that had a job. She only came around when she wanted something, usually money. After a while, I realized prostitution works the same way. I finally peaced out after I had a bad auto accident and was busted up for a couple of months. The only time she came to see me was when she needed to borrow $50. I agree with Marysch, when the benefits are not there do you really like your FWB?

simontemok: I have never bothered about money, if any friend needs it and I have got it they are welcome. That's what friends are for

simontemok: Nothing to do with sex though, That sort of friend is usually mutual needs of each other on a temporary basis and reset to normal life after

dclark13: I agree simontemok real friends are there when you need them and when you don't. I have to say my real friends at the time didn't like my FWB.

odessamc: most of my friends didn't even know about my fwb because they ran in different circles

MannyD: I've had a few female friends that went to being fwb and I was there for them still. It's not always just about having sex. I'm still friends with some even tho they are married now but just as friends.

Soul Doubt 70: Yeah... so, I do have a woman who stops by now and then... and its crazy.
Last time she stopped by she said "I want you to f**k my face" before she even said hi... its very fun, but a part of me... the 50 year old part of me, wants someone for more than that also....