Do you think it's acceptable to have a sexual relationship with someone if you are already in a relationship?

lauracroft43: Guys and gals of wireclub what is your opinion on engaging in sexual acts with someone other than your partner when you are in a relationship? Would you count this as being disloyal or simply "trying new things" and enjoying yourself? I have noticed recently people have very different takes on the subject, so who is to say who is right and who is wrong?

FunkyBiscuits82: "What is your opinion on engaging in sexual acts with someone other than your partner when you are in a relationship?"
-My opinion is that a relationship is only between two people. If there are more involved, it's not really a relationship.

"Would you count this as being disloyal or simply "trying new things" and enjoying yourself?"
-As long as each party involved agrees to the situation, I don't consider it disloyal or cheating. "Trying new things" and "enjoying yourself" can be said of any situation, and has no factor in my opinion of the subject at hand.

"Who is to say who is right and who is wrong?"
-The people in the relationship. Obviously, if a partner doesn't agree with being in an open relationship, then that should be honored. However, if a partner doesn't mind, then there should not be any harm in it.

Motati: Eish, ja!

WonderWoman1: Don't forget to use protection please

Motati: True, all the time.

FunkyBiscuits82: Chances are if someone is having sex with that many different people, the person probably already has an STD or will likely get one, regardless of protection being used.

Motati: That's scary Funky, and you can't trust condoms 100%.

FunkyBiscuits82: Motati, yes, people think using a condom is responsible...it's actually not that responsible.

LoisS: It is very responsible to use a condom. Dont ever put out such silly information that it isnt.

FunkyBiscuits82: Lois, Using a condom alone is not responsible. It's just pretending to be. Bc we all know that you can still get pregnant and also contract an STD with or without a condom. A condom just makes the chances less likely. It's better than nothing, I agree. But it's still not responsible. Especially not if you're promiscuous and do not get tested/have your partner tested on a regular basis.

LoisS: Youre an idiot.

FunkyBiscuits82: Lois, What I said is an obvious truth.

venomhbk: No absolutely not you cheat your going to get caught and lose the person you love the most

LoisS: If youre "cheating" the person you love most, is yourself.

garryw: Nope

Motati: You never know with cheaters, lots of possibilities.
1) You might have told him/her how good s/he is and because of the generous behaviour, s/he wants other people to enjoy.
2) Not certain about his/her performance, need other people's opinion.
3) When you have 2 cars, one that you use everyday, going to work, meetings and shopping. (These will be other girlfriends or FWB).The second car is your favourite car, only used on special occasions. (This will be you as a wife/husband or partner). S/he might be too much in love with you, so s/he saves you and use other people.

fritan: One of the risks is an emotional risk -- that people who have sex tend to bond with each other even if they think it's just sex and that's not going to happen. So if you're trying not to change your life, a new (potentially intense) emotional bond won't help. Part of it might be that really great sex is addictive, so you could try to have bad sex to limit the risk. But what does it mean if the best way to limit the emotional risk is to have bad sex?

Fog Swept Glade: It isn't ok to intentionally have sex with anybody even if somebody you now hate MAY have an issue.