Is love a losing game?

Live_By_Common_Sense: This life is all about being a player and playing the game. Get gains from any way possible by using your mind, time and work your way up to be successful at whatever your goals were intended for. Relationship is a game, that's why people cheat, and if the cheaters get away with it, they win. Love is something dangerous to play with. That is why I do not want to play that game. Because love can either be cherished or it can ruin your life. That is why I never fall for love from someone that I do not see as my companion. Because what if I find someone better than the one I am with, and to the one that I am with currently, goes psychotic and start to break down, or even try to ruin my life in any means possible. Now, you can make either a good relationship, or you can make an enemy for life. So I would never want to break anyone's heart. That is what I stick too. Being picky is not a bad idea for trying to keep your relationship life healthy.

Chissai: That sounds like a recipe for a very lonely life.

Relationships are not a “game” they require a lot of hard word and commitment.
That is if you want a relationship and not a series of one night stands.

Yes it’s good to be picky, but you can also throw away a good person if you are constantly looking for “ someone better”. The grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence.

If you keep saying “what if? what if? what if? You are going to be one lonely man.
Life is full of what if’s. We all have to take a chance, sooner or later, and whether a relationship turns out good or bad it is because of what YOU put into it.

Live_By_Common_Sense: I rather be single than to settle or date someone that I do not see as my companion.

Chissai: I didn’t say anything about settling.....of course you shouldn’t settle.

But if you constantly think that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, then nobody will be ever be good enough for you.

Live_By_Common_Sense: If you would see it from my point of view, you wouldn't like the choices that was offered by fate. I know personality is really important, but looks is what gets my attraction. I don't want to date someone that is horrendous looking. I am an honest guy, and I will never make the same mistake as other people do. My choices is slim, and seems like faith is not widening my choices.

Chissai: I would rather date a person who isn’t that good looking who treats me well, than someone gorgeous. But that’s just me. Do think that looks don’t fade? That beautiful girls good looks will fade and you are left with what is on the inside, and you may find that the inside didn’t match the outside.

As Kevyn Aucoin once famously said:
“No amount of make up can hide an ugly heart.”

Live_By_Common_Sense: Looks do fade away, so why don't we live the life before everything fades away. Okay, yea I do not want to be with someone that has an ugly heart, that ruins the authenticity of a real relationship. I need a girlfriend that would be there for me as much as I will be there for her. If I am putting in more work for love than my companion, the relationship is based on false grounds. So I open myself to find the perfect one that matches with looks and personality. Grass is always going to be green on the other side if the grass is fed well. You just got to find the right spot.

Chissai: Well then you have to open your heart and let someone in. Besides how do you know if someone will make a good “companion” or not if you don’t give them a chance.

What makes you think that your choices are slim?

Live_By_Common_Sense: Just basing on my fate, seems like my choices are slim.

Chissai: Do mean faith or fate?

Live_By_Common_Sense: Yeah sorry, I meant fate*

Chissai: We create our own fate.

Live_By_Common_Sense: You sure? Seems like when I try to create my own fate, it leads me to nowhere but disappointment.

Chissai: Seems like all you need is more faith & confidence in yourself.

Live_By_Common_Sense: Females need to realize they need to be the woman who also can be assertive. Not all men are assertive, I myself is an introvert. How can I deal with me being the shy one? I just need the opposite of me from a female and everything will be okay. I been with this faith for too long.