I feel very frustrated with this guy! mssexygirl27: I have been talking to and seeing this guy I've known for a few years now. We met February 2013 and dated for almost a year back then. I really really ended up liking him a lot. I even told my sister I would marry him if he asked me. Well by the end of the year we stopped going out. But we continued to keep in touch through texts. Fast forward to October 2016 he starts to write to me and call me very often now. One night in October he calls me and during our conversation says, "I love you!" And he tells me again a couple more times. I don't know what to reply so I stay quiet. I feel quite surprised to hear those words from him but I also feel pretty happy hearing him say that. Anyway, after that call he starts to call me more often. We finally see each other again in mid-October. We have a very nice time together. It feels like we had never stopped seeing each other. He calls me again about a week later and tells me he loves me once again. He starts to talk marriage with me this time. For the next few nights we have long conversations over the phone. We talk a lot about marriage and having kids. This past Saturday night he comes over and we go out again. We end up spending the whole night together. We have dinner. drinks, cuddle up, etc. So during the night he did two things that makes me think hmm maybe he isn't kidding about getting married. First thing is, after dinner we go downstairs and have a drink at the restaurant bar in the hotel. I take out my little notebook and start to write my name and he grabs the pen and underneath my name he writes his last name. The second thing, I wear this diamond ring on my left hand that looks like an engagement ring. I've had it for about 4 years now. He grabs my hand and starts to slip my ring off my middle finger. He places it on my ring finger. Then says "There! I proposed to you." I laugh and tell him no this is my ring. You can't propose to me with my ring. So everything has been fine up until that day.....(to be continued) (Edited by mssexygirl27) mssexygirl27: Yesterday morning I didn't hear from him in the morning like I usually do. However, he did text me a little later. Throughout the day we texted back and forth but I noticed his responses were very short. We were planning to get together again yesterday evening but we never did. He texted later at night just saying "Hi Babe" I don't know why but I just get this feeling something changed with him. I feel like he's been talking to someone else. Maybe somebody that disappeared for a while and now came back. If that's the case, bye-bye! I'm not a second option.This is what makes me very frustrated. For the past 2 months or so he's been really affectionate with me. Texting me in the morning, calling me during the day and at night, etc. I feel like telling him I'm frustrated with his actions. Telling him he's confusing me now. But then I think I'll stay quiet and not mention anything. Wait a couple of days without being in contact. What do you think could be happening? Did I assume too easily about us possibly getting married? Should I not bring up the subject at all unless he does? p.s. - Sorry the question became super long. (Edited by mssexygirl27) mssexygirl27: I know I hate all the texting. I like phone calls not texting. He used to call me every day now he's just texting. Don't like it.  wildrose62: Just a few questions -has he ever invited you to his home? Or does he always come to your place? Have you been introduced to his friends or family? These are things that people who intend to marry you do even what people do when they're in a committed relationship.. He may already be in a relationship, or just using you. I know what I'm talking about here - I dated someone for a while and he seemed great, but after a while I noticed that there were lots of texts and mobile calls, but avoidance when it came to talking about meeting friends, family, going to his home etc. When we were together, it was because he had come to my place, which was a long trip from where he lived. Long story short, it turned out he was in an unhappy MARRIAGE and wanted out, but was being a real coward - afraid of what she'd take from him etc. Dumped his sorry arse very quickly after that. Never regretted the decision. mssexygirl27: Hi wildrose...thank you for responding. To answer your questions: 1. Yes I have been to his home several times now. Since I last wrote this question we have spent a lot of time together. I spent the whole weekend with him last week. From Friday until Monday afternoon. He wanted me there all those days and I wanted to be there that long too. Oh and on Friday night he once again took my ring that I wear on my left hand in my middle finger and put it on my ring finger. Mentioned marriage again. We talked about our future many times during the weekend. There was a moment when we left the house to go to the store and he said he wanted me to wear my diamond ring on my ring finger. It really looks like an engagement ring! lol...anyway, it felt really nice going out in public wearing my "engagement" ring. 2. I haven't been introduced to his friends and family. He only has his brother and sister. I almost met his mother three years ago but something happened and didn't end up meeting her after all. He really wanted me to meet his mom back then. I might have said no. Don't recall too well. 3. He's been divorced since 5 years ago. He's not in love with her anymore but they do have 2 kids and well you know how that is. Divorced and with kids = the ex will be around somehow because of the children. I'm okay with that. I understand that is one of the disadvantages of being with a divorced man. The last couple of days were a little bit rough. I felt him pulling away a bit and I asked him what was going on. He told me Thursday night that he just needed a bit of space at the moment. Honestly speaking I felt confused and hurt. We had been really close lately and then he tells me this. Well I said okay I understood and would give him his space. Told him I'm here for him. Well later that night he sent me a text saying hi and was sweet to me. And yesterday (Friday night) he started talking to me again. Being himself again. Telling each other how much we want one another. I hope we see each other this weekend because I really miss him and I really want to be with him. p.s.- he told me he loved me a few times during the weekend. I also told him I loved him too.  lis_b: han, y realy think he is whit someone else, maeby he was takeing u seriusly but, in that proccess met somone else and u do not metter now mssexygirl27: We're together. Long distance but we are together. Just trying to work out this long distance thing right now. Wish I lived in his city. Would make things much easier. thanks for answering though.  Bonita29: Sounds complicated, but if you feel happy make it works, just be careful its easy to fall for someone, i wish you the best luck ✌😉  andres30001: Life is to short to be with a frustrated emotional manipulator! He just want to be able to have you under his control mssexygirl27: Hi Andres..thanks! You're right. I let him go. He wasn't good for me. He cheated on me while we were together. And now he has a child with that woman.  LaurieDIA: Mssexy my best advice is take it slower next time, I used to be like you, looking back I am like, wow was I that needy lolol  Motati: Haahahahahahahaha! I know most will think that I must be crazy or I have smoked something really strong. Let's just be in love and enjoy life. Being in love with somebody, don't expect the person to love you back. Just shower him or her with love. Qrius: ...and--ideally--be saved! But if that's not your cup o tea, then the only other option is to disappoint God (et al..) by using His house as your own private pussy-paddock whilst carrying on,--shamelessly--as a vile, deceitful, deplorable, disingenuous, Janus-faced fuckboy... | Dating Chat Room 1 Person Chatting Similar Conversations |
