Men.....stop pecking for goodness sakes! - Dating advice by Lacey Laceysworld: INTRODUCTION ------------------------- This is a DO NOT guide for you men who throw bad body language. This is a common mistake guys make in the acquaintance stage with a girl. When you make this mistake you completely destroy the interaction you are having with the woman. I say, once more, this is a SHOW STOPPING mistake. PECKING --------------- I see this often. A guy will be at the bar talking to a girl beside him and lean forward by his hips then talk, then he'll lean back when he's done. When she speaks he'll lean forward again and lean back when she's done. He will look like a little rooster pecking back and forth. I see this all too often. People waiting for the bus, a guy buying junk at a convenience store and talking to the cashier. Laceysworld: Question to Lacey: "Yo Lacey, but I only do that because I can't hear her. I go to loud bars as well. I have to lean. ----------------------- It doesn't matter as much if you cannot hear what she is saying as opposed to the impression you are giving when you are pecking, you chickenhead. When you are in the initial stage of talking to a girl your body language is far more important than knowing what she screamed at you in the bar. The problem with you is that you think that male attraction is based on what comes out of your mouth. That is completely not true though. This is why if you know a girl well you'll notice that her past boyfriends range from nice & quiet to loud & obnoxious. Most attraction that shows up in a womans' mind is from the body language that a man gives out. It's a bar, you are not going to sweep a a girl off of her feet with a great deep conversation. Pecking is SO BAD. (Edited by Laceysworld) Laceysworld: Question to Lacey: "Lacey, Why is is wrong anyway?" ----------------------- When you lean forward to are basically throwing out body language signs that mean the following: -I'm trying really really hard to hear what they say -I'm going all of the way to make sure she hears what I say -I will do whatever it takes to make sure that she is listening to me -I'm not worth talking to as much as she is worth talking to me It is also noticeable unconsciously to everyone who looks in your direction. At the point where you have a girls full attention people around will automatically assume only "ONE" of the below: -She's with you -You are with her -She wants you -You want her When you peck you appear to everyone as the guy who is trying to get the girl as opposed to it being mutual or even her liking you. (Edited by Laceysworld) Laceysworld: Question to Lacey: "She's talking about her pink car. I love pink and want to hear?" ----------------------- Don't argue with me and do not peck. If you want to hear what she's saying than lean by being close to parallel which will angle your ear better for hearing. None of this foghorn leghorn business. (Edited by Laceysworld) Laceysworld: Question to Lacey: "Ok, I'm not pecking, Do you have a tip on how to help my chances on this topic as opposed to just not screwing it up?" ----------------------- If you are not pecking then the girls' brain will make her body do the pecking. Naturally, she'll try to catch more of the conversation. Now you got her pecking at you, every other girl who notices you and her talking will unconsciously think that "she likes you, you are dominant to a woman". This is also good for the girl too. See, the thing is attraction is not controlled as much as you think. Obviously this is just one out of thousands of skills you should know but it's a start. More importantly, the girl who you are talking to is attracted to you enough to be submissive to you in the conversation. (Edited by Laceysworld)  calybonos: So, you're saying don't be a pecker, be a peckee. Got it! Okay, let's say things are going well and she wants to go to my place. In order not to appear chauvinistic, in case she is the type that prefers not to be treated as an unequal, would now be the time to offer the suggestion that we should go in halfsies on an orgasm....or should I wait and see how she wants to handle the bar tab? Laceysworld: Well, on that pointless note you said, if you handle the bar tab you'll be orgasming from yourself alone. lol calybonos: I'm not very good at this, am I? I think I'm going to need a few more lessons. Would it be alright if I sit at the back of the classroom and take notes? Who knows? Maybe I can pick up enough that one of your fat friends might give me a shot.  And if nothing else, I can be an instructional aid as what not to do. calybonos: Nice diplomatic answer. You're a good friend. Seriously though, a girl like you always has a pilot fish or two swimming along side to gobble up the leftovers. Laceysworld: hahaha, I never heard that expression before. I may have to remember that and steal it. It's virtually impossible for me to be (real) friends with an overweight individual because most of my pass time includes various types of fitness. Volleyball, rollerblading, jogging, etc, etc. I would n't have time to get to befriend someone who isn't around that much.  Captain Canada: To peck or not to peck To listen or not to listen Loud or not loud To poke her or to poke her fat friends To confusing all this pecking thing Lacey can you please start from the beginning again  Metaverseguy: I've heard of that before. It's supposed to display confidence and dominance. Then you bash in the brains of the strongest and richest guy there with your club and bellow "I am Urgh. Me here for woman. Here me roar." then rip off your shit and give a mating call. If the woman desired does not oblige you can bash her over the head with your fist and drag her back to your cave by her hair. She might not like it at first, but after you show her some Mammoth meat, and the nice stone tools you've been making she will get butterflies in her stomach. Laceysworld: Fortran, douche guy. What I write is entirely to help people understand how the brain works psychologically as far as attraction goes. Take your "I hate all woman cause I'm lonely" talk to your mom. (Edited by Laceysworld) Metaverseguy: Dear laced up lacey, dance clubs are the worst place to meet people. they are like afterschool playgrounds for people that have no other option. the music sucks, it's too loud, too crowded, and everyone is drunk or high. these aren't ideal conditions to meet someone. besides, no one even knows how to dance. try doing salsa or something and you will get laughed at. Laceysworld: I agree. Dance clubs & bars are not a good place because it's hard to socialize from all of the loud music and distractions. It's too bad that most people do go out specifically to meet guys(even though they will not admit it). Don't worry though. You can watch guys peck at convenient stores, walking down the street, the donut shop, etc. Hell, I always go to this same store and it seems that every time there is a new guy leaning at the college student cashier over the table. It's sad. (Post deleted by Laceysworld ) (Post deleted by Laceysworld ) (Post deleted by Laceysworld )  Miah Nash: i agree with you dear Lacy on majority of points you discussed.nice conversation over all.  zocacyo1: Ok! I get the concept given here, to help guys succeed with the ladies. I believe to a degree this "mistake" is being made. Now the one thing I feel that is missing to help bring the two genders together in these situations (this is meant to help guys with the ladies right!?), is also to inform the ladies that we are making these "mistakes" and recognize this, and give us a pass, (to some degree), because we mean no harm and know not what we do. Something else I read here really caught my attention. I read here that it is near impossible for someone here to have any overweight friends, because of them going to gyms, running, or whatever. That statement seems more like a conscious and choosen decision, than it just happens to be that way. My point! Even "over weight" people do those same activities. In this world we are still so prejudice, we're still making these types of choices. Now that being said,... it is very possible that a person can put themselves and their regiment in such suclusion that, those chance meetings will be very minimal, to not possible. But really!? Near everyone will be around or know a few or more overweight people. [Grocery stores, Concerts, Friends of Family, Friends of Friends, Church, Clubs, Work,... even here Online.] If it is a personal choice, then to each is their own. But,... Of course, all written here by myself is of MOPO. I'm just saying! (Edited by zocacyo1) sexystal55: I couldn't read it all, but if I talk to anyone I am face to face, if it's a good looking lady, I intend to try and not look so into her, as I feel I am in the wrong. The leaning at a bar is probably cause he had to many shots and going to puke, so he leans back and takes it in and then leans forward to let the puke down his throat. Captain Canada: Yoh Lacey if you come on here preaching your pecking and poking be ready for feed back and don't delete folks opinions,that's childish foreplay and immature on your behalf ,If you can't that criticism shave your eyebrows
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