Once a cheat always a cheat... True or False? (Page 3)

faerieblood6: I feel if someone can validate that as okay to do, then there is always the chance they will do it again. Perhaps if they get counseling and can find out why they justified doing it to begin with, may help, but I think there is always that possibility if things are not going the way they want in the relationship, it may happen again.

My thought is, if you agree to a monogamous relationship, you have no right to be with another person and if you feel that you want to see other people, find someone who also wants an open relationship. You must be prepared to deal with your partner having others in their life too.

Shy2: Oftentimes people cheat because they have valid reasons, and relationships are always a two way street. Sometimes we only hear the man's side, what about the other side of the story? And i do agree that it's hard for people to change especially if they're already old .... like the saying "old habits are hard to break" ...

faerieblood6: Well, I'm not sure what is considered, "old" here in your reply. But I can say this...in my opinion, there are no valid reasons. If you are considering cheating on your partner, or you feel tempted to cheat, you have no business staying in the relationship. That goes both ways for males AND females. If the agreement is a monogamous relationship, then you need to stick to that until or unless the agreement changes. That means, if you have an understanding with your partner that you are going to have an open relationship and both of you are in agreement, go for it.

And another side of cheating, which is seldom mentioned here, is what about the consequences of having another partner. You can bring STDs home to your partner--which is totally unfair because that person was not given the chance to have a choice on that and what if someone gets pregnant--so that baby has to grow up in such chaotic situations.

The best rule of thumb, in my opinion, is end one relationship before getting into another or having flings or whatever.

faerieblood6: Also, someone who is hiding something from their spouse/partner, does so because they know the partner would not be okay with it. If a person is doing something that they would not want their partner also doing, that is a red flag right there. it shows no fairness, compassion for the partner, or empathy.

Shy2: I totally agree with you faerie ... im just voicing an opinion based on what I have seen with most of those people who have cheated. Once a cheater will always be a cheater, that's my whole point. Thanks

Nela6: I think that it definitely depends on the person.

jwkeisser: true

Cygnus X: If you drove someone to cheat, answer is not always.

If they cheated in past relationships, or started a new relationship founded on infidelity, answer is "most likely".

Swimbikerun: Met my current hubby in sharing a hotel room with my x was a lot of drama but married my current hubby we know our nature and say we have a open marriage it’s bpnever that simple

friendlyguy9: that sounds scary

Swimbikerun: It’s happened a lot in my triathlon group at out of town events

Blackshoes: Yes Like alcoholic they 're never going to be free from the desire However : many never drink again .
Yet : if everyone truly examined their own hearts? Everyone is a cheat ..

Swimbikerun: good thoughts blackshoes

refurbwoodart: There is no excuse to cheat. No bad relationship,no someone treats me bad,no you did this so ill do this. If a relationship is that bad get out and move on,cheating doesn't make it a better relationship. I think if you agree to have monogamy stick to it period,its called trust. If you dint have it you dont have a real relationship anyway. That not only applies to monogamy but people in open relationship as well. If your in an open relationship and hide having sex with someone else thats cheating to. Point blank if you have to sneek around to do it or can't do it in front of your mate its cheating.

refurbwoodart: Happens all the time

refurbwoodart: In a case like that its the woman's fault her problem. Only thing is if you have kids with her your kids suffer too.

sleepyeyes5: false, cheaters stop when their penis stops working

LoisS: False.....

mets900: 76 penis working , looking to boner new loves