Marrying Age

Mint Chip
Mint Chip: Hi, My name is Mint Chip! I'm a female, 20 years old, of middle eastern descent, living in the Bay Area. I wanted to know what everyone's opinion was of what the right age is to start considering marriage.

I bring this up because as a middle eastern girl, marriage is on my mind a lot. Not that i'm ready for it, it's just a certain subject my mind frequently ponders (im sure this is the case for women of all cultures, but i dont want to make any assumptions so i'll stick to what i know ). Women in my family have all been married around 18-25, though I've heard historically women have married as early as 14. I heard somewhere that a national study showed that women in America are usually married around 28. My sister is 29 and she feels a stigma for not being married. My brother's 28 and though he doesnt seem as desperate (sorry sis) he is a little anxious.

I suppose I'm asking a few different questions here: When do you think its a good age to get married (boys and girls)? What are the factors behind your decision? If youre not married. what age do you want to be? Does it even matter to you?


Thanks in advance for responding, and if youre looking to meet a morbidly obese math nerd, give me a shout
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hime_kawaii
hime_kawaii: I don't really feel there is or should be a set age to marry, in many cultures there is a lot of pressure if someone isn't yet married esp if it's the woman who isn't yet married by a certain age say 29? and there's also a stigma and pressure if one wouldn't have kids after some time being married. Most people don't really ask themselves a lot of questions for starters are they even able to remain married , faithful to one person for the rest of their lives? Do they really genuinely love the person? Or is it just pure intense infatuation mimicking pure love?

Marriage like any relationship is sacred to me, and a huge step which takes a great deal of maturity, it's not a step you take then stop at the first obstacle you encounter. Marriage isn't something which is a priority to everyone same as having a family. If one meets the love of their life it's amazing to be bound to that person forever, marriage can be a lot of work many married people say, and that's the sad reality, it shouldn't feel like a chore. Factors being a decision on marrying at a youngish age could be to have a family, if one plans to have one I think its best not to wait too long. Ultimately I believe that it's better not to be married than to be unhappily married... Cheaper too


Ps. who is the morbidly obese person your'e talking about? I don't see any, so shush... Silly xx
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Mint Chip
Mint Chip: Very true, absolutely on point. Many different things to consider when contemplating marriage. I guess I asked because it's been a recurring theme in my sister's life these past few years and since I'm always with her and we talk a lot i think about it too. It scares me.
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hydra333351
hydra333351: hello
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mmahmd883
mmahmd883: hi
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Steve02
Steve02: It is a matter of when , both of you are ready to commit to each other, but I think mid twenties would be about a good age.
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