Dating An Amputee Brad1986: Would you be ashamed to date someone who lost a limb, and maybe uses crutches or a wheelchair? Would you feel comfortable introducing them to your friends and family?  uglycow10: I see nothing wrong with it. It is your mind and your character that count, above all else. BY the way, someone said that you are gorgeous and I would like to "second that emotion" lol Don't change for anyone. People will just have to accept you as you are. Brad1986: Thank you so much for that great message😀. Your profile name certainly doesn't match your pics; You are absolutely gorgeous! Awesome toes too!! Don't mean to sound like a perv...lol.  jooly40: In my late teens, I dated a girl who lost an arm at her elbow and got scarred up by glass, in a horrific car wreck. She said guys avoided her like the plague, but I saw only her beauty. She was the sweetest, most caring and sensuous woman, I'd been with with, up to that time. I was in the Army, at the time and was transferred to Germany. The wait and distance was too long for me.....so, like the impatient anchorless kid I was, I let her get away., uglycow10: To Jooly: Did she at any point feel that it was a sympathy date? I ask because I know that some guys would do it just to be well-meaning, not realizing that they might actually be making the amputee feel really horrible. In the end, it is the heart, soul and mind which really count. jooly40: UC10 No, I knew her from work. She was a civilian employee on the military post where I was stationed, We used to eat lunch in the snack bar, at lunch, sometimes. It was usually crowded and we began sitting at the same table. Sometimes, she would be sitting alone, with the other tables full. People seemed to avoid her, except a lady she worked with was with her sometimes. After sitting with her the first time, I genuinely liked her and one Friday I asked her out. I was 19, she was 26) She was great, very bright and fun to be with. She was also very sensual and caring. Brad, I think anyone who actually got to know her would have liked her. I soon forgot about her scars and her missing arm. We used to get stares when we were going out....she's seemed not to notice. Maybe that was just her defense mechanism working, but she was naturally open and fun. I was young, immature. Got to Germany and the women over there were so different and sexually aggressive; I lost my head and quit writing the girl in the states. Typical hormone laden teenager! uglycow10: Men are very visual and tend to scope out the attractive chicks.... Usually, the amputee, older woman or not so attractive chick, don't stand a chance...even if they happen to be really nice. So, as a young guy I am surprised that you even gave her the time of day. ... But kudos to you, anyway Uglycow  calybonos: I dated a midget for about a year. Unfortunately she died in a tragic tennis accident. She ran off the ping pong table chasing one of my back handed returns. I still haven't gotten over the guilt. jooly40: Brad, Thanks......I'm initially a very superficial person. I was attracted to her, because she really was pretty, regardless of the scars and her figure was voluptuous and amazingly well proportioned. Some might have called her chubby, but she was the epitome of an "earth woman" as we used to say! However, on more than one occasion, I've lost interest in a person, because of an abrasive personality, lack of ability to communicate, or we simply didn't click. UC, I admit, as I said above, I was drawn to her because of her looks. But, the scars wasn't a factor, in fact, I thought they gave her a certain character that I liked. She was bright, witty, and funny, too. Before that first meeting was over, I knew she was special and worth getting to know....and she was. Let me ask you this...........if the word INTERRACIAL is offensive to you, what about your moniker? If you think of yourself as an "Ugly Cow", don't you think others might suspect that you had some serious self esteem issues? I'm sorry, I don't see an Ugly Cow, when I saw your profile. However, If I knew you well and discovered you had a sour disposition, was overly argumentative, disrespectful to others, etc, etc.......then, I'd no doubt would not want to be around you, but I wouldn't ever call you an ugly cow! A person's personality can make a less-than-beautiful person most desirable........ but, someone with a bad personality, even if they're a stone fox, would not be the least bit interesting to me! CALYBONOS, I'm not sure there's any hope for you, buddy! calybonos: Thanks for your concern, jooly, but as it turned out I am now in a deeply satisfying relationship with a double amputee epileptic who has no gag reflex and a substantial pension. So I guess it's true what they say - Never give up hope.There's someone out there for everyone. jooly40: I think I've got a clear picture of you now, Calybonos.........you're a used car salesman, right? calybonos: If I knew you were going to take a picture of me, I would've washed the mud off my nose and had my tail straightened for the occasion. If it wasn't already obvious, I like to give a good first impression.  WonderWoman1: I will never be ashamed..."loves conquers all"... I used to visit a friend whose mom got Lou Gehrig Disease...I helped my friend transferred her mom to a toilet..I even wipe her bottom...(this is the honest truth).. 3x day,I visited her ,helped my friend ..Her mom passed away, a year and a half ago...My friend is an EMT and graduated to be a Psychologist. ..Her Mom was depressed, took a lot of anti depressant and fell down the stairs..bleeds,got an operation and her spine got damaged and diagnosed with Lou Gehrig.. My friend decided to become Psychologist because of that..Depression runs rampant in the USA.A lot of suicide ,anti depressants,prescription drugs to ease pain... Psychologist, Psychiatrist, shrinks ,bunch of humanists..,prescriptions .I dont believe in this stuff... it separates your true nature ,for who really you are inside......the "Great".. Brad1986: Being a caregiver is the ultimate form of love WonderWoman. When my good leg was broken last summer, with a full cast on one leg and my other a stump, although I could still wipe my butt, I needed help getting on and off the toilet; And, pretty much everything else. Being and amputee in itself is humiliating and humbling enough but that was the ultimate. Could have gotten through it without my caregiver girl. WonderWoman1: Oh I know right?...Im not a caregiver,she had a nurse but she's very heavy,it needs 2 people @ least coz she's paralyzed. So,I helped my friend when the nurse left she only stayed 6 hours... Anyway,caregivers can make huge amount of money.A friend of ours makes 270$ day as a caregiver to an Alzheimer patient in Long Island.Ya,it's a form of love. I also had a friend who took care of Jack Greenberg.He died 2 months ago.Dean of Columbia University and defended Martin Luther King.I used to dropped off fresh "red snapper",salmon.so Jack and his family knew me.Google him...He is part of America's history....sad he was gone.. (Edited by WonderWoman1) uglycow10: Jooly "Uglycow", my profile name reeks of one with very low self-esteem, and I have had quite a few chatters worrying about my psychological well being.. I am straight up, very good in the self esteem department and a very laid back person. In school. I was one of those kids who wanted to be invisible and not be called on... neer thought that I was a s right as the other talkative kids.. Turned out that I was indeed brighter than some of them but they simply had confidence to speak in front of a crowd, whereas, I did not. MY profile name was given to me, courtesy of 5 brothers, and it is almost like one of my names. For short they call me, "Ugly" ...and yes, I respond to it. PS When I say that I don't like the word, "interracial", it is because I find it annoying that everyone; every situation has to ne neatly labeled and packaged so that people meeting you for the first time have already been "given" their opinion of you. Why can't Joe be the American guy, instead of the African American? Why can it not be that Joe and Suzy are in love, instead of being spoken of, as the interracial couple? Why does everyone have to be branded, so to speak? PPS.....note to Calybonos: You are the only one entitled to be branded! Coming to think of it, you just might say the same of me hahahha uglycow10: Brad: I am glad that you were able to find a kind caring person who did not destroy your dignity.... Kudos to all caregivers who put their heart and love into their work....and special kudos to you, Wonder.It should not ever be a job, but rather a labour of love. uglycow10: As Jooly says: "A person's personality can make a less-than-beautiful person most desirable........ but, someone with a bad personality, even if they're a stone fox, would not be the least bit interesting to me!" I agree with you 1000% ! People place so much emphasis on physical beauty, which at times can be quite fleeting. All that it takes is on accident and your so-called beauty can be gone forever....then what? Does it mean that those who loved you for that beauty will also gone? Chances are that the answer is, yes. I have actually seen it happen more than once. At the end of the day it is not worth it to entertain the company of people who cannot take the time to appreciate the essence of you; to appreciate your inner beauty, and to have some understanding of what it is that makes you...uniquely...YOU WonderWoman1: You know what Betty,you are such a good person,we had been friends for a long long time here...what really made you "stand out"....was your name...so I was like,...Im adding this woman..  I always browse on people here,... Anyway,when "mama"(friends mom,called her that) died....I looked @ my friend while her mom is being lowered down to the ground getting to get buried...I said... "Look ....your mom never brought anything with her..all the material things,she left behind...credit cards,cash,jewelries,car,house...she cant bring it with her...".....it's so peaceful coz her mom been suffering for 5 1/2 years..couldn't move..couldn't scratched herself...couldn't get out...she used to tell me."Maui,people in jail are a lot luckier than me because they can move....she used to asked me to read the scriptures and I did... ALS,Alzheimer, ...still have no cure...still in progress... (Edited by WonderWoman1) uglycow10: wonder: obama should have been allocating funds for projects such as finding a cure for Alzheimers and other dread diseases. Instead he invested in windmills which killed some of our Bald Eagles....and not a word from him. He is going along with that hoax/scam called global warming instead of doing something which would improve the lives of people right now. I am glad that mama had the comfort of the words in the scriptures. and that you agreed to read to her. It is time the the administration to focus on what is important to Americans. We dont vote them in so that they could work on their ppet projects and to hook up friends and relatives We know what's important to us and we simply need them to carry out our wishes. Hopefully Trump has heard us...but only time will tell .  souwaant2: My first gf was an amputee. I had no issue dating and being seen with her, her personality was larger than life, and after a few minutes people would see past the chair and accept her for her, the missing legs did not define her. Anyway, who cares what others think, if your happy with someone that’s all that matters. | Dating Chat Room 1 Person Chatting Similar Conversations |
....hope Trump keep his promises