Would you chat with someone of the opposite sex who is married/”separated”/live-in partner/ in a relationship?

Grace_Under_Pressure
Grace_Under_Pressure: Would you have a problem with your partner spending time online chatting w/someone of the opposite sex? Why?

If you had a sister/brother/daughter/son who has a partner who was doing this, would you feel confident that that partner is faithful to him/her?

I’m just trying to get participants to look at it from different angles before they answer. Thanks for your input.
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rollingstones21
rollingstones21: No I wouldn't have a problem with it
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ohnonotthatguy
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ohnonotthatguy
ohnonotthatguy: Nothing wrong with that.
Its not like they are having sex with the monitor to give a orgasm to their friend 5000 miles from nowhere
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chorizoIZbak
chorizoIZbak: I agree..just harmless flirt with be gratifying..yay
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katie8219
katie8219: I like meeting new people so I would'nt mind at all
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chorizoIZbak
chorizoIZbak: same here
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Tinner265
Tinner265: i dont have a problem with that so long as the conversations are appropriate..
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katie8219
katie8219: you so said it Tinner. I hate it when 2 minutes in a conversation he says " so what are you wearing".....i'm like jogging pants & a flannel shirt lol. it almost always gets rid of them
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Tinner265
Tinner265: haha.. yea i like to have fun and have a friendly conversation.. some people just arent outgoing in person and online they are very nice and can hold a conversation.. its all good..
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katie8219
katie8219: i have made many friends on here who are actually normal lol. i love meeting people who can actually be fun 2 talk 2!!!!!! i love having fun & making jokes so that's why i have the friends i do. it is all good like you said. the best thing i've done is talk 2 a guy 4 like 10 minutes listening 2 his BS then i'm like ........yeah I was born a male but i'm so happy you wana be with me ahahaha
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Grace_Under_Pressure
Grace_Under_Pressure: Thanks for your input.

This started with a number of people who were married/attached who would approach me. Every SINGLE one would start off with "friendly chat", then start flirting, which made me feel uneasy, then conversations went in a direction I was definitely not comfortable with, so I figured I would cut it off at the beginning from now on. One person in particular told me that he had a girlfriend who lives with him, having his baby, and has the audacity to tell me that she doesn't mind. Somebody has to be lying, or maybe they're just swingers. Either way, I only do duets, no trios allowed.

As for me, I wouldn't do it. I wouldn't flirt or have long conversations with a married or an attached man while his significant other was present, so why would I do it when she's not around? I want the person I am with to know that I am loyal to him whether he is in my presence or not; but that's me. Maybe, just maybe, if I stick to my values, I may attract and keep someone who has the same values I do.

I came across this article today that made me confirm my suspicions about the kind of person who would make a habit of this, and encouraged me to stay away, keep my distance from the get go:

http://www.theawl.com/2013/04/my-boyfriend-is-addicted-to-internet-sexy-time-and-wont-stop-lying-about-it

I'm not saying that everyone does this with this agenda, but I think it opens a door to someone else's heart, and eventually, some bumpy times ahead.

To each his own as they say, right?

Thanks again for sharing your thoughts, and feel free to keep the conversation going!
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rollingstones21
rollingstones21: Most of the ones that are looking to flirt and chat about sexual things are usually married anyways
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chorizoIZbak
chorizoIZbak: I don't like blondes..I like sheep though..they never say no..just baa baa
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oldmansilver
oldmansilver: Yes that is how you meet other people in the world. I do it all the time and it is greatif you don't like it then just move on. But if you would like to chat or flirt come find me would love it.
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katie8219
katie8219: Grace...... I have the same feelings. It's not the relationship part, but I do not continue a talk with someone if they 1st say " u up 4 fun " or 2 minutes in they ask what i'm wearing. It's a complete turn off in everyway. I actually have a married couple who are both friends of mine on here. They are always respectful & truly enjoy meeting ppl from all walks of life. I wish honesty would make a comeback
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chorizoIZbak
chorizoIZbak: it aint gonna happen..sugar..we are gonna need a new flood..according to Noah's ark. Flood out the bad..and bring out the good.
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Fog420
Fog420: I would, have
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chorizoIZbak
chorizoIZbak: maybe some women cant handle nice and friendly compliments.
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Fog420
Fog420: Thinks its because to many guys will say what ever they think will work.
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chorizoIZbak
chorizoIZbak: this will work-->will work for food
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Renaissance_Man
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chorizoIZbak
chorizoIZbak: this is gonna work--> I do like washing dishes..ok girls come and get me. LOL
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TwistedCharm
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chorizoIZbak
chorizoIZbak: ...manipulation is a powerful thing. Use it the wrong way..and its dangerous.
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proud2bebrown
proud2bebrown: I would not have a problem with it as long as they are committed in their present relationship,, fine w/ me. If they have problem, then I would not mind listening to them and I have been told that i am a great listener.
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